Diyolakingsleyjames

03/12/2025

December is not a month for rushing but a month for releasing.
And truthfully, you can’t enter 2026 with clarity if you’re still carrying emotional fragments from 2024 and 2025.

Every year, I meet people who write goals while their hearts are still hurting. They push productivity while avoiding the wounds draining their energy. They want transformation without tending to the parts of themselves that are still bleeding.
And I get it, because many of us were taught to “be strong” instead of “be honest.”

But hear me: Your next level does not need a stronger you. It needs a lighter you. It needs a rested, regulated, and healed you.

This December, give yourself permission to slow down and heal.
And if you want support on that journey, my therapy slots are open.
Let’s prepare your heart for the life you’re praying for.
You don’t have to do it alone.

02/12/2025

01/12/2025

This Sunday, I’ll be speaking at a Healing & Trauma Session, and my assignment is simple:

To help you understand why the mind holds on to pain and how God heals the heart so you can step boldly into 2026 with clarity and emotional strength.

If you’ve been sensing that it’s time to break old patterns, you’re tired of carrying wounds that were never yours to hold, and you’re ready for inner rest, emotional restoration, and a fresh season, this session is for you.

Come with an open heart so that you can leave with a renewed mind.

Date: Sunday, December 7th
Time: 12:00 noon, after service

01/12/2025

The final chapter of the year is here, and I’m sending you softness, clarity, and peace as you walk into it.

May this month bring good news, gentle surprises, restored joy, and the kind of blessings that feel tailor-made for you.

Cheers to a graceful December.
May your heart be light, your mind be calm, and your days be kind.

Happy New Month La Familia ❤️

29/11/2025

You are 10 today, and I am so grateful for your beautiful life and how you changed my world around baby.

You are the epitomy of Love, God knew I needed you and you needed me too.

May your life stay beautiful as your heart baby. I choose to steward you in the path God has placed you on as long as I live.

Happy birthday Queen Vida of the good life, you have truly come into this world to enjoy. Step into your enjoyment boo boo.

I love you today, tomorrow and forever +1,000 days.

29/11/2025

You love your family. You love your partner. You love your stepchildren.

But if you’re honest you’re tired in ways you don’t even have language for.

Some days you show up fully, and other days you wonder: “Where did I go?”

Here’s the truth nobody says out loud: You can lose yourself in the roles you carry even when you’re carrying them from a place of love.

Love does not protect you from emotional exhaustion.
Love does not erase resentment.
Love does not silence the ache of feeling unseen.

And if you’ve been feeling invisible, overwhelmed, guilty for wanting space, resentful for carrying too much, or quietly breaking inside, I want you to know that you’re not dramatic, ungrateful nor overreacting.

You’re human. You’re permitted to get tired. And you need healing, not more pressure.

28/11/2025

If resting makes you anxious… you’re not lazy — you’re wounded.

Many high achievers don’t fear rest because they love working.
They fear rest because rest was never safe growing up.

Maybe you were only praised when you were useful.
Maybe slowing down meant being called “lazy.”
Maybe chaos felt more familiar than peace.

So now, as an adult, your body wants rest…
but your nervous system expects danger.

You’re not broken.
You’re protecting yourself the only way you learned.

Healing looks like learning to pause without guilt,
teaching your body that safety doesn’t have to feel busy,
and building a self-worth that isn’t tied to performance.

If this is you, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to keep surviving.

Ready to heal this pattern? Book a therapy session with me.

27/11/2025

Overthinking is not a strength.
It’s not “being detailed.”
It’s not “being careful.”
And it’s definitely not a skill you need to hold on to.

Overthinking is what happens when your mind has learned to protect you more than it has learned to trust life.

Let this be your gentle reminder today:
Overthinking is not a skill.
It’s a wound. And like every wound, it can heal.

26/11/2025

If love keeps feeling like begging or you always fall for people who pull away. This is not an accident. This is a pattern and patterns have roots.

Here’s the truth most people don't hear enough:
You don’t attract what you want.
You attract what your nervous system recognizes as “home.”

If home felt like emotional distance, you had to earn affection growing up, or love came with anxiety, silence, or inconsistency, then your body learned to call that feeling “normal.”

Healing starts when you stop asking, “Why don’t they choose me?” and start asking, “Why am I choosing people who cannot love me?”

READ THIS AGAIN 👇🏽

You are not hard to love.
You were simply trained to survive emptiness.

Share this post with someone who needs this clarity today.

25/11/2025

Healing doesn’t always look like a big transformation.
Sometimes it looks like tiny choices that nobody sees but you.

Choosing to breathe before reacting.
Choosing to rest without guilt.
Choosing to say “I need help” even when you’re used to being the strong one.

If you’ve been functioning through pain, I want you to hear this: You deserve a life that doesn’t demand survival from you, and you don’t have to heal alone or in silence.

If this post touched something in your heart, maybe your healing journey is ready to begin gently, safely, and at your pace.

Save this post so you can return to it when you feel overwhelmed.

24/11/2025

Many of us grew up performing strength:
✔ Smiling through exhaustion
✔ Showing up when our hearts were empty
✔ Carrying everyone without asking for help
✔ Taking pride in never resting

But you need to hear this: Your body isn’t betraying you. It’s communicating with you.

Fatigue. Irritability. Anxiety. Shutdown.
These are not failures but signals that your nervous system has been in survival mode for too long, and survival mode is NOT a life but a coping mechanism.

You deserve a life where rest isn’t earned, peace is not a luxury, and you don’t have to prove your worth through suffering.

If this hit you deeply, you’re not alone, and you don’t have to heal alone.

I have a few therapy and coaching session slots open this month.
Send me a DM or click the link in my bio to book your session.

Your healing is calling. Please don’t ignore it.

22/11/2025

My life in the past two weeks in a few pictures, more to come, from speaking at events as a teacher to being a judge on a TV show produced by .

People don't know I wear a hat as a television, content, event production expert from Big brother to Idols, to apprentice Africa, to multi choice to ebony life, to arise and the list is endless. I thought I had found my purpose in Production then my true purpose found me as a soul awakener, a clinical hypnotherapist and a healer. Now I merge both hats ever so beautifully.

I am so grateful for my mission and calling on earth.

Find the intersection between your passion and proficiency and you could have struck gold truly. Have a beautiful weekend. I'm now going to put my purpose down and sleep, before I don't have power to fuel the purpose again. Lollllll