12/07/2025
A relationship well intended & healthy, is not a distraction for young men and women.
When I met my wife in school, we were very young.
It was in my 2nd semester of 100 level.
Because I was young and in love, it affected my 2nd semester GPA.
That GPA happened to be the lowest that I ever had all through my university days.
And it was still not below 3.5.
I still finished my 100 level with over 4 point CGPA.
When we moved into our small apartment from 200 level, both of us had stabilized emotionally, & focusing on our studies.
We went on to do better in our exams, & graduated well.
Why am I sharing this?
You young women that are presently avoiding relationship and mainly focusing on your career or academics, may become a victim of your successful achievement in life, if you are not careful.
You just read the story of the 36 year old single woman who has achieved good success in her career, making good money for herself, but unable to find a man that will love her for who she is.
To the extent that, she started dating a younger man who she's 3 or 4 years older than.
It turned out that the man is a gold digger & a user.
I have said this many times, most men above 35 are married.
And most women above 30 are married.
While there may be different genuine reasons why you'll still find single women above 30 and single men above 35, it's not the norm. For single women above 30, you'll become extremely vulnerable to men.
And your years of abandoning relationships and focusing on building your career & making money, will make you start to develop masculine traits.
You're too used to being alone.
You're too used to getting things done by yourself.
You have conquered some male territories and probably a boss in your office.
No man wants to be with another "man".
And even when you meet men who may be interested in you, a lot of them will be users, gold diggers or 50/50 men.
You'll become so desperate that you'll be willing to do whatever, just to find that man that will marry you.
Religious places of worship will become your second home.
Religious leaders will exploit your pains.
All because you were ill advised or you thought you had all the time in the world.
It's a very position to be in as a woman.
You'll find yourself explaining and explaining why you're still single to different men.
Please make good use of your prime.
Relationship or marriage will not limit your career growth, if you date with genuine intentions, & stop fooling around.
Everyday, I come here to berate young girls.
Advising them to stop being greedy & start being serious with their lives.
But they're still doing..
"I am a hot babe"
"If you can press money clear"
"I don't have time for men, I am focused on my job" "I need to make money, so no man can talk to me anyhow"
By the time you use your naievity, arrogance, greed or lack of having foresight to chase all the good men away in your prime, you'll be using that money you have made, to be looking for useless husband material in your 30s. I just quoted a man who read that 36 year old woman's DM, and he is already professing fake love for her, & saying that he wants to marry her.
Just like that?
This is exactly what you'll be facing.
Some men will do some discreet investigation about where you work, what you earn, & love bomb you till you start to think that you've found the one.
And because you're desperate, you'll not have ample time to vet him.
To you... He's your answered prayers from Shiloh.
All na wash.
Please young ladies.
Some of you were 25 when you started following me.
My teachings have never changed from day one.
I have now spent 5 years on this app.
Meaning, some of you are now 30.
Are you married now?
What did you use all these 5 years to do?
In any case, let me just repeat for those of you that are now in your late 30s & hoping on God for a husband.
If you do not find a husband, it's not a death sentence.
As much as marriage is an achievement, not every woman or man will get married till they die.
But for you women.
Motherhood is a blessing.
Do not deny yourself that, if no husband in sight.
End.
