Johnsonnoah Verbal Health Care

25/01/2026

*The Painful Reality of Misplaced Investment and Priority that Yields in Old Age!!!*

I got married at the age of 30, three years after my NYSC service.

I met my wife at the NYSC camp.
She was beautiful, hardworking, and full of dreams.
Three years later, we became husband and wife.

I secured a banking job shortly after.
Life smiled at me.

I worked tirelessly.
I gave my wife and children the best life I could afford.
I sent my children to the best primary and secondary schools in Lagos.
Nothing was too expensive when it came to their education.

I paid school fees without complaints.
I sacrificed my comfort.
I used every bonus, every savings, every opportunity — for them.

Some of my children studied abroad.
Today, they are doing well.
One is a banker.
One is a surgeon.
One is a pilot.

They all live outside Nigeria now.

I was proud.
I thought I had succeeded as a father.

But I made one mistake…
A mistake I now live with every day.

I saved nothing for my old age.

I believed my children would be there for me.
After all, everything I had… I spent on them.

Today, I am 75 years old.

My banking job is gone.
My strength is gone.
My voice is weaker.
My legs shake when I walk.

I now live alone in the village.

When my wife fell s!ck, my children rushed home.
They took her abroad for treatment.
They promised they would come back for me.

That was years ago.

My wife is still there — living with them.
Cared for.
Surrounded by comfort.

And me?

I sit outside my mud house every evening, watching the sun set.
Sometimes I hold my phone, hoping it will ring.
Sometimes days pass… weeks pass… without a call.

When I get sick, they only send money for my treatment, without knowing what I want is attention.
When I’m hungry, I endure it quietly.
When the rain leaks through my roof, I shift my bed.

At night, I ask myself painful questions:

“Did I raise children… or did I raise strangers?”
“Was I wrong to believe love would remember me?”
“Why did I give everything and keep nothing?”

The truth hurts more than loneliness:

Children grow up.
Life moves on.
Promises fade.

Not because they are wicked —
but because everyone becomes busy with their own lives.

If you are a man reading this…

Please, love your children.
Train them well.
Give them education.

But do not forget yourself.

Save for your old age.
Prepare for tomorrow.
Do not put your entire future in anyone’s hands — not even your children’s.

Because love is sweet…
but old age is long.

And loneliness is louder when you have no strength left to cry

Delittle Boy

05/11/2024

24/10/2024

Tribalism Is Demean
Pa Adesanya is a 90 year old man lying on his sick bed in the hospital. He envisaged the end has come, he beckons to Rasaq his 60 year old son to come close that he had something to tell him and the following conversation ensued

Pa Adesanya: my son, I've seen the extent of hatred you have for the Igbos and I've also noticed that you despise them a lot

Rasaq: Baami they over do things o jare and this has made me develop hatred for them and I will use every opportunity to deal with them but sir let's leave their issue and concentrate on your recovery

Pa Adesanya: Rasaq my son, you must relate with every man as an individual not in consideration of tribe or ethnicity. I feel the end is near and need to reveal a long held secret to you

Rasaq: I don't think I can ever like the Igbos but baami what's the secret?

Pa Adesanya: 60 years ago while I was still working with the Railways in Enugu I had a friend and neighbor Mazi Okeke who was very close and good to me. Mazi Okeke and the wife died in a motor accident three months after they had a boy child and I couldn't help but adopt that little child as my own. Myself and your late mum took care of the boy like ours and ensured he lacked nothing. That child is you. You're really not an Adesanya but an Okeke and my friend Mazi Ignatius Okeke is your father. You're not Yoruba but Igbo.

Rasaq: Takes a deep long breath and walks out of the room.

Moral of story: Every one deserves to be judged and defined by the composition of his intellect and whatever he brings to bare in his social and communal relationships.
Will Rasaq who hated Igbos suddenly realize that he hated himself all the while? Tribe/Religion/Ethnic consciousness rests in the bosom of the unexposed.
Every tribe and people have the good, the bad and the ugly. Spread LOVE not HATE. You might not know who your love will SAVE nor who your hate will KILL.

*Johnsonnoah*

27/09/2024

SOME SOCIAL RULES THAT MAY HELP YOU:

1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to;

2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes.

3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner.

4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem;

5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public;

6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time;

7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative;

8. Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all;

9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you're;

10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.

11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately;

12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will;

13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next;

14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors' appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness;

15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect;

16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude;

17. Never give advice until you’re asked;

18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary;

19. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it;

20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech; and

21. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren.

22. After reading a good message try to say "Thanks for the message".

APPRECIATION remains the easiest way of getting what you don't have....

23/09/2024

Good day all,
please keep these phone numbers handy in this time of security uncertainty; they may become useful in helping ourselves and others:-

1). R**e:
08072732255

2). Violation of Girls and Women Helpline
08072732255

3). Child Abuse HelpLine
08085753932
08102678442

4). Adult Domestic Violence
08102678443
08057542266

5). Child Domestic Violence
08107572829
08131643208.

6). Nigerian Army Human Rights NAHR (If you are harassed by Army officials)
08160134303
08161507644

7). Rapid Response Squad
070-55350249
070-35068242
080-79279349

8). Ambulance:
112, 199

9). Depression/Suicide Prevention Lines:
08062106493
08092106493
09080217555
09034400009
08111909909
07013811143

10). Police Emergency Numbers:
01-4931260, 01-4978899

11). Inspector General of Police (IGP)
08059666666 (SMS only)

12). State Security Service SSS
08132222105–9

13). *DSS ANTI-KIDNAP HELP LINES*

08101272302
08025713190
08176878575
09058530351

14). Federal Road Safety Commission FRSC
122
07002255372

*P*s disseminate to families and share with other members of the public; let it go round!*
Remain Security 🔐🔐 Conscious.

19/09/2024

I remembered my hero as today marks it 5yrs (19th September 2019) he left us unwantedly to answer his Master's call.

My dad and my role model. An icon of intelligence. A wisdom donor, a very rare phenotype, a justice prototype, an epitome of love and righteousness, an embodiment of western and African histories, a culturist.

Your departure denatured my completion but behold, who am I, to give infliction to the will of God.

May your soul continue to rest in the kingdom of the Creator of universe. Amen.

29/08/2024

Ladies have you realized how USELESS you become once a man chop you? Have you realized how silent men become once they eat you?

You will be in his dm talking to yourself…hey how are you doing? How was work? Have you eaten? How is your mother doing? Bla bla bla and sometimes he doesn’t even respond or he will respond after hours and hours🤣 not that he hasn’t seen your message, he’s got his phone in his hand and he saw your message but he can’t respond because you have become USELESS and he doesn’t need you at that moment. All of a sudden he was good in the beginning, responding on time, calling you and all but once you give him the fruit from the garden of Eden he disappear like the snake that gave eve fruit 🍎

This must tell you something ladies, if you can’t be educated or if your education cannot give you value at least your private part must give you value “🍑” you must protect it and value it by all means to make sure it’s not easily accessible.

Men don’t respect women who can be accessed all the time infact they don’t even value women that can be eaten or chopped at any time. You must add value to yourself by making sure your 🍑is well taken care of and it’s not easily accessed.

Relationships are not hard to find but because you decide to reduce value and open your legs to anyone you reduce your value by not being marketable. A valuable woman is not the one with PHD, Degree or driving expensive cars but a valuable woman is the one who knows how to take care of her private part. I know a lot of women who are educated but very useless and they share their private part to anything that drives and give them money and that’s not value.

Protect your private parts because that’s where your value is!! All men need it, they need it 😀so you must make sure you realize that it has value.

How well you take care of your part determines how valuable you are.
DELITTLE BOY.

25/08/2024

Cheating is not only having s*x with another person who is not your wife/husband, it also includes:

1. Receiving money from a man without the knowledge of your husband.

2. Giving money to a woman without the knowledge of your wife.

3. Sharing s*x jokes with a person who is not your spouse.

4. Deleting messages which you dont want your spouse to read

5. Answering frequent calls at night from an opposite gender in the presence of your spouse.

6. Avoiding answering a call from someone when your spouse is around or stepping aside to answer that call.

7. Saving contacts of those other persons with different names so that your spouse fails to recognise.

8. Lying about your location to your spouse when you are with that other person or vice versa.

9. Having office husbands and wives.

10. Piling unresolved issues with your spouse is another highest type of cheating which will in turn ruin your body, soul and spirit.

16/08/2024

*She asked a question in a general Group on a WhatsApp platform*.
I responded to the question professionally.

She tagged my response and typed: *"you're an idiot"*

Upon thinking through her response, I calmly replied: *"Thanks so much. Now that you have pointed out my attention to this idiotic part of me, I'll surely work on it, God bless you my dear..."*

*And the whole platform shook. Over 118 people commented. They were so surprised by my calm response. Of course she was terribly bashed to the extent that she "left" the Group.*

*An hour later she called me to apologise* for how stupid she's been etc. I forgave her and we became friends.

Then I later ended up handling her premarital counselling sessions.

Two days ago, on my Birthday, she and her husband surprised me with a gift worth over $10,000. This was a year after she called me an idiot.

*Life Lessons from this experience:*

*1. MATURITY:* Your reaction to negative feedbacks or situations shows how mature you are.

*2. CHOICE:* You have the power of choice whenever anybody does or says anything offensive to you.

*3. SELF CONTROL:* If someone calls you anything negative and you lose yourself and begin to fight or shout or do anything terrible, you only prove them right.

*4. SILENCE IS GOLDEN:* It is better to keep quiet and let people think you're a fool, than to open your mouth to enable them confirm you're truly a fool.

*5. DISCERNMENT:* You cannot throw both the baby and the dirty water away from the bathing bowl because the baby had pooed in the bath water.

*6. POSITIVE POWER:* You have the power to win people through your maturity and composure and not through overly being more sanctimonious than the person.

*7. POSITIVE IMPACT:* Life is all about people. If I had responded to her negatively, I would have lost a friend forever.

*8. WISDOM:* There are people who are sent to you by God to help your journey in life to be worthwhile, your meeting point might be at a fighting point. Be wise, even when you're angry.

*9. HUMILITY:* She was humble enough to call and apologized.

*10. RECONCILIATION:* Maybe there's someone you need to reconcile with today, go ahead and do just that.

We can all get Better with Ourselves, with these 10 key lessons.

12/08/2024

GENTLEMEN.

The girl playing hard to get is busy giving another guy a huge green light and will certainly become very cheap for someone she loves.

The women rejecting you is simply doing that because they don't find you worthy of their love, time and attention.

The woman telling you no s*x, framing hard to pass under her skirt is happily opening her legs for another guy somewhere else to dickmatize her strongly.

The lady who is cost to you is cheap to someone else, It all boils down to PRIORITY AND HER FEELINGS FOR YOU.

A man must learn to accept this levels of disappointment and try to move on as fast as possible.

You ask her out twice and if she insist on her NO or she tries to keep you hanging on the friend zone, cut it off, zero your attention, delete her number, politely refuse to give her any favours, Ghost her and set course for another woman.

If she loves you, she will be cheap, trust me on this.

Women only appears costly, tough, rigid to the men they don't like.

On no account should you try to force a woman to accept your love, on no account should you try to use money or gifts or favours to win a woman's heart or try to buy her loyalty, it's the job of your charisma and values to do.

Keep your head on the game, have the abundance mindset.

Believe me women are every where, she's not the only one existing, don't live a close life, be expose, keep your options open and shoot sporadically.

No woman should ever posses the power or be the position of toiling with your feelings or taking advantage of your love for her manipulate you.

Always stay on guard.

Never beg a woman to be with you, if she say NO, accept your fate and move on.

Stay Putinized.

Johnsonnoah Verbal Health Care