
16/06/2025
I have seen many people go into romantic relationships for the wrong reasons and it has always left a wrong mark on them.
Let me educate you a little bit.
The sole purpose of a relationship is to build friendships, find your common interest and help each other grow in character, purpose and find fulfilment in life.
So I can say it is a kind of fellowship.
Two people walking a common path that leads them to a destination.
So when two people path do not cross each other but they enter into a relationship. One of them will be a distraction derailing the other from his or her God given purpose.
So that is why you need to first find out if the person you want to be with is walking the same path as you.
You might have different purpose in life. You might choose a different career from the person you are with but if your path aligns with each other you are walking in the same ship.
Many people go into relationship for wrong reason.
Most times they go into a relationship to fulfil a need whether financial, physical, emotional, mental need.
This is wrong.
When you are in a relationship to fulfil a need you become dependent on that person to fill the void you have in your life.
You are not there to contribute but just to take.
As long as that person satisfy your needs you stay but once they are no more available you throw a tantrum or decide to leave.
Sometimes both parties might be in a relationship to satisfy a need not because they really care and that is when the relationship becomes a co dependent and toxic relationship.
Before you move into any relationship, you need to find out first of you are whole as a person.
When I say whole I mean are you self fulfilled as a person?
A self fulfilled person is complete in his or her self emotionally, mentally, financially anf purpose wise.
They carry themselves with confidence and assurance.
Such will not go into a relationship expecting their emotional needs to be met by a man
Such a lady is confident in herself.
She is fulfilled in herself because she knows who she is. She has discovered her purpose in life and also walking with God to fulfil it.
Such a woman carries confidence, glamour and class wherever she goes. So she will never settle for less.
She is in a relationship to contribute and not to take and the same goes for a man.
I hear many ladies say I want this type of men
The question I ask is are you that type of a woman that will attract that type of a man.
You can't be asking for a king when you are not a queen.
Don't expect the man will make a queen out of you when you have not discovered who you are.
Relationship is a give and take responsibility not give alone or you keep taking.
No, you both need to bring something to the table.