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Clinical Psychologist, Trauma & Play Therapist | Helping you break free & build resilience

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04/12/2025

I honour my wellbeing✊🏾🌱🪴

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03/12/2025

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What Seasoned Trauma Therapists Do (That Most Don’t)They stop trying to fix the story… and start listening for how the b...
02/12/2025

What Seasoned Trauma Therapists Do (That Most Don’t)

They stop trying to fix the story… and start listening for how the body carries what words could not.

In the therapy room — or across a Zoom screen — it often begins the same way.

A client says, “People always leave me.”

A newer therapist responds with comfort.
A seasoned one grows still, quietly leaning in and holding the space with a steady, felt presence.

They have learned that phrases like this are not just sentences. They are fossils, emotional artifacts left by the nervous system.

Each holds a map: abandonment, mistrust, self-reliance, defectiveness.

What sounds like hopelessness is often memory. It is the body remembering how safety once worked.

“I can only rely on myself” rarely comes from arrogance. It comes from a child who learned early that needing others meant disappointment.

“I must perform perfectly” is not ambition. It is an old rule for earning love.

“I feel nothing” is not indifference. It is the body staying intact when feeling too much once led to collapse.

So the therapist does not argue with these logics.

They trace them back to where they began.

They stay present when the client expects withdrawal.

They keep eye contact when the body anticipates being unseen.

And in that steady presence, something begins to shift.

A breath deepens. The face softens. The body tests what it feels like to be safe.

Change does not arrive as an epiphany. It appears in quiet physiological moments when the system realizes it is no longer in danger.

The work of therapy is often just that: the rehearsal of safety until it becomes memory.

Because every trauma schema — abandonment, emotional deprivation, unrelenting standards, shame — was once adaptive. It was a pattern built for survival in an unsafe environment.
The task is not to tear it down but to help it rest.

That is what seasoned trauma therapists do differently. They do not rush to correct what appears broken. They listen until what is protective no longer needs to protect.

Skill Note:
When a schema like self-reliance, defectiveness, or emotional inhibition emerges, slow the process down. Invite the client to notice what happens inside their body as that belief is spoken. Stay with them in that moment.
Insight can come later. The nervous system learns through connection that is felt, not explained.

Neuro Note:
Schemas live in implicit memory networks involving the amygdala, insula, and medial prefrontal cortex.
Repeated co-regulation quiets the threat response and re-engages prefrontal integration. This is memory reconsolidation in practice: safety felt in real time reshaping prediction.

- Michael Mondoro

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02/12/2025

I take responsibility for my direction in life✊🏾🙏🏾🌱🪴

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01/12/2025

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29/11/2025

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I honour my pace🚶🏾🚶‍♀✊🏾🌱🪴
28/11/2025

I honour my pace🚶🏾🚶‍♀✊🏾🌱🪴

10 things to quit now:1. controlling mindset2 self-doubt3 overthinking4 fearing change5 resenting others6 bragging about...
27/11/2025

10 things to quit now:

1. controlling mindset
2 self-doubt
3 overthinking
4 fearing change
5 resenting others
6 bragging about the past
7 imitating others
8 trying to please everyone
9 blaming others
10 feeling entitled

Winners quit all the time. They just quit the right stuff.

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27/11/2025

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26/11/2025

I welcome clarity into my thoughts💭🌱🪴

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