08/05/2025
Mindsets That Helped Me Keep My Virginity
No judgment, please this is just my truth.
1. I didnโt want any man to say he has seen my nakedness.
Back in school, I used to hear boys say things like, โOmo, I don knack that one,โ and even when I started business, Iโd hear some guys talking openly about girls they had slept with.
One time, a girl kept calling a guy, and he said, โAbeg leave me jor, you no even sweet for bed.โ
Hearing these kinds of conversations made me decide I would never let any man have that kind of power or story to share about me.
2. I always wondered how people who have random s*x look at each other afterward.
I mean, una no dey shy? To me, it always seemed like an awkward, embarrassing moment.
I couldnโt imagine giving someone that kind of access to me and still having to face them later.
3. I didnโt want to get pregnant out of wedlock at least not by my own will.
Accidents happen, yes.
But I was determined not to willingly walk into a situation that could complicate my life or my future goals.
4. I didnโt want to have to explain my past to my husband.
The idea of sitting down one day to count or confess how many people I had slept with didnโt sit well with me.
I wanted peace of mind and fewer explanations.
5. I knew s*x isnโt just physical itโs spiritual.
I didnโt want to be spiritually entangled with people I wasnโt meant to be with.
S*x is deeper than just pleasure, and I didnโt want to carry unnecessary baggage into my future.
6. I wanted my parents to be proud of me.
Especially my mum. She married as a virgin, and I wanted to follow her footsteps.
It was something I held dearly, and I wanted to make her proud.
To the One Keeping Yourself and the One Who Wants to Start Again,
First of all, I see you. Whether youโre holding on to your values despite pressure, or youโre deciding to take a new path, I want you to know youโre doing something beautiful.
To the one keeping yourself:
You are not weird.
You are not outdated.
You are strong.
It takes courage to swim against the tide, to say โnoโ when everyone else says โyes,โ to protect what you value even when others donโt understand.
Keep standing.
Your decision is valid, your discipline is admirable, and your story is worth telling.
You are not alone.
To the one who wants to start again:
Youโre not too far gone. Your worth is not defined by your past.
Deciding to change is not weakness itโs growth. Itโs strength.
You can choose purity today, not because of guilt or shame, but because you now see differently.
You can reclaim your peace, your body, and your future.
God still honors your heart.
Donโt let anyone mock your journey.
Whether youโve always stayed true, or youโre finding your way back, youโre worthy of love, honor, and a future filled with purpose.
Your story is not over. Itโs just beginning.
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