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Relationship Aglow Network, Ekpo Abasi, Calabar (2026)

24/03/2026

Dear Esteemed Ministerial Partner,

Grace and peace to you in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

We write to you with a deep sense of purpose and a burning passion for souls as we prepare for our Easter Retreat Program (ERP) 2026, themed “Jesus – The Way of Life.” This divine gathering will take place from March 3rd – 5th, 2026 in Calabar, Nigeria.

As part of this retreat, the Lord has laid it strongly on our hearts to carry out a One-Day Mission Outreach on Wednesday, March 4th, 2026 (Day 2) at 5:00 PM. This outreach is designed not only to preach the Gospel but to demonstrate the love of Christ in action by reaching out to the community through tangible acts of kindness.

🌍 Our Mission

We are committed to:

Reaching souls with the saving message of Jesus Christ

Extending hands of love through distribution of relief materials (in-kind support)

Ministering hope, healing, and restoration to individuals and families in the community

💰 Outreach Budget

To effectively carry out this mission, we have projected a budget of:

₦500,000 (Five Hundred Thousand Naira)
≈ $333 USD (estimated equivalent)

📊 Proposed Budget Breakdown

Food Items & Relief Materials (Rice, Garri, Oil, etc.) – ₦250,000

Clothing & Basic Needs Support – ₦80,000

Evangelism Materials (Tracts, Bibles, Follow-up materials) – ₦50,000

Logistics & Transportation – ₦60,000

Public Address System & Setup – ₦30,000

Miscellaneous / Contingency – ₦30,000

🤝 Why Your Support Matters

The Gospel is most powerful when it is both preached and demonstrated. This outreach is an opportunity to:

Win souls into the Kingdom

Show the compassion of Christ in practical ways

Impact lives that may never step into a church building

Partner in eternal rewards through kingdom advancement

Scripture reminds us:
"He who wins souls is wise" (Proverbs 11:30)

Your partnership—whether through financial support, materials, or prayers—will go a long way in making this mission a success. Together, we can bring light, hope

18/03/2026

Food for Thought

“Stop Calling It Love When God Didn’t Send It”

Not every open door is from God.
Some doors are tests of your discipline.

Just because they pray… doesn’t mean they are sent.
Just because they quote scripture… doesn’t mean they carry God’s heart.

Many people don’t fall into the wrong relationship because they are bad.
They fall because they are impatient.

You said you are waiting on God…
but your emotions are rushing ahead of His timing.

Truth you must accept:

God will not bless what He did not build.
And He will not sustain what you forced.

If you cannot hear God clearly when you are single,
you may ignore Him completely when you are in love.

Because feelings are loud…
but the voice of God is often gentle.

Ask yourself:

Is this relationship drawing me closer to God…
or making me compromise quietly?

Do I have peace… or just excitement?

Am I led by the Spirit… or by loneliness?

Loneliness has made many people call a distraction “destiny.”

Do not trade your calling for companionship.
Do not rush into what God has not confirmed.

It is better to be single and aligned with God…
than to be in a relationship and out of His will.

The right person will not compete with God for your heart…
they will lead you closer to Him.

Wait wisely. Pray deeply. Discern carefully.

© The Olayemis

10/03/2026

MEN, MARRY A WOMAN WHO CAN APOLOGISE.

Never you marry a woman who finds it very difficult to say sorry.

Listen dear men, Pride destroys homes, but humility builds them.

A woman who cannot admit wrong or say “I’m sorry” is a ticking time bomb in marriage. Look for a lady who takes responsibility for her actions, listens to feedback, and makes effort to change.

She won’t see your correction as an attack but as a tool for growth. Marry someone who values peace over ego, who knows reconciliation is more important than always being right.

Her heart will become a healing ground, not a battlefield. So please while searching for a wife, make sure she is someone who does not find it difficult to apologise.

page: Relationship AGLOW Network

12/02/2026

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

THE WEIGHT OF BEING A WOMAN

Lately, I have been deeply occupied with taking care of my children. In the simplicity of everyday motherhood, I encountered a powerful lesson.

Whenever I am with my baby girl, my baby boy, Adura, immediately comes close. The moment I attempt to carry the baby, he climbs onto my lap as well. I noticed that subtle spark of jealousy in him. It was amusing😅. I laughed and thought to myself, a boy child can be this jealous?

Yet beyond the laughter was a revelation.
What I was witnessing was not rivalry, but bonding, attachment, and emotional formation. And in that moment, I understood again that the home is the first nation, and the woman is its builder.

Women are home builders by divine design.
We nurture emotions, stabilize relationships, and create safe spaces where identities are formed. We are the support system to our husbands, caregivers to our children, and the unseen managers of life’s daily rhythms.

Family is demanding. It requires time, intentional presence, sacrifice, and sometimes the postponement of personal ambitions. There were seasons I desired to pursue studies and opportunities outside my country. The doors were there, but family responsibility narrowed my options. Not because capacity was absent, but because stewardship was required.

This is why I say to single women: build capacity early.
Learn. Grow. Acquire skills. Read widely. Pray deeply. Develop yourself intentionally. Family life is beautiful, but it will demand your time, focus, and energy. Capacity built before marriage sustains purpose within marriage.

Below is the meaning of WOMEN:

W — Womb of possibility: carrying life, vision, and future.
O — Order keepers: bringing structure and stability to homes.
M — Multipliers: expanding whatever is entrusted to us.
E — Economists: managing resources wisely and sustainably.
N — Nurturers of nations: shaping character before the world does.

I have learned this: a woman may pause her personal pursuits for a season, but she never stops building. Quietly, faithfully, intentionally, she builds nations, beginning from her home.

© Dr. Mrs. Benita Joshua

16/01/2026

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

Alignment vs Attraction,
Knowing the Difference

Attraction is powerful, but it is not prophetic.
It can draw you in quickly, make you feel alive, and convince you that something must be right simply because it feels good. But attraction speaks to the eyes and emotions, while alignment speaks to purpose and destiny.

Alignment is deeper than chemistry. It is the quiet agreement of values, faith, vision, and direction. Two people may be attracted to each other yet be walking in opposite spiritual directions. Attraction asks, “How do you make me feel?”
Alignment asks, “Where are we going, and can we get there together?”

Attraction can exist without God; alignment cannot.
You can be attracted to someone who weakens your prayer life, confuses your convictions, and pressures your boundaries. But alignment strengthens your walk with God, sharpens your obedience, and brings peace rather than anxiety.

Attraction is often loud and urgent. Alignment is calm and confirming.
Attraction rushes decisions; alignment is patient. Attraction focuses on the present pleasure; alignment considers the future responsibility.

Here is a truth many learn too late:
What you are attracted to can excite you, but only what you are aligned with can sustain you.

Before committing your heart, ask yourself:

Do we share the same spiritual values or just the same feelings?

Does this relationship push me toward God or pull me away from Him?

Are we aligned in purpose, or am I hoping love will fix the differences?

Attraction may open the door, but alignment determines whether the relationship will last.
Choose alignment over attraction, because destiny is too expensive to risk on feelings alone.

© The Olayemis

14/01/2026

Food for Thought

11 Attributes Men Should Not Ignore When Choosing a Wife

Marriage does not repair character; it reveals it. A man must choose wisely, not emotionally. Who you marry will either build your destiny or battle it. Love is important, but character is essential.
Below are 11 attributes a man should not overlook in a relationship

1. A Woman Without the Fear of God
When a woman lacks reverence for God, values become negotiable. The fear of God is the foundation of loyalty, humility, and wisdom in marriage.

2. Disrespectful and Dishonouring
A woman who constantly belittles, insults, or talks down on you will eventually drain your confidence. Respect is not optional; it is oxygen to a man.

3. Emotionally Unstable or Manipulative
Mood swings used as weapons, emotional blackmail, and constant drama will turn marriage into a battlefield rather than a home.

4. Unfaithful or Attention-Seeking
A woman who thrives on male attention, flirts excessively, or lacks boundaries will struggle with faithfulness. Marriage requires loyalty, not competition.

5. Lacks Compassion and Empathy
A woman who is cold, uncaring, or indifferent during your difficult seasons will leave you emotionally alone. Marriage demands partnership, not selfishness.

6. Lazy or Allergic to Responsibility
Marriage requires effort from both sides. A woman who avoids responsibility, growth, or contribution will turn partnership into pressure.

7. Financially Reckless
A woman who spends impulsively, lives above her means, or lacks financial discipline can destabilize a home, regardless of how much love exists.

8. Gossiping and Loose with Words
A woman who cannot guard her tongue will expose your weaknesses, secrets, and family matters. A wise wife protects her home with her words.

9. Controlling or Overbearing
Control masked as care will eventually suffocate leadership. Marriage thrives on mutual respect, not dominance.

10. Refuses Growth or Correction
A woman who cannot be corrected, advised, or taught will stagnate the marriage. Humility keeps love alive.

11. Visionless and Purpose-less
A woman without vision will struggle to support yours. Purpose aligns partnership and gives direction to the home.

© The Olayemis

13/01/2026

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

11 Attributes Young Ladies Should Not Marry or Ignore in a Relationship

Marriage is not sustained by love alone but by character, compassion, and responsibility. What you overlook in courtship often becomes your daily reality in marriage. Wisdom is knowing not just who to love, but who not to marry.

1. A Man Without the Fear of God
When a man does not fear God, he lacks moral restraint and spiritual direction. A man who does not honor God will eventually dishonor you.

2. A Man Who Is Not Caring, Especially During Pregnancy and Childbirth
A man who shows little concern for your health, pain, emotions, or well-being during vulnerable seasons is not ready for marriage. Pregnancy and childbirth reveal true character. If he is emotionally absent or careless, then you will suffer alone when support matters most. Marriage should not make motherhood lonely.

3. A Chronic Liar
Lies destroy trust. A man who lies easily will manipulate truth and emotions. Marriage cannot thrive where honesty is missing.

4. Violent or Abusive Tendencies
Abuse often starts with words, control, and intimidation before it becomes physical. Anger left unchecked becomes torment in marriage.

5. Irresponsible and Financially Reckless
Love without responsibility breeds hardship. A man who avoids accountability will transfer the burden to his wife.

6. Addicted to Po*******hy, Drugs, or Alcohol
Addiction enslaves the mind and destroys intimacy. A man bound by addiction cannot fully lead, love, or protect.

7. Disrespectful to Women, Especially His Mother
How a man treats his mother and other women reveals how he will treat his wife. Disrespect is a warning sign, not a joke.

8. Emotionally Immature
A man who avoids communication, correction, or growth lacks the emotional capacity required for marriage.

9. Manipulative or Controlling
Control disguised as love will eventually suffocate you. Love gives freedom; manipulation steals identity.

10. Unfaithful or Excessively Flirtatious
Faithfulness is not seasonal. What he cannot control before marriage will not change after marriage.

11. Visionless and Purposeless
A man without vision will drain a woman with vision. Purpose gives direction, stability, and growth in marriage.

Marry well!
© The Olayemis

09/01/2026

I prophesy to you: this is your year of blessings and supernatural takeover.
Every delay is turning into speed, every closed door is opening, and every limitation is breaking.
You will not struggle this year—you will walk in favor, increase, and divine takeover.
Receive it in Jesus’ name. Amen. 🔥🙏

01/01/2026

Happy New Year family! This is your year of unlimited and unstoppable breakthroughs.

25/12/2025

Merry Christmas 🌲✨
May the joy of Christ’s birth fill your heart with peace, your home with love, and your days with renewed hope. May this season remind you that light always overcomes darkness, and grace is always available. Wishing you laughter, warmth, answered prayers, and abundant blessings now and in the coming year. 🎄❤️

The Olayemis

24/12/2025

FOOD FOR TOUGHT

IS COHABITATION AGAINST CHRISTIAN ETHICS?

A Wake-Up Call to Christian Youth

Introduction

We live in a generation where culture is loud, social media is persuasive, and morality is constantly being redefined. One of the most normalized practices today especially among young people is cohabitation: a man and a woman living together as a couple without being married.

The secular world calls it modern, wise, and harmless.
But Christianity asks a deeper question: Does it honor God? Does it align with Kingdom values?
This teaching is not to condemn, but to bring clarity, truth, and direction to young believers navigating relationships in a confused world.

Cohabitation is when two unmarried people live together in an intimate or marriage-like relationship, often as a “test run” before marriage.

While society sees it as preparation, Scripture sees it as premature intimacy without covenant.

The world promotes cohabitation with attractive but misleading ideas:
1. “Try before you commit”
The world says you should test compatibility before marriage.
Truth:
Marriage is not sustained by testing, but by commitment, sacrifice, and covenant.

You don’t learn faithfulness by avoiding commitment.
“Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in Him; and He shall bring it to pass.” Psalm 37:5

2. “Everyone is doing it”
Culture pressures youth to normalize what God never approved.
Truth:
Christian ethics are not shaped by majority opinion but by God’s Word.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed…” – Romans 12:2

3. “It’s cheaper and practical”
Economic hardship is used to justify moral compromise.
Truth:
God never authorizes disobedience because of convenience.
What is cheap today can become costly tomorrow emotionally, spiritually, and even generationally.

4. “It doesn’t affect my faith”
Many believe cohabitation is a private matter.
Truth:
Every lifestyle choice affects your spiritual sensitivity, prayer life, and walk with God.
“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” – Amos 3:3

Christian ethics are rooted in holiness, covenant, and honor.

1. S*x and intimacy belong in covenant
In Christianity, intimacy is not casual-it is sacred.
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure.” – Hebrews 13:4
Cohabitation enjoys the benefits of marriage without the responsibility of covenant, which violates biblical order.

2. God values holiness, not experimentation
Christian ethics call believers to live set apart, not “almost like the world.”

“For this is the will of God, even your sanctification…” – 1 Thessalonians 4:3

3. Love without commitment leads to exploitation
When there is no covenant, there is no security.
Many young people are emotionally bonded, sexually invested, and spiritually drained-yet legally and spiritually unprotected.

Christian ethics protect dignity, value, and purpose.

4. Marriage is a spiritual covenant, not a social arrangement
Cohabitation reduces marriage to convenience, but Christianity elevates it to a divine institution ordained by God.

“What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” – Matthew 19:6.

To the youth folks
Cohabitation often leads to:
1.Emotional trauma
2.Spiritual dryness
3.Loss of moral 4.boundaries
5.Difficulty trusting later
6.Delayed or broken marriages

Christian obedience, however, produces:
Peace of conscience

Strong spiritual identity

Healthy marriages

God’s favor and direction
Clear purpose and confidence.

Dear young believer, God is not trying to deny you joy-He is trying to protect your future.

Purity is not weakness.
Waiting is not foolishness.

Obedience is not outdated.

You are not called to blend in, but to stand out as light.

“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example…” – 1 Timothy 4:12

Summary
Yes-cohabitation is against Christian ethics, not because God is harsh, but because He is holy and loving.
The world offers convenience without covering.
God offers covenant with protection.
Choose wisdom over pressure.
Choose obedience over trends.
Choose God’s design over cultural noise.

Your future marriage and your walk with God will thank you.

Olayemis

17/12/2025

My Love, My Heartbeat, My Queen, My Angel, My Treasure, My Best Friend, My Sunshine, My Forever

Happy Birthday, my darling wife, My (IFE)

Today, I celebrate far more than the day you were born, I celebrate the gift of you in my life. You are the melody that brings peace to my chaos, the calm strength behind my dreams, and the gentle love that wraps our family in warmth every single day. Loving you has made me a better man, and walking this journey with you has been the greatest privilege of my life.

Thank you for accepting me exactly as I am-my strengths, my flaws, my growing seasons, and my uncertainties. You never demanded perfection; instead, you offered patience, understanding, and unconditional love. Your resilience amazes me. Even when life tested us, you stood firm with grace, faith, and courage, choosing unity over complaint and love over weariness.

I see your sacrifices-the silent ones no one applauds, the prayers you whisper for our family, the times you put us before yourself. You carry our home with dignity and nurture our family with a heart full of compassion. You are not just my wife; you are my partner, my confidant, my safe place, and my answered prayer.

As you add another beautiful year today, I want you to know this: you are deeply cherished, endlessly admired, and profoundly loved. My life is richer because of you, my future brighter because you walk beside me, and my heart complete because it belongs to you.

I FOREVER LOVE YOU @ UR "IFE"

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