12/06/2024
Dear Sister,
I am sorry for what you experienced; it's okay to make a mistake and rise above it! thank God for mercy....
if you want to do this right then work with God this time around!
Do not date a man you intend to marry carnally, remove s*x from your relationship and see how long it last! a lot of failed Marriages started from the wrong foundation in courtship/dating....
The only Reason you did not see the RedFlags in that relationship is because you were having s*x, and it beclouded your judgement of character. which is what the devil wants......
There are no wrong people in life but there are Partners that are not compactible, but the s*x won't let you see this until it gets to divorce and two people are left broken and damaged.
you can't truly go for something you are not well prepared for!
you want to get married but have never read a book on marriage non attended any coaching classes or seminar on the said topic!
The only preparation the devil wants you to focus on is money and that's why we have a lot of millionaires ending their marriages after so many years of pain and heart aches on both parties!
Sister, if you want to marry a God-fearing man, you need to be one yourself! where is your prayer altar?
Can you manage a home? if not how can you learn this before marriage?
can you resolve conflict without calling the whole world into your affairs?
Are you eating healthy?
can you forgive and let go of hurt easily?
can you say you are sorry and never bring it up again when you are not wrong, but you want peace in your home?
Can you be a good team player with your spouse to bring up your kids in a Godly way?
Can you handle your future baby weight issues when it comes up?
are you teachable?
can you leave your parents and focus on marriage?
No true champion prepares for battle on the day of battle....
your preparation starts as a single!
what are you doing with your single life?
How do you picture your home to be?
what are the things you are both willing to let go!
Can you build trust and never break it?
can you both build an altar of prayer and allow your kids watch you pray there for the rest of your lives!
How will you handle you finance?
Are you ready to support each other's vision in life?
Can you both protect your marriage from bad friends?
Do you both hear from God, cos you will be needing that a lot in your marriage.
Before you complain about not been married, ask yourself these questions and be accountable for the progress you have made so far...only then are you ready. God has released your spouses since, but He is waiting for you to be Ready....
so, I ask again, ARE YOU READY FOR MARRIAGE?
It's your girl