26/10/2025
💔 “HE JUST WANTED TO IMPRESS HER — BUT HE NEVER WOKE UP” 😭
A Candid Talk About $exual Enhancement Drugs and Men’s Health
© Samuel Olagbenjo
It was supposed to be a fun night.
A 53-year-old man, strong and vibrant, bought a “performance enhancer” because he didn’t want to disappoint his much younger wife. They laughed, ate dinner, and went to bed.
By morning… she was the only one who woke up.
This isn’t fiction — it’s a story I’ve heard too many times in my years of counseling couples. Many men are secretly under pressure to perform, to “prove” their masculinity in bed, and in trying to impress, they risk their very lives.
Let’s talk honestly. 👇
⚠️ 1. $exual Enhancement Drugs Don’t Give Extra Pleasure — They Delay Ej*******on
Most of those pills don’t make you “enjoy more.”
They simply block your body’s natural rhythm so you can “last longer.” But that delay puts enormous strain on your heart.
Here’s what happens: during normal lo******ng, your heartbeat increases by 40–50% at climax.
Now imagine forcing your heart to keep pumping at that level for an extended period — it’s like running a marathon without rest.
Your body says “stop”, but the pill says “keep going.”
❤️ 2. Understand What Happens to Your Heart During $ex
$ex is an exercise — and one of the most intense ones too.
When a man reaches or**sm, his heartbeat, blood pressure, and oxygen demand all spike rapidly. That’s why many men sleep immediately afterward — their body needs recovery.
Now, when you artificially hold that release for too long, you’re overworking your heart.
For men above 50, or those with high blood pressure, diabetes, or heart issues, this can be fatal.
Let’s be clear: you’re not weak; you’re human.
🧠 3. The Root Problem Is Mental Pressure — Not Physical Weakness
Most men who rush to enhancement pills aren’t medically weak — they’re mentally anxious.
Performance anxiety, fear of disappointment, or unrealistic expectations (thanks to social media or adult content) create unnecessary pressure.
$ex isn’t an exam. You’re not being graded.
It’s an emotional, physical, and spiritual connection — not a contest.
🕊️ 4. Dear Men: Your Wife Wants You, Not a Machine
Let’s be honest — lasting “forever” doesn’t equal great intimacy.
What most women truly desire is connection, affection, laughter, and emotional warmth — not mechanical endurance.
Be present, gentle, and emotionally available.
Lasting two minutes with love, tenderness, and laughter is far more fulfilling than lasting two hours under pressure.
⚖️ 5. When You’re Over 50, Wisdom Must Replace Performance
At that age, your goal should be connection, not competition.
Avoid trying to impress anyone $exually — especially not at the risk of your health.
There’s no gold medal for “longest in bed.”
You won’t be crowned the Olympic champion of lo******ng.
And no woman is worth dy!ng mid-act for.
Take it easy. Prioritize your heart. Enjoy the love, not the stress.
💬 6. What To Do Instead of Drugs
✅ Focus on emotional foreplay — connect outside the bedroom.
✅ Eat heart-healthy foods and stay fit — real stamina comes from lifestyle.
✅ Talk to your doctor if you notice low libido or quick ej*******on.
✅ Reduce stress, rest well, and strengthen your mental health.
✅ Practice mutual understanding with your spouse — teamwork makes intimacy beautiful.
🧩 Final Word
My brother, if she calls you “two minutes man,” smile and tell her you’re a living man.
Better a brief lover than a late husband.
Remember, people swim in the ocean — but the ocean doesn’t swim people.
Take care of your body.
Take care of your heart.
And most importantly — take care of your marriage. ❤️
You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name
Share this article with every man you know
© Samuel Olagbenjo
Marriage & Family Therapist | Best-Selling Author
Founder, Marital Success Academy
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