25/07/2025
Beware of Pe*****les This Holiday Season
"This is a lecture note to be delivered at every home
Father should call his children together and deliver this lecture
Mother should call her female children and drive down the points.
Pe*****le is everywhere.
Parents, long holidays are around the corner, *wake up!
*What is Pe******ia?*
Pe******ia is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive s*xual attraction towards children/a child.
_*Who is a child?*_
A child is anyone below the age of 18. Also note that children are gifts from God, and He expect us as earthly guardians to take proper care of each and every one of them.
One of our major duties is to keep them away from these patients called paedophiles.
There are different ways children can be abused. Below are some:
*CHILD MOLESTATION!*
Child Molestation is also known as child s*xual abuse. It is a secret crime involving a range of indecent s*xual activities between an adult and a child.
*TYPES OF MOLESTATION:*
-Defilement
-R**e
-Fi*****ng
- Making a child watch po*******hy
Exposing the ge***al to kids
-Indecent touching
-Fondling etc
WHO COULD ABUSE YOUR CHILD?*
*ANYBODY*
Studies show that over 95% of s*xually abused children are abused by persons known or close to the child or the child's family.
*ABUSERS ARE MOSTLY NOT STRANGERS.*
They are right there in your houses, co-tenants, family members, lesson teachers, and neighbours. Their friends in school, hostel, classmates, class/school teachers, cousins, uncles, nephews, nieces, fathers, step fathers, grand fathers, imams, choir masters, pastors, confidants, security guards, maids, family/school drivers, After school teachers, mummy's friend, daddy's friend, caregivers, strangers........ the list can go on.
Please, do not ask if any of the above is possible because there is no case of any of the above that has not happened.
*CAUSES OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE*
Parental negligence, carelessness, non- challant attitude.
It is as bad as no one can be trusted.
We have a child presently carrying a baby that belongs to her father.
*OTHER CAUSES:*
Absentee parents.
Parents who do not observe.
When the kids are not informed...
What you watch with your kids.
Indecent dressing by our children.
*WHERE CAN YOUR CHILD BE SEXUALLY ABUSED?*
✓On your bed
✓Right under your nose, under your roof
✓In the school environment- class, toilet etc
✓Hostel
✓Parties
✓In their room (siblings)
✓Deserted/Abandoned places
✓ When you are distracted, etc.
Perpetrators look for opportunities.
5 minutes is enough to cause a long time of damage.
*HOW DO PAEDOPHILES GET THE VICTIMS?*
1.Grooming
2.Baits
a. Emotional bait
b. Gift bait
c. Financial bait
d. Familiarity & Respect bait.
3. Child grooming
Befriending and establishing an emotional connection with a child, and sometimes the family, to lower the child's inhibitions with the objective of s*xual abuse. -Wikipedia-
Gaining the trust of a minor with the intention of having s*x relationship with them.
*HOW TO IDENTIFY A POSSIBLE ABUSER:*
A. Always trying to be around your child or vice versa
B. The child feels uncomfortable when he/she sees the abuser or when the abuser is around.
C. It is easy and conveniently accepting to care for your child while you are away.
D. Can be hard on the child, especially if the child is rejecting his or her moves.
If any of the above is observed, please shine your eyes. Or sometimes, your child might feel uncomfortable/rejecting to go to the person when you send him or her or even go for a holiday.
Sexual abuse happens among sibblings, set rules, separate their rooms, separate their beds.
We had a case of twins having s*x with each other. When they were asked, they said: we see mum and dad do same.
Why should we be that careless?
Because of the carelessness of both parents, their innocent minds were polluted, and their lives were destroyed.
*WHAT A PERPETRATOR SAYS TO A CHILD WILLING TO SPEAK OUT:*
•I will kill you
•You will die
•Your mummy will hate you
•No one will marry you if they know
•Your mummy will beat you
•Your mummy will blame you.
•Your mummy and your daddy will die.
•He could cut the child, lick the blood, and say: this is a blood convenant between us, the day you tell is the day you die.
Teach your child The *SRR* action.
*S - Shout/scream*
*R - Run*
*R - Report*
Cheers!!!
Written by: Professor Mrs Ola-Adisa
