Àgbà John Doe

04/12/2025

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04/12/2025

01/12/2025

Happy new month to All Agbafians, worldwide.

Thank you for the design.

30/11/2025

A young lady's elder sister has been married for 10 years, & with 4 kids.

Her husband is an architect.

He is the provider and works in another state.

Meaning, he comes back home once in a while.

His wife is a seamstress, has a sewing machine, but doesn't earn a living from it.

Businesses that her husband opened for her, were poorly managed by her, & she couldn't make anything out of them.

Now, the elder sister reached out to her younger sister, asking her to help her find a job in her location.

When she asked her if she has discussed it with her husband, she said no.

And pleaded with the younger sister not to tell her husband about it.

But she said that she doesn't want to be an "accomplice", so she told her husband about his wife's plans.

The husband told her to pretend that he doesn't know, and lie to her sister that she has found a job for her.

She then called her sister, and told her that she has found a job for her. The job is a caregiving job, and that she would have to come live with the old woman, for N45k salary a month.

The sister said that she will take the job, & reminded her not to tell her husband.

The husband is still waiting from where he is, to see if his wife would tell him.

That's where they are now, until I get a feedback from her as to what has happened.

Now to you readers.

What would you do, if you're her husband, and your wife didn't tell you about it?

What would you do, if you're her sister, and you discovered that your younger sister that you had confided in, went & told your husband about it?

End.

29/11/2025

I have always said that, marriage thrives on 3 major pillars.

1) Kindness
2) Deliberate commitment
3) Selflessness

A man married his wife, was a kind provider, and was responsible for his wife and their children.

He played his role as the major provider, and still doing it, without any major financial assistance from his wife.

But instead of his wife to be appreciative & kind to him, at an older age when he's getting weaker and the economy is affecting his finances, she is refusing to do that, and hinging on how he was taking care of their children, and neglected her.

How did he neglect her?

Was he not feeding her?

Did he allow her not to work?

Was he depending on her financially?

Was she the one paying the school fees, rent etc?

All he wanted was a wife who would be kind, loving to their children, & raise them with him.

But she complained, envied the children, & never visited them in school.

Was she in competition with her husband or her children?

A man and a woman is supposed to come together as husband & wife, put aside their personal interests, and focus on the interests of the entire family, & the children that God has blessed them with.

The man playing his roles, and the wife playing her roles.

The man being the main provider and leader, and the wife being the support and care.

If the man has done this for 24 years, and the economy starts to affect his financial strength, the woman is supposed to step in, and be his fulcrum.

Not feeling happy that he can no longer fulfill his roles as he used to, as if he abandoned his responsibilities when he had the means to do so.

If you marry an unkind woman, this may be your story in the future.

Clearly, she was financially not strong enough to challenge the man's authority, & deal with him as she may have wished.

And the man knew who he married, and so he channeled his resources towards giving their children a good foundation, rather than investing in a woman to an extent that she would be bigger than he is, and then start looking up to another man.

He led her how she should be led, according to her character, and not how she wanted to be led.

But to her, it is now looking like pay back time.

Which should not be.

Rather, she should he grateful that she got married to a responsible husband and father, who sacrificed for his family.

Again, you'll notice the signs in your relationships.

When you have a girlfriend who wants you to do more for her, than you do for yourself or your siblings, then do not expect her to extend kindness towards your children.

Even if they are your biological children.

A woman who wants to be deliberately committed to you, will invest in you, while you invest in the future of both of you.

And that future, is the future of the responsibilities that you would shoulder as a husband and father.

If it's always "me, me, me" for her, then you're dating an unkind woman.

And in the right time, all that you had ignored because you love her, will become your reality.

Imagine if that man had experienced financial problems at the very early stage of their marriage?

Would his wife had supported him?

End.

29/11/2025

I read a DM from a married woman, that I am finding so hard to believe.

But she asked me to share without giving out some details.

She got married to her husband some years ago.

The husband lives abroad, but returns frequently.

Before they got married, they had agreed on the number of kids that they would have.

They had the first child which is a girl.

During one of his visits to Nigeria, she stumbled on a conversation the husband had with someone.

He had said that he would never bring his wife to be with him abroad. And that she would have all their kids in Nigeria.

And when they're done having the number of kids, he would then start to frustrate her, and reduce drastically, the number of times that he would be frequenting home.

She confided in a close friend, who then took her to a native doctor.

The native doctor gave her a waist bead that she should be wearing.

And to her joy, the husband has been telling her that he likes waist beads.

So it was easy for her to accept, and wear the bead.

That waist bead neutralizes the potency of her husband's s***m. To the extent that, he won't be able to impregnate another woman, and her, too.

She treats her husband like a king, and doesn't act in anyways that would make him suspect her.

She has been siphoning monies from him, and investing somewhere else.

She is deeply pained, and plans to ruin her husband, before leaving him, and moving on with their daughter.

She told me that she is not in my DM for any advise, because she has made up her mind.

But to warn men out there, that a woman that has showed you her nakedness, is a woman that can show you her wickedness (using my words).

So, since she said that she doesn't need any advice, I just said that I should narrate her story.

End.

28/11/2025

Please read the conversation that I had with a 30 year old male subscriber.

Ensure that you read to the last screenshot 👇.

19/10/2025

Some of you men are presently in a relationship where your gf visits you only with her toto.

Sometimes, the toto sef go come with infection.

She has never bought you anything.

Something as cheap as oranges.

Na only toto she dey give you.

You've not seen your wife yet.

End.

09/10/2025

Even my lovely daughter sometimes tries to manipulate me with fake tears.

Is it your wife or girlfriend that will not manipulate you?

Whichever manipulation you choose to accept from her, make sure that it's not the one that comes after you've caught her cheating.

End.

09/10/2025

A young man is in my DM.

He's in a relationship with a single mother.

He says that he doesn't have a problem being with a single mother.

However, his girlfriend and mother did not reveal to her father that she has a child.

The mother told her not to allow her father know that she has a child.

And her parents are still married.

According to him, her mother has so much influence on her, and he observed that she and her siblings do not show their father respect, despite being present and a provider.

The mother still doesn't want her to tell her father.

The boyfriend told her to tell her father, because it's a big disrespect to her father, that his daughter has a child, and he's unaware of it.

She wants to tell her father, but is confused about how to go about it.

And her mother is also not helping matters.

Now, after seeing all these, the young man is worried about his future with her.

He opines that with the type of mother she has, and with the lack of regards & love that they all show to their father, he is scared that he would be marrying the wrong wife.

Is this relationship even worth continuing?

Or he should be patient with his girlfriend, and wait for her to tell her father about it, and perhaps, consider continuing the relationship?

End.

08/10/2025

Now tell me...

What, & how exactly, will her husband look at her in the face, to dare call her a gold digger?

He can't even talk about his success & growth of their business, without acknowledging his lovely wife.

From age of 22 & 25, they built together until they got married at age 27 & 30.

And they have a son already.

Still building wealth at a very young age, & growing with their son.

Their son will be 10 by the time her husband will be 40. God sparing his life, he will be done raising their kids before he turns 60.

And him & his lovely wife can rest, & enjoy the fruit of their labor.

And then their grandchildren will be visiting them to play with them.

This is what you all under 30s should aspire for.

Resist greed.

Resist impatience.

Stop stealing.

Stop gambling or bet addiction.

Stop playing around and stop wasting scarce resources.

If you're still a student, focus on your studies and be done with school.

Start planning for your future in earnest, and grow with your girlfriend or boyfriend.

Help your boyfriend by not making him waste his scarce resources on you, because you want to slay.

Encourage him to plan for the future of both of you, save money and have a target and expected time that he would become your husband.

Every material things that you forgo in your younger days, God will provide for him to give you those things as his wife of his humble beginnings.

He will be proud of his choice of a wife, and you must have earned your place in his life.

Your relationship will not always be rosy. Temptations would come. You will be frustrated sometimes, & you might want to quit.

If you persevere, & date with all sincerity of purpose, you're more likely to succeed than to fail.

Getting married to much older men is never the best in most cases.

The exceptions that you see should NEVER be your motivation.

Even those exceptions were mostly fueled by greed.

And in some cases, poverty & parental pressure.

Whatever the reasons may be, much older men who are also struggling with life, will frustrate you in marriage.

You'll become a shadow of yourself, & you'll be chasing younger men for attention even in your matrimonial home.

I don't care how anyone sees this thread.

I have said what I said.

End.

07/10/2025

Dear young men,

Please, try to marry early.

Start small, but not empty.

A 60 year old man married at 38.

His wife is 54.

They have 5 children, and the oldest is 21, & not yet a graduate.

He walked away from his marriage due to frustration, lack of job, even when he's qualified.

His wife and children (asides the first child), have turned their backs on him.

Before he walked away, he wrote a su***de note. He stiii tries to provide for them, but he's tired.

The 3rd child just got admission to study medicine and surgery. There is no money, & he's now very suicidal because his responsibilities are weighing him down.

With a 54 year old estranged wife, & him being 60, you can tell that they're both aging and becoming weaker.

Clearly, he still has at least 10 years to train all his 5 children. Meaning, he would still be spending heavily even at 70.

When he should be a grandfather and resting. And his wife, a grandmother, and taking care of him.

I keep telling you all these, because you're always thinking that you want to make enough money before you marry.

You fail to see that age is a major factor in decision making towards marriage.

The average retirement age for a man is 60. After 60, you'll become tired and you may not have enough financial resources to shoulder your responsibilities.

The amount of children that you and your wife have decided to have, is also a major factor.

If you married late, please know that raising kids is a very expensive venture.

That you have money to feed them now that they're still toddlers, doesn't mean the money will keep coming.

And very few men will be rich or have good money after 50.

Marrying early, when you're still very productive, is a wise decision.

Making sure that you do not have many children when you marry late, is a wise decision.

The 60 year old man is tired. And the pressure and lack of respect from his estranged wife, and children have made it worse.

Do not say that you'll be an exception.

And I know that many of you experienced this while growing up under your parents.

Life became more difficult for your father when you were in secondary school, & going to the university was almost hopeless.

But for God who showed you mercy.

Everything requires planning.

I have two children with my wife, and I can afford to have more if I want.

However, I know that money may not always be there.

And I'm no longer a young man.

And I do not intend to make my kids suffer for my decisions.

I hope you understand me.

End.