Womenin4counselling

30/01/2026

What a nonsense man 🤣🤣🤣

24/01/2026

23/01/2026

Men in my community this is for you. If your man isn't here, send this to him too. Let him know you also want him to look good.

This needed to be said

20/01/2026

Silence in a wife is not peace, it is grief.
And God hears the tears that words can no longer carry.

She didn’t stop talking because she had nothing to say.
She stopped because she had said it too many times… and nothing changed.”
Option 2 (Emotional + relatable)
“When a wife goes quiet, it’s not peace.
It’s exhaustion, disappointment, and a heart slowly detaching.

When a wife goes quiet, it’s not peace.
It’s exhaustion, disappointment, and a heart slowly detaching.

19/01/2026

Matters of the heart can be draining and sensitive. Your decision in tackling issues of the heart can be controlled by your emotions. When having issues that involves the heart and feelings it can put you in a vulnerable state🤷🏽‍♀.

When it concerns "the matters of the heart", do not ignore or try to push it off. If not properly addressed, it will come up in every relationship you have, it affects you psychologically without you noticing it.

Then what do you do when you find yourself in issues of the heart?
Do not involve a third party(friends, relatives, colleagues), You speak to a counselor or therapist, don't carry it alone. Let someone help you with the right counsel.

Do not neglect things that concerns "the matters of the heart", invest in it. You can't even run a business when your heart is in turmoil👌🏼
Now work with me, let's help you get back your Bliss.

12/01/2026

✨ New Year. New Standard. New You. ✨
This year, I am committing to becoming the best marriage and mental well-being therapist I can be, not just in knowledge, but in impact, compassion, and results.

Because I’ve learned something powerful:
🧠 A healthy mind is the foundation of every healthy relationship.

You can’t pour love from an empty soul.
Healing is not a luxury, it’s a responsibility.

In this new year, I want you to choose you.
✅️Choose clarity over chaos.
✅️Choose growth over survival.
✅️Choose peace over patterns that keep hurting you.

Your mental well-being affects:
🔸️The kind of partner you become
🔸️The kind of love you accept
🔸️The kind of marriage you build
🔸️The kind of life you live

This year, we’re not ignoring red flags.
❌️We’re not normalizing emotional pain.
❌️We’re not staying silent about mental health.
✅️We’re healing.
✅️We’re learning.
✅️We’re becoming emotionally whole.

If you’re ready to do the inner work, rewrite unhealthy patterns, and build love from a healthy place, this year is for you.

Here’s to healing minds, healthy marriages, and intentional living. 🕊️✨

01/01/2026

Happy New Year, fam.
This year's theme is "Breaking New Ground and Water."
You don’t know what you're capable of doing until you try it.
This year, Do it, Attempt it, Pursue it, Face it. Don't look back on what other years brought. The only thing you need is a new mindset ✨️

Thank you for trusting me with your journey toward love, healing, emotional wholeness, and healthier relationships. Your willingness to grow, reflect, and choose better for yourself matters deeply.
This year, may you find clarity where there was confusion, peace where there was heaviness, courage to communicate honestly, and strength to build the kind of connections you deserve.
— Coach Chidimma

30/12/2025

See you in 2026 everyone 🎉🎆✨️
1 day to go💫

01/12/2025

I once counseled a woman who said,
“Coach, I do everything a wife does, but he still says he’s not ready for commitment.”

She cooked.
She prayed with him.
She encouraged him.
She moved in with him.
She picks up his laundry.
She calls his family to check on them.
She was loyal… to a man who gave her confusion in return.

You sef is all these not too much for a man who hasn't proposed yet🤷‍♀️ if you're the man would you remember to propose when you already had a wife?

And when I asked her “Why do you keep showing up like his wife when he’s showing up like a guest?”
She went silent.
Because deep down, she knew, she had been auditioning for a role he never intended to give her.

The truth is:
Too many women are in half-relationships doing full-time emotional labor.

You give him access to your peace, your body, your care, your loyalty,
while he gives you uncertainty, excuses, and “let’s see how it goes.”

That’s not love.
That’s convenience.

If he wants a wife’s benefits, he must bring a husband’s responsibility.
If he wants partnership, he must show commitment.
And if he only offers situationship energy,
you owe him nothing.

Stop giving wife energy to a man who hasn’t earned the position.
Let him meet you where you deserve to be or not at all.

27/11/2025

He warned her, don't do that o, guess she thought she's the baddie 🤣🤣🤣

25/11/2025

24/11/2025

I once sat across from a woman who whispered something most women are afraid to admit:

“Coach… I want to submit, but I don’t feel safe with him.”

She wasn’t rebellious.
She wasn’t stubborn.
She wasn’t trying to “be the man.”

She was simply tired.

Tired of carrying a relationship on her back.
Tired of being led by someone who had no direction.
Tired of being called “disrespectful” for asking for the bare minimum, consistency, effort, accountability.

So I asked her a question that changed everything:

“Has he earned the position he’s demanding?”

She went quiet.

Because submission is not magic.
It doesn’t appear just because a man says “I’m the head.”
Leadership isn’t a title, it’s a responsibility.

A woman naturally submits to a man who leads with integrity, not authority.
A man who listens, not controls.
A man who protects, not manipulates.
A man who provides stability, not excuses.

The truth is simple but uncomfortable:

Some men don’t deserve submissive women, because they haven’t earned leadership.

And no woman should feel guilty for refusing to shrink herself just to make a man look bigger.

A real leader doesn’t demand submission.
He inspires it.

Yes submission is the duty of a woman but you've to show leadership as a man.