11/11/2022
Asalaam aleykum waramotulah wabarokatuh dear MMGites🥳🥰
There is an issue I want us to talk about tonight!
Why do wives/incoming wives(wife to be) dislike the bond between their husbands and their mother in law and also dislike their mother in laws visiting?
Your mother in law came visiting and all u could do is to squeeze your face like “person wey chop spoilt iru?”.... I even hear some sisters say they want their mother in law de.ad before they get married 🤦♀️🤦♀️.....subhanallah!!!.
I do not dispute the fact that the she also has limit, an example is that your mother in law isn’t suppose to have any business with your duty as a wife,she isn’t in the right position to dictate what type of food should be cooked in the house and when it should be served or whatever.....nah, that’s your job!...it’s left to you and your husband to decide whether its jollof rice or pounded yam should be cooked but you have to consider that your mother in law is around,she might prefer local indigenous food to salad,coleslaw because most middle aged/old mothers prefer foods that gives stamina and foods that won’t upset their stomach🙃🙂.
Furthermore, probably your husband is always on phone every Saturday with his mother and all you could do is to start murmuring?🤨🤨......Ummu Fawzan😒,go and sit down 😒.....If you keep doing that and your husband notices,what impression do you think that will create?. That’s his Mother faa!!!!, if she didn’t give birth to him,will you even know him talkless of him being your husband?🤷♀️🤷♀️.....Do you even know what the mama went through before bringing him up and making him the perfect husband for you as per Trainings and Mother-child education?💆♀️🤱.
Sometimes gan,there are some affairs(e.g home affair,business etc) that your husband cannot handle psychologically,what do you want him to do than seek the help of his first teacher,his mother?!!!!......most especially when we women has start our wahala 😂💔,he will be like “Hello mommy,ewo Omobinrin yii o ma tie de ba mi soro ninu ile mo???,to ba ti serve mii bayi,o ma lo jeun tie ninu elsewhere nii😂, e ba mii be won oo mommy ,tori won ooo tie accept gbogbo direct and indirect apology wa rara😂” (translation: Hello mom,this woman is not talking to me in the house again ooooo😂😂,once she serves me food,she leaves the dining room for me and eat elsewhere 😕😕, mom help me talk to her oooo because she isn’t even paying attention to my direct and indirect apology at all🤔🥴”.
The mother in law later called u probably at work in the absence of your husband to talk to you as a wife to her child,she teaches you her experience during her time too and lectured you all round......you now getting home and start calling your husband names like “mama pikin!, mommy’s pet!,mommy’s remote,” is not proper ......You start saying things like “so you are not man enough to handle this house?!!!,how dare you involve a third party in our affairs in this house?!!!, has your mother used your head!?,why don’t you kuku tell her about what we do in the other room,why don’t you inform her about the amount you always give me as a wife,so she can start comparing,bla bla bla!!!!”. My dear Ummu, these words triggers men anger most times,especially you calling their mom a third party!!!!......Don’t you ever make such statement!!!, you were not pleased with him and he had to inform his mom because you are both women and he knows that you will,for the sake of his mum ,accept that apology you refused to accept right from the beginning of the misunderstanding 😑🙄.
Dear beautiful,loving,caring,pretty wives🤭🤗💜🌹🤗🖤....Your mother in law is not A poke noser!
Your mother in law is not a third party! But sometimes your husband call on her when he doesn’t know what to do again 💆♀️
Your mother in law is not a witch!😒
Your mother in law doesn’t have your husband’s remote control 😒💔😂.
Don’t break that bond!🥺, your husband still remain her son till eternity 🥺.....your husband is not weak nor a fo.ol when he seeks the attention of his mother 🥺🖤.
May Allah keep our homes ❤️.
If you have any question,pls ask as I will be attending to questions in the next 20 minutes 🖤💯.
Asalaam aleykum waramotulah wabarokatuh 💯🤗💜.
Reference: Rosheedah Umm Haroon
