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Relationship Aglow Network, Ekpo Abasi, Calabar (2026)

01/01/2026

Happy New Year family! This is your year of unlimited and unstoppable breakthroughs.

25/12/2025

Merry Christmas 🌲✨
May the joy of Christ’s birth fill your heart with peace, your home with love, and your days with renewed hope. May this season remind you that light always overcomes darkness, and grace is always available. Wishing you laughter, warmth, answered prayers, and abundant blessings now and in the coming year. 🎄❤️

The Olayemis

24/12/2025

FOOD FOR TOUGHT

IS COHABITATION AGAINST CHRISTIAN ETHICS?

A Wake-Up Call to Christian Youth

Introduction

We live in a generation where culture is loud, social media is persuasive, and morality is constantly being redefined. One of the most normalized practices today especially among young people is cohabitation: a man and a woman living together as a couple without being married.

The secular world calls it modern, wise, and harmless.
But Christianity asks a deeper question: Does it honor God? Does it align with Kingdom values?
This teaching is not to condemn, but to bring clarity, truth, and direction to young believers navigating relationships in a confused world.

Cohabitation is when two unmarried people live together in an intimate or marriage-like relationship, often as a “test run” before marriage.

While society sees it as preparation, Scripture sees it as premature intimacy without covenant.

The world promotes cohabitation with attractive but misleading ideas:
1. “Try before you commit”
The world says you should test compatibility before marriage.
Truth:
Marriage is not sustained by testing, but by commitment, sacrifice, and covenant.

You don’t learn faithfulness by avoiding commitment.
“Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in Him; and He shall bring it to pass.” Psalm 37:5

2. “Everyone is doing it”
Culture pressures youth to normalize what God never approved.
Truth:
Christian ethics are not shaped by majority opinion but by God’s Word.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed…” – Romans 12:2

3. “It’s cheaper and practical”
Economic hardship is used to justify moral compromise.
Truth:
God never authorizes disobedience because of convenience.
What is cheap today can become costly tomorrow emotionally, spiritually, and even generationally.

4. “It doesn’t affect my faith”
Many believe cohabitation is a private matter.
Truth:
Every lifestyle choice affects your spiritual sensitivity, prayer life, and walk with God.
“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” – Amos 3:3

Christian ethics are rooted in holiness, covenant, and honor.

1. S*x and intimacy belong in covenant
In Christianity, intimacy is not casual-it is sacred.
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure.” – Hebrews 13:4
Cohabitation enjoys the benefits of marriage without the responsibility of covenant, which violates biblical order.

2. God values holiness, not experimentation
Christian ethics call believers to live set apart, not “almost like the world.”

“For this is the will of God, even your sanctification…” – 1 Thessalonians 4:3

3. Love without commitment leads to exploitation
When there is no covenant, there is no security.
Many young people are emotionally bonded, s*xually invested, and spiritually drained-yet legally and spiritually unprotected.

Christian ethics protect dignity, value, and purpose.

4. Marriage is a spiritual covenant, not a social arrangement
Cohabitation reduces marriage to convenience, but Christianity elevates it to a divine institution ordained by God.

“What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” – Matthew 19:6.

To the youth folks
Cohabitation often leads to:
1.Emotional trauma
2.Spiritual dryness
3.Loss of moral 4.boundaries
5.Difficulty trusting later
6.Delayed or broken marriages

Christian obedience, however, produces:
Peace of conscience

Strong spiritual identity

Healthy marriages

God’s favor and direction
Clear purpose and confidence.

Dear young believer, God is not trying to deny you joy-He is trying to protect your future.

Purity is not weakness.
Waiting is not foolishness.

Obedience is not outdated.

You are not called to blend in, but to stand out as light.

“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example…” – 1 Timothy 4:12

Summary
Yes-cohabitation is against Christian ethics, not because God is harsh, but because He is holy and loving.
The world offers convenience without covering.
God offers covenant with protection.
Choose wisdom over pressure.
Choose obedience over trends.
Choose God’s design over cultural noise.

Your future marriage and your walk with God will thank you.

Olayemis

17/12/2025

My Love, My Heartbeat, My Queen, My Angel, My Treasure, My Best Friend, My Sunshine, My Forever

Happy Birthday, my darling wife, My (IFE)

Today, I celebrate far more than the day you were born, I celebrate the gift of you in my life. You are the melody that brings peace to my chaos, the calm strength behind my dreams, and the gentle love that wraps our family in warmth every single day. Loving you has made me a better man, and walking this journey with you has been the greatest privilege of my life.

Thank you for accepting me exactly as I am-my strengths, my flaws, my growing seasons, and my uncertainties. You never demanded perfection; instead, you offered patience, understanding, and unconditional love. Your resilience amazes me. Even when life tested us, you stood firm with grace, faith, and courage, choosing unity over complaint and love over weariness.

I see your sacrifices-the silent ones no one applauds, the prayers you whisper for our family, the times you put us before yourself. You carry our home with dignity and nurture our family with a heart full of compassion. You are not just my wife; you are my partner, my confidant, my safe place, and my answered prayer.

As you add another beautiful year today, I want you to know this: you are deeply cherished, endlessly admired, and profoundly loved. My life is richer because of you, my future brighter because you walk beside me, and my heart complete because it belongs to you.

I FOREVER LOVE YOU @ UR "IFE"

09/12/2025

FOOD FOR THOUGHT
The Gift of Men

One of the greatest blessings God gives a person is the gift of men men who lift you, speak for you, defend you, open doors for you, and walk with you on the journey of destiny. No matter how anointed, talented, or gifted you are, you cannot rise alone. Destiny is relational. Every height you will ever reach will be because God sent a man.

Apostle Joshua Selman teaches that men are ladders, men are systems, and men are doors. When God wants to bless you, He does not drop miracles from the sky, He sends a man, an encourager, a destiny helper, a lifter. Likewise, when the devil wants to attack a destiny, he also uses men. This is why you must learn to discern the men sent into your life.

Some people are answers to your prayers, while some are tests on your journey. But there are men whose presence is a prophecy their coming into your life marks the beginning of a new season. Honor them, value them, and thank God for them.

Never take relationships for granted. The prayers you prayed yesterday may be answered by the men God brings today. Your rising is tied to the quality of relationships God sends your way. Protect them, appreciate them, and treat them as treasures.

Before you pray for opportunities, pray for the right men. Before you pray for lifting, pray for divine connections. One correct man in your life can do what ten years of labor cannot do.

“Your tomorrow is hidden in the men God sends to you today. Master the art of honor, discernment, and gratitude, for the gift of men is the gateway to destiny.”

© Dr. Mrs. Benita Olayemi

02/12/2025

*FOOD FOR TOUGHT*

15 WAYS TO AVOID PROBLEMS WITH YOUR IN-LAWS

1.Be close to your spouse. Both of you should agree on how to relate with your in-laws. In-law relationships are so delicate. You need wisdom to relate with them and have a blissful relationship with their son/daughter.

2.Don't visit your spouse's family without his/ her approval. He knows them more than you do. All the secret visit, gifts and bribe may backfire one day.

3.Relate with your in-laws the way your spouse advise you to relate with them. They understand their parents and siblings better. One woman lamented she advised her husband not to be too close to her siblings, he took her advise with a pinch of salt and got extremely close to her siblings, he died an untimely death shortly after. The woman claimed her siblings killed her husband so he won't inherit the property due to her that her deceased father left for her as the first born. Take to simple warning. If your partner warns you consistently against his family, be very careful. There is fire on the mountain!

4. Do not advise your spouse to be close to any family member they don't want to be close to. He or she knows what they are seeing or experiencing. They may not give you the details to save their family name. Get the hint and swallow your advice.

5. You and your spouse should be transparently honest with each other and act as one. Don't say A when your spouse is telling your in-laws B, always agree.

6. As a wife, respect your husband before his people. Don't call him names, shout at him and treat him like a slave in front of his people.

7. As a husband, show your wife love, respect and honour in front of your people, they will treat her the way you do. The way you present your wife is the way your people will address her.

8. Do not report each other to your in-laws, seek counsel from godly counsellors instead. Families are prone to take side with their son/daughter either in your presence or absence. Blood is thicker than water.

9. Agree on the amount of money to send to your parents monthly.

11. Respect, honour and have regard for your in-laws.

12. Encourage your spouse to help their people when the need arises but if they don't want to, please, don't push it, they have their reasons.

3. Take care of your spouse and children first before taking care of in-laws. Don't starve your children, go into debt, owe rents and school fees because you want to take care of your parents and siblings.

4. Respect your brothers and sisters-in -law.

15. Pray for wisdom on how to handle your in-laws.

You don't have to encounter problems and conflicts with your in-laws. As long as you walk in wisdom, you can enjoy heaven on earth in your marriage and have excellent relationships with your in-laws. Take note of the 15 rules, add yours and live in paradise forever.

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

29/11/2025

UNDERSTANDING YOUR WOMAN!!!

By Dr. Mrs. Becky Enenche

Many men make the mistake of wanting their wives/women to be like them, forgetting they were not created with the same raw materials. A man was formed from the dust but a woman was made from bone, hence we cannot behave or think alike.

An average woman wants to be teased, cared for and pampered. Even if she's h***y she still wants her man to ask her for s*x, this makes her feel like a woman.

Her frequent sickness is not her fault, it is the nature of her body. You must learn to live with this truth. In fact, she wants you to pity her and give her special care when she's sick. Stop getting angry anytime she complain to you about one pain or the other. Sometimes the pain may not be as much as she presents it but she loves to act that drama to get your attention. Her need for attention is really a function of nature and not because she wants to disturb you.

She wants a man who will listen to all her jagons and stories. Some of these stories may not be interesting but if you don't listen, another man will listen and steal her heart away from you. An average woman will willingly give her heart to a man who listens to her. Even if you don't have solution to her stories, share her pain and fear.

Did you find her behaving like a child? Yes, she is your first child. Even her godmother played childishness at the Garden of Eden - she played with the enemy and traded their estate to the devil. You will have peace if you see her as your first child.

Her tear is a way of communication, don't ignore it. Each drop of tear is a message. If you ignore her tears, they will metamorphose into bitterness, anger, nagging and emotional depression. If not well managed it could lead to witchcraft.

She doesn't want to share you with anyone. Her excessive jealousy is not a crime, it is because she loves you and wants to protect you. If you kill that zeal, you will never enjoy her love again. She will never trust you again. Appreciate her jealousy, make her proud and clear all her doubts. Don't accuse her of being over jealous.

Tell her you love her. Say good things about her. Even if it's flattering she doesn't mind. Talk about her dress, complement her hairstyle, appreciate her shape and shout about her sense of humor. Those sweet words bring out the best out of her.

She is a woman, she is not a man.
Peaceful home is my concern.

You Will not fail in marriage in Jesus name.

21/11/2025

This meeting was impactful and Educative with the Singles.
A special moment with the Olayemis @ SUCF-UYO Regional Conference Calabar "Marriage Seminar"

19/11/2025

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, OUR BELOVED BROTHER SIR MARTINS

The Relationship Aglow Network family rejoices with you on this special day! 🎉

We lift heartfelt prayers to God on your behalf, asking that this new year of your life be filled with laughter, peace, and unforgettable testimonies. May your heart overflow with joy and love, and may your deepest desires be fulfilled according to His perfect will. 🙏

You are a light, inspiring others with kindness, compassion, and generosity. We pray that your journey this year will be marked by purpose, passion, and fulfillment. 🌟

Let’s celebrate together! 🎂
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19/11/2025

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

Why You Must Not Miss God’s Will in Marriage
From Knowing the Will of God in Marriage by The Olayemis

Miriam was the kind of girl everyone admired brilliant, beautiful, deeply spiritual. She was the prayer secretary on campus, the girl who spent nights interceding for others while her own battles remained hidden in her chest.

Then she met Daniel.

He wasn’t the man God warned her about, he was the man God screamed about.
But she didn’t want to hear it.

The red flags were everywhere:

The unexplained anger

His jealousy

His mockery of her spiritual activities

The way he said, “Must you always pray?”

The way her peace slowly died… day by day.

But Miriam was in love.
She ignored the dreams.
Ignored the uneasy feeling.
Ignored the counsel.
Ignored God.

And she married him.

The wedding day was colourful.
But the marriage was dark.

The tears began early.
The insults came next.
Then the abuse.
Then the manipulation.
Then the painful silence from the God she ignored.

One night, broken, scared, and bleeding from the wounds she hid under long sleeves, she whispered:

“God… why am I here?”

And she heard the answer:
“You chose this, not Me.”

That sentence broke her more than the marriage ever did.

Today, Miriam tells her story with trembling lips:

“The greatest tragedy of my life was not the abuse…
It was missing the will of God when He was still speaking.”

Many people don’t lose destiny in one day…
They lose it one ignored warning at a time.

WHY YOU NEED THIS BOOK, NOW

There are mistakes you can make and recover.
But marrying outside God’s will is not one of them.

Some wounds heal.
Some tears dry.
Some losses can be restored.

But a wrong marriage?
It drains your strength…
It suffocates your purpose…
It poisons your peace…
It delays your destiny…
It can break the very voice of God in your life.

And the worst part?

By the time many people realize this,
it is already too late.

But it doesn’t have to be too late for you.

This is why The Olayemis wrote
“KNOWING THE WILL OF GOD IN MARRIAGE.”

Not as another Christian book…
But as a lamp for those at the edge of marital decisions,
and a warning bell to rescue anyone walking blindly into a lifetime of pain.

This is what you will get from the book:

How to discern God’s voice from your emotions

How to avoid the traps that have destroyed many destinies

How to know when God is saying NO

How to escape manipulative relationships

How to recognize divine signals early

How to position yourself spiritually for the right partner

How to avoid being another Miriam

Before you say “YES” to anyone…
Before you attend that proposal dinner…
Before you walk down the aisle…
Before you make the decision that will shape the next 50 years of your life…

GET THIS BOOK.
READ THIS BOOK.
SAVE YOUR DESTINY.

One book today can save you from
a lifetime of pain tomorrow.

GRAB YOUR COPY

15/11/2025

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

A Story That Will Stay With You…

Her name was Ada.
A soft-spoken, brilliant young woman with a heart completely sold out to God.
Everyone who knew her said the same thing:
“She is destined for greatness.”

Ada served God faithfully.
She led prayers on campus.
She encouraged others to wait on the Lord.
But her test came quietly… wrapped in a smile she couldn’t resist.

His name was Daniel.
Handsome, confident, always carrying a Bible.
He prayed loudly in fellowship.
He quoted Scriptures impressively.
He looked like everything Ada thought a godly man should be.

She felt something strong for him… and she assumed it must be God.

She didn’t pray.
She didn’t wait.
She didn’t ask.
Her emotions drowned the gentle warnings in her spirit.

“God cannot be against something this beautiful,” she told herself.

The first cracks appeared after the wedding.
Small, almost invisible.
He stopped joining family devotion.
He complained about her church activities.
He said she was “too spiritual.”

But Ada kept hoping marriage would change him.

Then came the real storm.
Daniel started coming home late.
He stopped praying completely.
He mocked her for fasting.
He began to cheat, boldly and without apology.

One night, when she confronted him respectfully, he shouted,
“Did I ever tell you I wanted a prayerful wife? If you don’t like this marriage, get out!”

Ada froze.
Her tears fell silently.
Her heart broke loudly.

But the worst pain wasn’t his words.
It was the realization that God had warned her, gently, quietly, repeatedly…
And she ignored Him.

She remembered the dream where she saw herself crying.
She remembered the scripture that kept coming:
“Be still.”
She remembered the lack of peace she pushed aside.

She remembered the elder who told her, “My dear, wait.”

But she didn’t wait.
She didn’t listen.
She followed her heart… and lost her future.

Now Ada wakes up beside a man who is physically present but emotionally distant.
She attends church alone.
She hides her bruises behind smiles.
She cries on her pillow every night.

And the words that haunt her the most are the ones she whispered to a friend:
“If I had known God’s will, I would never be here.”

Dear reader, pause and think.

How many Adas are suffering today because they rushed into love without asking God?
How many destinies have been reduced because someone ignored the still small voice?
How many tears could have been avoided if they had waited just a little longer?

Marriage can make you, or break you.
One wrong choice can silence your purpose, your peace, and your joy.

This is why you need “Knowing the Will of God in Marriage” by The Olayemis.
It will help you:
• Recognize God’s voice
• Discern emotions from divine signals
• Avoid counterfeits wrapped in spirituality
• Escape the traps that swallowed Ada
• Choose peace instead of pain
• Marry into destiny, not disaster

Don’t become the next sad story.
Don’t let emotions bury your future.
Get the knowledge now, before regret becomes your teacher.

📖 Get your copy of “Knowing the Will of God in Marriage” today.
Your tears are too precious.
Your destiny is too important.
Your future is too valuable.

12/11/2025

RELATIONSHIP AGLOW NETWORK
WITH THE OLAYEMI’S
PRESENT

THENE: HEALTH CONNECTION.

Health is not just a personal matter; it’s a spiritual partnership. To experience lasting wholeness, our spirit, soul, and body must align. That’s why you cannot afford to miss this life‑transforming Online Program.

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✅ Secrets to nurturing a healthy marriage through health‑focused unity.
✅ Practical steps to cultivate spiritual discipline for total wellness.

📅 *Date:* Sunday, 23rd November 2025
⏰ Time:* 8:00 PM
🎙️ *Guest Minister:( Evang Odu Godbe)
👥 *Hosts:* Apostle Dr. Joshua & Dr. (Mrs.) Benita Olayemi

This is more than a program, it’s a divine encounter for singles, engaged couples, and married partners who desire wholeness, vitality, and a deeper walk with God.

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