Marriage Discovery INT'L

01/12/2025

HAPPY NEW MONTH.
MAY GOD GO AHEAD OF YOU AND MAKE EVERY CROOKED PATH STRAIGHT IN JESUS NAME. AMEN

27/11/2025

WHAT LOVE MADE ME DO:

The Hidden Mistakes Singles Make in the Name of Love

Love is a beautiful thing.
But sometimes, the strong feelings we call “love” are not real love.
They are emotions mixed with fear, excitement, loneliness, and imagination.

Many singles think they are in love, but what they feel is not love; it is blindness—they cannot see the truth clearly.

The real question is:

What has love pushed you to do—good or bad?

Let’sexamine this question,"

1. LOVE MADE ME IGNORE RED FLAGS

A “red flag” means a warning sign—something that shows the relationship is not safe or healthy.

Many singles saw the warning signs but pretended everything was okay.

They noticed things like:

Lies

Bad character

Anger issues

Disrespect

Manipulation

Irresponsibility

Yet they said things like:

“He will change.”

“She will behave better later.”

But pretending not to see a problem does not remove the problem.

“Red flags are not decorations; they are warnings.”

If love is making you ignore what God is showing you, then it is not love anymore—it is self-deception.

2. LOVE MADE ME LOWER MY STANDARDS

Some singles changed their values because they were afraid the person they loved would leave.

They gave up important things like:

Their purity (sexual boundaries)

Their rules

Their plans for the future

Their respect and dignity

Their spiritual life

They did all this just to “keep the relationship.”

“Any love that makes you lose yourself is far too expensive.”

When love makes you behave like a slave and lose who you are, it is not real love.

3. LOVE MADE ME GIVE WHAT I SHOULD NEVER HAVE GIVEN

Some singles gave too much to the wrong person—someone who was just using them, not valuing them.

They gave away:

Their heart

Their body

Their time

Their money

Their secrets

After giving so much, they ended up with:

Pain

Regret

Shame

“Never give permanent gifts to temporary people.”

Don’t treat a boyfriend/girlfriend like a husband/wife.
If the relationship is not committed or serious, don’t give everything you have.

4. LOVE MADE ME STAY WHERE I SHOULD HAVE RUN

Some singles remained in bad relationships not because they were strong, but because they were scared of being alone.

They stayed even though:

The relationship was toxic

The relationship was stressful

There was constant drama

Their peace was gone

Pain began to feel normal.

“Staying where God is pulling you out of is not loyalty—it is self-destruction.”

Sometimes the best way to love yourself is to walk away.

5. LOVE MADE ME BELIEVE LIES

Some people believed sweet words that were not true:

“I will marry you.”

“I love only you.”

“Don’t leave, I just need more time.”

These words sounded nice, but they were lies.
Many singles stayed because they trusted promises that were never real.

“When you fall in love without wisdom, you fall for anything.”

Real love helps you see clearly.
Fake love makes you blind.

6. LOVE MADE ME LOSE FOCUS (LIKE SAMSON)

In the Bible, Samson lost his purpose because of his relationship with Delilah.

Many singles today do the same.

They forget:

Their goals

Their dreams

Their commitments

Their growth

Their discipline

Their relationship with God

All because they are trying to keep a relationship alive.

“Any relationship that kills your purpose is an attack dressed as love.”

Real love pushes you closer to God and destiny.
Fake love pulls you away.

THE AWAKENING (THE WAKE-UP MOMENT)

There comes a time when you must sit down, be honest, and say to yourself:

“This thing I called love was not love.
It was emotional deception.”

Because:

Real love builds you.

Fake love breaks you.

Real love brings peace.

Fake love brings stress.

Real love adds clarity.

Fake love brings confusion.

“Real love won’t cost you your mind, your peace, or your destiny.”

MAKE THE WISE CHOICE

If you’ve made mistakes, don’t condemn yourself.

Instead:

Learn from it

Heal from it

Grow from it

Stand again

Now choose relationships built on:

Wisdom

Clarity

Purpose

Respect

God’s guidance

Above all, let God lead your heart.

“Your destiny is too bright to be dimmed by fake love.”

24/11/2025

GREAT MOMENT WE HAD YESTERDAY AT MARRIAGE DISCOVERY PROGRAM OF NOVEMBER.
TO GOD BE ALL THE GLORY

23/11/2025

22/11/2025

“Marriage does not succeed by authority; it succeeds by responsibility. You don’t lead a spouse by force—you lead by example.”
— Jecil Onyirionwu Eziako

“Before you enter a marriage, investigate the foundation. Love is beautiful, but a faulty foundation will frustrate even the most sincere love.”
— Jecil Onyirionwu Eziako

“Communication is not a luxury in marriage; it is the oxygen that keeps understanding alive. Say your mind; don’t expect your partner to guess it.”
— Jecil Onyirionwu Eziako

“No partner is a magician. If you do not clearly express your needs, you silently create battles your spouse cannot fight.”
— Jecil Onyirionwu Eziako

“A marriage thrives when both partners intentionally invest in it—emotionally, spiritually, and sacrificially. Nothing grows where nothing is planted.”
— Jecil Onyirionwu Eziako

15/11/2025

STOP DATING WALK-PASS...

Why many people get hurt in relationships they were never meant to enter

Today, relationships move too fast. People meet online, chat for a few days, talk late at night, send pictures, and quickly say, “We are in love.”
But many times, this is not real love. It is only a quick, passing connection.

A walk-pass single is someone who was supposed to enter your life for a short moment:
• to teach you something,
• to test your character,
• to help you know what you want,
• or to show you what you must never accept again.

But instead of letting them pass, many singles hold on to them, start dating them, and then end up in tears.

It is like someone asking you for directions on the road, and instead of answering them, you force them to follow you home.
That is what many singles do—they date people who were never meant to stay.

1. Walk-Pass singles Are Temporary, Not Meant for Marriage

Some people come into your life for only a short time.
They are not meant to stay forever.
They are not meant to be your husband or wife.
They do not have the character for commitment.

They are temporary people—
but many singles treat them like permanent partners.

They were meant to walk pass
but you turned them into a boyfriend or girlfriend.

They were meant for a short talk,
but you turned it into a relationship.

The Bible says in Proverbs 4:23:
“Guard your heart carefully, because your life flows from it.”

If you don’t protect your heart, a passer-by will sit in a place only your God-sent partner should sit.

2. Walk-Pass Singles Don't Have the Grace to Stay

Someone who is not meant to stay will always show clear signs:

You are the one always calling
You are the one always apologizing
You are the one always explaining
You are the one forcing the relationship to work
You feel something is wrong, but you ignore it

They do not have the strength, maturity, or commitment to go into marriage with you.

You cannot force loyalty from someone who entered your life by mistake.

3. Dating a Walk-pass Single Causes Emotional Pain

Most heartbreaks do not come from wicked people.
They come from our own wrong expectations.

We expect too much from someone who was never meant to carry our heart.

When you date a walk-pass single:

• You invest in what God did not send
• You expect faithfulness from someone who never agreed to be serious
• You think about a future with someone who has no future plan for you
• You experience breakups God never planned for you
• You waste time trying to fix what cannot work

People get hurt not because they loved wrongly, but because they discerned wrongly.

4. Your True Partner Is Not Found in a Rush

A destiny partner comes with purpose, timing, maturity, and intention.

A walk-pass single comes quickly and leaves quickly.

A destiny partner may take time, but they stay long.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 says,
“There is a time for everything.”

When you rush into relationships, you end up with people who are only passing through.

5. Learn to Discern Emotionally

Not everyone who likes you is meant for you.
Not everyone who gives you attention deserves your heart.

Some people are distractions.
Some are temptations.
Some are lessons.
Some are warnings.
Only one person is your spouse.

Before you say “yes,” ask:

Is this person consistent?

Is he/she responsible?

Does he/she fear God?

Do they think about the future?

Are they ready for a relationship, or just lonely?

Did they come with purpose, or by accident?

Discernment will save your heart.

6. Don’t Mistake Chemistry for Commitment

Many singles enter relationships because of:
• attraction
• excitement
• long chats
• attention
• emotional feelings

Chemistry makes you happy for a moment.
But commitment makes you stable for a lifetime.

Feeling something does not mean you should start something.

Attraction is not direction.
Attention is not commitment.
Feelings are not confirmation.

Emotions are not instructions.

7. Allow People to Pass—Don’t Hold What God Has Not Endorsed

Maturity is not only knowing who to keep—
maturity is also knowing who to release.

When someone enters your life:

• Pay attention
• Watch them
• Study them
• Ask God questions
• Check their purpose
• Check their intentions

If things do not align,
let them go.

You do not need to date everyone who likes you.
You do not need to accept every proposal.
You do not need to build relationships because you feel lonely.

Some people were sent for a moment,
not for marriage.

Conclusion: Not Everyone Is Meant for You

Your heart is precious.
Your future is important.
Your destiny is heavy.

Do not give all these to a passer-by.

STOP DATING WALK-PASS

Some people are meant to walk with you for a short time, not to marry you.

Let God guide your relationships.
Let wisdom direct your decisions.
Let discernment protect your heart.

And when the right person comes,
you will know—because they will not walk pass, they will walk with you.

22/10/2025

ATTITUDE THAT TAKES MARRIAGE TO THE DESIRED ALTITUDE - Jecil Onyirionwu Eziako

Every marriage can become great, peaceful, and full of joy — but it does not happen by chance.
Just like an airplane rises higher depending on its attitude (the position it takes in the air), a marriage also rises or falls because of the attitude of the husband and wife.

Your attitude means how you think, talk, and behave toward your partner.
Good attitudes lift a marriage higher, while bad attitudes bring it down.

The Bible says in Philippians 2:5,

“Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus.”

This means that couples should think and act like Christ — with love, patience, and humility.

1. The Attitude of Honor

Honor means showing respect and value to your husband or wife.
When you honor your spouse, you treat them kindly, you speak to them politely, and you never look down on them.

When respect disappears from a marriage, peace begins to die. But when couples honor each other, love grows stronger.

“Give respect to whom respect is due.” – Romans 13:7

“Respect is one of the clearest ways to show love.” – Miguel Ruiz

When you respect your partner, your marriage will keep rising.

2. The Attitude of Gratitude

Gratitude means always saying thank you — even for small things.
Many marriages lose happiness because one or both partners forget to appreciate each other.

When you thank your spouse for their efforts, you make them feel seen, valued, and encouraged to do more.
“In everything, give thanks.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:18

“A thankful heart brings joy to the home.”

A grateful husband or wife creates a peaceful home.

3. The Attitude of Cooperation

Marriage is not a competition; it is teamwork.
A good couple works together — they plan together, share ideas, and help each other.

When you cooperate, you stop blaming each other and start solving problems together.

“Two are better than one, because they get a better reward for their labour.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9

“Working together brings success.” – Henry Ford

Marriage grows stronger when both partners work as one team.

4. The Attitude of Forgiveness

No one is perfect. Your partner will offend you sometimes.
If you keep anger or refuse to forgive, your heart becomes bitter, and peace disappears from your home.

Forgiveness means letting go of the hurt and choosing peace over pride.
It helps both of you heal and move forward.

“Forgive one another, just as God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32

“A happy marriage is made by two people who forgive easily.” – Ruth Bell Graham

Don’t let old wounds destroy your new joy.

5. The Attitude of Growth and Learning

Marriage is a journey of learning.
You must keep improving yourself — in patience, communication, and understanding.

Learn from books, seminars, and other godly couples. Pray together and grow together.

“Teach a wise person, and he will become wiser.” – Proverbs 9:9

“Marriage is a school where learning never ends.”

The more you grow, the stronger your marriage becomes.

6. The Attitude of Positive Communication

Words are powerful. The way you talk to your spouse can build love or destroy it.
Shouting, insulting, or harsh words create pain.
But gentle, kind, and loving words bring healing and joy.

“A gentle answer turns away anger, but a harsh word makes it worse.” – Proverbs 15:1

“The right words can heal a hurting heart.”

Speak softly and wisely — your tone can lift your home.

7. The Attitude of Faith in God

No marriage is perfect. There will be challenges — financial, emotional, or spiritual.
But when both husband and wife trust God, they find strength to overcome every storm.

Pray together, believe together, and never lose faith that God can fix what is broken.

“We walk by faith, not by sight.” – 2 Corinthians 5:7

“When God is at the center of your marriage, storms become stepping stones.”

Faith in God keeps your marriage from falling apart.

Conclusion
Marriage rises or falls because of attitude.
When couples choose to be respectful, thankful, cooperative, forgiving, growing, gentle in words, and faithful to God — their marriage will surely reach a higher and happier level.

Remember this truth:
“Your marriage will rise to the level of your attitude.”

So, every day, check your attitude — because good attitudes bring peace, love, and progress to every marriage.