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04/11/2020

I Can’t Get My Wife In The Mood For S*x! What To Do?

Over and over husbands call me up and tell me, “I cannot get my wife in the mood for s*x. I regularly give her the touches that the experts say should work but it just doesn’t work with her. At this point, I am starting to believe that I made a huge mistake and married a completely non-s*xual woman.”

Well, let’s have a closer look at what these guys are talking about and what is going on.

Some years back, scientists discovered that females have a hormone called oxytocin that is primarily involved in two female reproductive functions: childbirth and breast-feeding.

With regard to breast-feeding, scientists found that after a woman gives birth, a baby’s nuzzling on her ni**le stimulates and releases the oxytocin hormone into her body which in turn results in milk coming in.

As scientists continued their research, they found that touching a woman in general can raise her oxytocin levels…and that when her oxytocin levels are elevated, she feels a higher sense of being loved and connected.

Eventually, marriage counselors found out about this discovery and they started telling husbands that if they would touch or hug their wife for 30 seconds it would raise her oxytocin levels…which would in turn help her feel more loved and connected…which by extension would help her feel more in the mood for s*x.

That brings us to today. At this point, most husband have heard about this “touch your wife into the mood” seduction strategy…and they really believe in this strategy because it is backed by science…and anything backed by science is usually appealing to the typical logic-oriented male mind that wants a reliable method for getting a job done.

Consequently, there are husbands everywhere who are aggressively working to raise their wife’s oxytocin levels by constantly IMPOSING a 30 second hug or touch onto her…in hopes that she will start to feel more in the mood for s*x.

Some of these guys are giving their wife so many touches and hugs…trying to get a positive result…i.e. s*x…that they are nearly wearing off their wife’s exposed skin cells faster than she can grow them.

Unfortunately for most of these husbands, their touches do not work. No matter how hard they work at giving their wife little 30 second touches and hugs, they are rarely ever able to get her in the mood for s*x.

Or if it does work, it is obvious that the wife isn’t really into having s*x.

So, why isn’t this touch-strategy working for men?

What is the problem?

Well, here is what these husbands do not understand: oxytocin levels will only increase when a woman has a neutral or positive mindset towards the person touching her. In contrast, when a woman has a negative mindset towards the person giving her a touch, her body works in reverse…that is, her body LOWERS its oxytocin levels…and she feels MORE UN-loved and DIS-connected.

Now, guess what?

The typical wife has a negative mindset towards her husband…which is precisely why when he is trying to touch her into the mood for s*x, it is common for her to blow up on him for “bothering” her and for “always wanting s*x”.

On one side of the relationship, the husband is operating from the premise of, “I want to get my wife in the mood for s*x…and for that to happen, I need to raise her oxytocin levels…and scientists say that a 30-second hug or touch will raise her oxytocin levels…so here I come wife…I’m going to give you (IMPOSE UPON YOU) a 30-second hug so I can get you to give me what I want from you.”

On the other side of the relationship, the wife is thinking and feeling, “Get away from me husband! I don’t want your touch. I don’t want to get into the mood to be s*xual with you. And, I don’t want you trying to get me in the mood for s*x with you.”

Now, why is there such a difference between the husband and the wife?

Well, here is what I can assure you of: the problem is NOT that the wife is non-s*xual.

The problem is NOT that the wife does not want s*x…because she definitely does.

The problem is that no normal woman wants to be touched by a male that she is not attracted to…even if that male is her husband.

A wife can want…and even demand…the security and provision that her husband offers. A wife can want…and even expect…her husband to buy things for her and do things for her. But independent of these wants, demands, and expectations…if a wife is not attracted to to her husband because of how he thinks, behaves, and operates, then she will rarely want him touching her and she will rarely be willing to be s*xual with him.

On the husband’s side…because he is still attracted to his wife…because he still desires her s*xually…and because she still tells him that she loves him…it never occurs to him that she is NOT attracted to him…so not-attracted in fact, that she has lost most of her willingness and desire to be s*xual with him.

So, what should a husband do?

How does he fix his situation?

Well, the solution is NOT to get rid of his wife and find himself another woman…because things won’t work out any better for him with the next woman either. It won’t work out for him because any woman he is with will eventually end up responding to HIM in more or less the same way.

Moreover, the solution is NOT to try to touch his wife even more than he has in the past. Doing more of what is already not working…doing more of what is already creating a bad situation…is not going to make the relationship any better.

The solution is two-fold:

A husband must get out of the frame of mind, “How do I get my wife in the mood for s*x?” When a husband is unattractive to his wife, this frame of mind will only cause his wife to move even farther away from him and to close herself off to him even more.
The husband must get into the mode of, “What do I need to LEARN and CHANGE within myself…so that I become attractive enough to my wife that she resumes wanting to be s*xual with me?” Dr Hon kingRock

25/04/2019

Who will you believe again

21/11/2018

It can be God alone all this year's

03/05/2018

So davido early April said he will release d biggest hit in Africa by month end.
Thus he released d song "assurance". Weeks time, his girlfriend birthday came up. He celebrated her and bought her a 45million naira Porsche car and customized the plate number ASSURANCE. Soon, davido, his girlfriend and assurance began to trend the whole SM.

Few days later, he released the video of ASSURANCE with his girlfriend Chioma featuring!!
Now everybody wants to see d video and hear the song davido sang and dedicated to his girlfriend Chioma!!

So, business wise, davido invested to promote that song. But the funny and wise point there is that he actually invested the money on his girlfriend, which in the real sense, to himself and his music still selling faster!!



U girls be shouting "assurance fall on u", assurance this, assurance that. Assurance is someone's smart biz promotion strategy!!

Keep kwayet dia!!!

17/04/2018

About three phones have gone missing in our
room in the past five months. When we
reported to the School's security, they only
told us that it
was a roommate that is responsible.
Everyone of us in the room was waiting for the day we will catch the culprit. Last
Tuesday, when we were all asleep; I think it
was about 2 am, Ben woke up suddenly and
his phone was gone. His phone was the
most expensive of us all. When Ben woke up
and couldn't find his phone, he sprang up from the bed and
quickly opened his
cupboard. He rummaged the contents, even
removed his clothes but could still
not find the phone.
I was in the room when it happened; sitting and reading before I dozed off with my
heading resting on my books. So when Ben
couldn't find his
phone, he gently
shook my shoulders until I woke up.
'It has happened again', he told me. I didn't even need to ask what happened as I
could see the panic and loss written
in his eyes.
This is the second time his phone had been
stolen. So I took my phone and dialed Ben's
number; just to be sure it had not been misplaced. 'Error in Connection' was what I
saw on the screen of my phone. I dialed it
again and it started
ringing not just on
my phone, but the actual ring tone of Ben's
Samsung phone was faintly audible. We were both surprised when we
heard the tone.
I beckoned on Ben to keep quiet as
he was visibly
ready to 'finish' the person who took
his phone. I continued dialing as we moved silently, following
the direction of the ring tone.
There were four bunks in the room, each
with two bed spaces. Ben and I use the same
bunk just beside the door and the sound was
coming from the last bunk at the extreme left corner.
We tiptoed, Ben and I, like Jack Baeur until
we
traced the sound to the top bed space on the
last bunk.
'So it is John who had been stealing phones in this room'. Ben whispered to me.
We shook his leg and woke him up only to
find out it was not John sleeping on the
mattress. Neither of us had ever seen the
guy
before. To make matters worse, the ringing was coming
from the bag he was using as pillow.
When he woke up, he looked at us
strangely as if
he didn't know why we were there.
We opened the bag and found not just Ben's
Samsung, but three other phones.
'So, you are the one who's been
stealing our
phones!'; Ben shouted at him.
Before he could find an excuse, Ben slapped him
on his left cheek and walked out
looking for
anything to break one or two of the
guy's bones.
I don't know; but there was something about the
guy. So I asked him,
'Oga, what are you doing here?'
'What are you doing with Ben's
phone'.
He was just looking at me without saying
anything, so I slapped his right
cheek with my left
hand.
'ANSWER ME!', I screamed at him;
waking up the roommates who were around.
John had obviously gone to night
class to read
and I assumed the other three
roommates who
were absent had also gone to read. The two guys remaining in the room
with me and
Ben came and gave their own round
of slaps.
The accused was now staggering
when Ben came back with a long wood hard enough
to kill the
guy.
As he raised it up, the three of us,
the
roommates, held his hands so he wouldn't
murder the accused.
Ben dropped the wood and swept
his right leg
against the thief's legs and he fell
down. Ben had told me before that he had
attended the
Soldiers' recruitment training but
failed the
medical test. I believed him right
then. I looked at the guy crumple on the
floor and
before Ben killed him, I decided to
interview him,
at least to know who he is.
He was now sitting on the ground where he
landed from Ben's force.
'Who are you?'
I asked him again; this time gently.
He was crying but it was only the
tears that were coming out.
It was then I realized he had not
even uttered a
word since it all started. Not even
when he fell to
the ground. 'Why are you in our room'? I asked
again.
'Can you even talk?'
He shook his head then.
I was now confused. Why was he
shaking his head?
So, I asked again,
'Can't you talk?'
He shook his head again.
'Wait, is it that this guy is dumb?', I
asked the guys.
The guy then nodded his head and
pointed to his
mouth and then shook his head left
to right.
It hit me then. The guy is dumb but not deaf. That
was the first
time I am seeing a case like that.
My anger changed to pity
immediately.
'Are you dumb?', I ashamedly asked the guy to
confirm.
Again, he nodded his head.
'Can you read and write?'
He nodded again.
'Get me a pen and note!' I said to my roommates
over my shoulder.
I collected the pen and wrote on the
note,
'Who are you? Explain yourself.'
I was almost in tears as I read his fine
handwriting,
'My name is James, I am John's elder
brother. I
am a student of Delta State
University. I was traveling to Delta but our bus
stopped for the
night at Benin. So I decided to sleep
with my
brother till tomorrow morning. He
brought me here around 12 am and went out to
night class to
read. He gave me the bag to keep
for him. So I
decided to use it as pillow so that it
won't be stolen'.
I held the note with the guys at my
back as all of
us read it.
I became so weak I almost fell.�
'The guy is innocent.' I needlessly announced.
When we realized this, even I was
ashamed of
myself.
Ben just stood there with the wood
he almost used to hit him, looking as if he was
the one who
had been beaten.
I am not sure, but I think I saw
tears in his eyes
as he realized he had just punished an innocent
man.
So we knelt down; Ben and I, we
knelt down and
clasped our hands so he will know
we were really sorry.
With tears in our eyes, we told him,
'We are sorry. Sorry for accusing you
wrongly and
beating you for it'.
The dumb guy just smiled with bleeding lips from
the blow I gave him. He smiled and
looked into
our eyes. And I could see pity in his
eyes.
He smiled and shook his head and then wrote in
the same paper.
'It is Alright. I took the pain
willingly. Please
don't beat my brother anymore. I
knew why you were beating me. John had always
been a thief,
right from home. But please don't
report or beat
him again'.
Tears dropped from my eyes as I read his
sacrifice. He deliberately allowed us
beat him just
so that John will be free.
I lend my hand and raised him up
as I used my cloth to wipe the tears from his face
and blood
from his lips.
It was then my own tears flowed
from the corner of my eyes...

This is what Jesus did for us on the cross of calvary.

He kept
quiet and even died so that we can be saved.

He never protested his innocence but bore it all for us.

He gave his life for you. What have you given
for him?

Someone shared with me, don't forget to also share.

**JESUS SAVES*
**JESUS LOVES*

16/04/2018

Breaking Someone's Trust..

Love doesn't hurt. It may sting sometimes but if it hurts, its because you have given your trust to the wrong person.

Trust is like a mirror, once is broken you will always see the cracks...

Don't blame yourself for trusting them; shame on them for taking advantage of it...

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU HAVE GIVEN YOUR TRUST TO THE WRONG PERSON?

√ The person will never notice the sorrow behind your smile..

√ The Person will not notice the Love behind your anger..

√ The person will not notice the reason behind your silence.

TO AVOID BREAKING YOUR TRUST...

√ Never act desperate; let the person who knows your worth go after your heart.

√ Never allow " love" to be one sided in your relationship...

√ Do not accept everything, some actions depends explanation.

√ Be wise and smart enough to love when one have proven his intention.

Trust is a gift don't try to exchange it for something else.

11/04/2018

*2018 THE GOLDEN RULES*

1. *Respect 3 People*
*. Teachers
*. Parents
*. Elderly

2. *Keep 3 things in you*
*. Honesty
*. Faith
*. Good Deeds

3. *Be Free from 3 things*
*. Arrogance
*. Cheating
*. Debts

4. *Control 3 things*
*. Tongue
*. Anger
*. Appetite

5. *Reject 3 things*
*. Bad deeds
*. Backbiting
*. Jealousy

6. *Obtain 3 things*
*. Knowledge
*. Understanding
*. Wisdom

7. *Build on 3 things*
*. Good counsel
*. Good Manners
*. Godliness with contentment

8. *Keep 3 things pure*
*. Body
*. Clothes
*. Thoughts

9. *Remember 3 things*
*. Death
*. Hell
*. Heaven

10. *Protect 3 things*
*. Family
*. Future
*. Friends

11. *Work on 3 things*
*. Vision
*. Trust
*. Faith

12. *Run away from 3 things*
*. Sin
*. Pride
*. Bad association

13. *Love 3 People*
*. God
*. Yourself
*. Others

25/03/2018

A man wanted to travel to his
village and
told
his pastor. His pastor told him to
becareful
of what his uncle will give him to eat.
He went to his village safe when
he got to
his
village he was welcomed and they
all went inside. The nxt day they told him
to come
outside so they will talk about the
family,
when
he came outside they gave him food to eat
he
has forgotten what his pastor told
him as he
wanted to put the food inside his
mouth a mad man interrupted him. The mad
came and
took
the food and start eating few
seconds the mad
man started vomiting then died he now
remember what his pastor told
him. That
was how his enemy plan failed and
his
enemy where exposed. So i declare any
plan of the
enemy in your life shall be exposed
in Jesus name.
Happy weekend to you all

22/03/2018

Chris-Oyakhilome1
Most problems in marriages today started when individual men started forming churches and making their wife head of marriage counseling, and their wife started propagating funny doctrines with the support of their husband (the Pastor) claiming that husband and wife are equal.

Husband and wife are equal in the whites’ court marriage were either party can walk away once they are tired by going back to court and get divorce papers. But it is not same with Bible and Quaran.
Read Pastor Chris Oyakhilome’s position:

Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master. The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They believe they are equal partners. If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they will be very successful in their marriage and they will be very happy people. Most women have never been taught by their parents, their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another woman.


In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because he’s the head of that union, its important to understand him. You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are married to and his needs.When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority. The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) so when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are not functioning correctly.

Why did God make the woman?Making woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good”. God made woman because of man so woman was not His original idea. This is reality.Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not good for a man to be alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”. There is a big difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will make him an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special advisor or someone to tell him what to do.I will make him someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to help man achieve that responsibility.

If this is understood in every home then you won’t have problems.I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar, you need the Word Seminar.

Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had one.Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of an older sister. A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a rebellious wife).
To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the world, just take your role. Take your place. That place that God gave you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of love. It’s a place of excellence. Every wise person listens to wise voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented wisely. Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to make a fool out of him. When you want to correct your husband, don’t lord it over him,present it as a wise suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart. A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the foolish one will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry and when you make him angry, you will be the victim.

Learn to listen to your husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because that is where your beauty is.Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates. You wonder why you are dressing and he can’t see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair style. Beauty is in obedience.

07/03/2018

I ASKED HER TO PAY FOR HER FRIEND- DID I DO WRONG?!

I recently met this girl and we went out on a date and it went very well. So on Sunday I made plans for d both of us and I called her to notify her....she said she was at her Friend's place that she'ld buzz me when coming......I asked her if she was coming with her friend and she said she's not sure her friend will like to come because she was expecting someone.

When she finally showed up, she came to the meeting point with her friend......this just didn't sit right with me cos she didn't notify me earlier that her friend was coming with her......so I got refreshments, but I didn't get for her friend. I also bought food for just the two of us.....so she started acting up and complaining about ma actions, so I told her that I made reservation for just the two of us.....that she can share her own with her friend, if she wishes or better still order her friend...

But she just opened her drink and left after a while. she didn't even stay up to 20mins, as she left angrily....... Its not like I don't have d money to entertain her friend, but i was offended that she didn't tell me.....now I have been trying to reach her since Sunday after she left,but she's not picking my calls or replying ma chats.....I am already feeling like I did something wrong.....please did I do anything bad?

07/03/2018

This guy kidnapped this innocent cute baby of three weeks old. As soon as the mother left the baby in the sitting room and went into there bedroom to get something, this criminal who has been monitoring the babies mother quickly went into the house wrapped the poor baby in a cloth and went off with a bike man who already is watching and waiting outside. Unfortunately for them, as soon as the woman came out and noticed that the baby was missing quickly raised alarm and got everyone alerted who in mass swiftly responded to an area stop and search team at every junction and in and out of that area, as God almighty would still be God, the Okada developed fault while they were trying to escape through another street far from the babies home, suddenly the sleeping baby raised alarm by crying at the top of his voice which got everyone alerted. Hhhhhm, na waoo, what if God did not perform this miracle???. What would have become of this child???, Everyone should please watch and hold tight there children, the world is turning into something else. Men and women wanting to become rich over night. God will help usooo!!.

04/03/2018

{dangerous rain episode 1} the story begin with a man name ben.he has live for 40 years without child.the name of his wife is nkuru.the son of king is wicked boy who follow women.one day as the prince was passing he saw ada going to the farm.then he follow her.when he got there he said{prince}ada the only beutiful madin of our kingdom.{ada}my prince what do u want from me?how many times have i tell u not to be following me around.please just leave me alone. {then she walk away} {guards}how dare u walk away when the prince did not order u.my prince let me teach lesson that she will never forget in her life.{prince}no let her go.ada you can go.but the battle still continue.{then she went to the farmer why the prince walk away too}{ben and is wife going to the farm}then there saw the prince coming.there down on their kneel and greet the prince. {prince}ha masi ben where are u going?{ben}my prince am going to the farm.{prince}to do what?{ben}my prince what kind of question is that? to be continue.episode 2 soon out ...? By nxt week????

27/02/2018

ADVISE NEEDED NO ABUSE, IF I SEE ANY INSULT YOU WILL BE REMOVED STRAIGHT AWAY.

Dear sir,
My Husband always demand for A**l s*x. Although I never enjoyed it, I always allow Him so that He will not go out. My Friend said thousands of Girls out there will give it to Him, considering His good looks, and Money. I decided to play along just to have a Happy relationship with Him. Since 2 was my tummy has been paining me. I noticed that I had pile last week. The problem now is that there is this clear water coming out of my A**s. It stinks badly so I have to wash my yansh constantly. It is very embarrassing. People at close range notice the smell is from me. I have to insert cotton wool which is not helpful. I get wet often. I have not been to my shop this past week because the water coming out of my A**s is getting much and soaking my cloth. The smell is worse. Since all this started happening, my husband has refused to make Love with me. He said I Smell bad. In short He avoid coming close to me. When I try to get close, I can tell from His face that He can’t stand my smell. The embarrassment and inconvenience of having cotton wool inside my butt is too much. I can not continue like this. I am even ashamed to go to the Doctor. I smell like rotten egg. Please is there any traditional cure for my predicament ? Please help me post t to the group. I need help before I do something bad to myself.

Dear ma, I have spoken to most of you ladies, in harshness, in mildly tunes, in friendly way, in husband, language but non of you listens to advise just because you don't pay money to get my advise.
When a mad refused to ask for you sweet va**na, which has 8000 nerves to stretch wide during er****on and fold back after usage, and he starts asking for your a**s which has on 300 folds then he is abusing you.

Do you also know that a**s has the highest bacteria. As for treatment we will handle it and you will be OK again, just relax your mind daughter of Zion OK