Blissful Bond

19/10/2025

When Fatherhood Becomes a Choice and Motherhood Becomes a Burden

Too many single mothers are out here fighting silent battles.
Working multiple jobs. Skipping meals. Stretching themselves thin just to give their children a chance at a better life.

While too many fathers move freely,
living as if their responsibilities ended the moment the relationship did.

It is heartbreaking how motherhood becomes a lifelong duty,
while fatherhood becomes an occasional appearance for some.

These women are not asking for pity.
They are asking for partnership.
For accountability.
For fathers who show up ....not just pay up.

Because every child deserves two present parents,
not one exhausted mother trying to fill both roles.

She should not have to explain why dad is not around.
She should not have to smile through her pain just to keep her child’s world stable.
She should not have to bury her dreams so he can live his without interruption.

To every single mother holding it down ... your strength is sacred.
Your children see it.
They feel it.
And one day, they will thank you for being both the softness that comforted them and the strength that carried them.

And to the fathers who disappeared ... remember this:
Time cannot be refunded.
Money fades, but presence echoes through a child’s heart forever.
They may forget what you bought,
but they will never forget how you made them feel…
especially when you chose not to show up.

18/10/2025

```NOT EVERY CONNECTION IS COVENANT

Some people come into your life to teach you, not to stay with you.
Some were sent to help you grow, not to grow old with you.

A connection can be strong and still not be divine.
Chemistry is not always confirmation.
Familiarity is not always a sign of destiny.

Covenant is deeper. It carries alignment, purpose, and peace.
If you have to lose yourself to keep them, it is not covenant.
If the bond drains you more than it builds you, it is not covenant.

Discern who is attached to your season and who is assigned to your purpose.
Because not every connection deserves a lifetime commitment.
Hearthland_Oluwasegun
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18/10/2025

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18/10/2025

DON'T PRAY FOR A PARTNER ,PRAY FOR DISCERNMENT
Dear Blissful Bond .....Read this;
Many are praying for love, yet blind to deception.
Don’t pray for a partner, pray for discernment ...because peace is the proof of divine alignment.
Now ,don't misinterpret my words that prayer isn't GOOD.....Infact God's opinion is the surest plug...But many are asking God for a partner while lacking the wisdom to recognize divine alignment. Some of the people you call “answered prayers” today may become tomorrow’s biggest regrets. It is not everyone who comes with affection that was sent to love you. Some were sent to test your growth, expose your weakness, or remind you what you still need to heal from.

You can pray for a partner and still end up with someone who carries a sweet tongue but a bitter spirit. You can meet someone who fits your dreams but fights your peace. That is why discernment is more important than desire. It is the light that helps you see beyond charm, beauty, and words into the soul behind the smile.

Discernment helps you know who is for you and who is sent against your peace. It will show you when someone’s interest is curiosity, not commitment. It will remind you that attention is not the same as affection. When you lack discernment, you start mistaking chemistry for confirmation and emotions for instructions.

Sometimes the delay in your relationship journey is not punishment, it is protection. God waits until your eyes are trained to see clearly before He reveals who truly fits your destiny. Because without discernment, you will keep praying for partners you are not prepared to manage and embracing distractions that look like direction.

Discernment teaches you to ask the deeper questions not “Are they nice?” but “Are they aligned?” Not “Do they make me feel loved?” but “Do they help me grow?” It will help you discern energy, motive, and maturity before you invest emotions.

Before you seek a hand to hold, seek eyes that can see. Because love without discernment is an invitation to pain. Discernment will help you know when to let go, when to wait, and when to say yes with peace. It will save you from connections that feel right but drain your soul slowly.

So stop praying only for a partner. Pray for discernment to see through the crowd, to hear what is not said, and to sense when something that looks right is not divine. When you walk with discernment, you will not chase love; love will find you where clarity lives.

17/10/2025

Stop convincing who's not convinced...
If someone tells you whether through their words or through their actions that they don’t want you or don’t want to be in a relationship with you, don’t try to convince them otherwise. Leave immediately and don’t think about it twice.

Sometimes, we get so caught up in the idea of what could be that we ignore what is already clear before our eyes. When someone shows you they are not interested, they are not ready, or they are not choosing you, believe them. You don’t need to beg for what should flow naturally.

Even if you are convinced that God destined both of you to be together, remember this truth: God will never override another person’s will just to fulfill your desire. Free will is still a divine principle. He can bring two people together, but He will never force either of them to stay where their heart has refused to be.

If they tell you they don’t want you, leave them alone. Don’t chase, don’t argue, don’t over-explain yourself. Walk away with peace, dignity, and trust that if it’s truly meant to be, it will come back in the right time and in the right way with willingness and mutual desire.

But if not, then let it go and keep your heart open. Because the one who is meant for you will not make you feel like you’re hard to love.
They will choose you, freely, joyfully, and consistently.
Hearthland_Oluwasegun
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17/10/2025

THE SEASON OF ADJUSTMENT IN RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

Love is sweet until life starts asking questions your emotions can’t answer.
Every relationship passes through a season of adjustment ...when feelings fade and growth must take over.
This is where many lose what could have lasted, simply because they don’t understand what’s happening.

My eBook “BEFORE AND AFTER I DO” uncovers this hidden season....how to handle it with wisdom, patience, and emotional maturity.
Don’t give up where you’re meant to grow.

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17/10/2025

I’ve been through fire, but this is not my end.
It’s proof that broken things can still breathe again. 💭

17/10/2025

They thought it was over, but God said, “I’m not done yet. My story will not end.

17/10/2025

When Love Demands What Growth Can’t Sustain

Hmmmm....This is a voluminous topic or should I say a write up that consist different compartment...
And I've said this several to my mentees and client..... that Love is beautiful but love alone cannot hold two people together when growth is absent.
Many relationships start with passion but end in frustration because what the heart desires, the mind and character are not ready to sustain.

Sometimes we fall in love with someone’s potential, but love is not sustained by potential. It is sustained by growth, understanding, patience, and the willingness to evolve. When one person grows and the other remains the same, love begins to suffocate under the weight of imbalance.

There are seasons when love demands more than emotions can provide. It demands maturity, discipline, self awareness, and emotional intelligence. It demands communication without pride, forgiveness without record keeping, and patience without conditions. When love demands what growth cannot sustain, cracks begin to appear.

You can love someone deeply and still not be compatible because love is not enough to replace the work that growth brings. Love without growth is like planting a seed and refusing to water it. It may start beautifully, but it will eventually die of neglect.

Sometimes God separates people not because there is no love, but because there is no growth. Love must evolve with the individuals involved. The same love that started with excitement must learn to walk through silence, misunderstanding, and change. Growth is what gives love strength to endure.

You can be loyal and still not be ready. You can be caring and still not be mature. You can be emotionally attached and still lack the capacity to sustain the weight of real love. That is why some relationships collapse under the pressure of reality.

So before you pray for love, pray for growth. Pray for a heart that is healed, a mind that is teachable, and a spirit that understands timing. Because love that comes before growth will always demand more than you can give.

Do not be angry when something ends. Sometimes it is grace in disguise. Sometimes God allows disconnection so that you can grow into the version of yourself that can handle real love.

True love is not just about feelings. It is about two people who choose to grow together. Growth sustains what emotions started. Growth matures what attraction ignited. And growth builds what time alone cannot destroy.

When love demands what growth cannot sustain, do not fight to hold on. Learn, grow, heal, and become. Because one day, love will meet you again in the version of you that can finally sustain it.

16/10/2025

Niceness will not change someone who has made up their mind to remain chaotic and toxic.

You can love them deeply, be patient, kind, prayerful, and full of good intentions but if they are not ready to change, your niceness becomes emotional labour that leads to exhaustion.

Some people are not confused; they are committed to their dysfunction. They thrive on the chaos they create because it gives them a sense of control. They are not looking for peace, they are looking for someone to pour their unhealed pain on.

That’s why you must understand: being nice without boundaries is not healing; it’s self-abandonment.
It’s okay to be kind, but it’s not okay to let kindness turn you into a doormat.

If your goodness doesn’t come with boundaries, it becomes an open invitation for people to misuse you.

Love people, but also guard your peace.
Be kind, but also be wise.
Because genuine kindness is not weakness, it’s strength that knows when to say, ‘enough.

16/10/2025

Don’t hide your light and call it humility — the world can’t celebrate what it can’t see. 💡

16/10/2025

Don’t Marry Potential, Marry Reality

Listen.......We shouldn't deceive ourselves....As human, in relationships...Most people saw the red flags and called it faith. They ignored reality and called it love.
Here is the truth no one knows....
So many people walk into relationships with their eyes closed but their imagination wide open. They do not fall in love with a person; they fall in love with a version of who they think that person will become. They ignore the truth standing right in front of them because the fantasy feels safer than the facts.

Potential is beautiful, but it is not enough.
Potential without character is deception.
Potential without discipline is destruction.
Potential without growth is only a promise that may never come to pass.

Many hearts are broken not because love failed, but because they married potential and ignored reality. You saw laziness, but you said he will change. You noticed inconsistency, but you said she just needs time. You saw emotional immaturity, but you said they only need someone to believe in them.

But listen, love does not fix people who refuse to grow. Faith does not mean blindness. Hope does not mean ignorance. And marriage is not a rehabilitation center for unprepared souls.

The truth is that you cannot build a peaceful future on a person’s potential. You build it on their present character, their current discipline, their visible values, and the reality of who they are today when no one is watching.

Stop confusing patience with denial. Stop waiting for a miracle in someone who has no desire to change. Stop trying to turn a temporary connection into a lifelong covenant.

The one meant for you will not need to be pushed to grow. They will already be evolving because purpose has become their lifestyle. They will not make promises to become better. They will already be showing fruits of growth and maturity.

Marry reality, not fantasy. Marry the one whose consistency speaks louder than their words. Marry the one whose daily choices align with the kind of future you pray for. Because what you ignore while dating will confront you in marriage.

Do not marry potential, marry reality. Because real love is not about what could be, it is about what it is .