Marriage Counselling and Advice

Marriage Counselling and Advice TELL US YOUR MARRIAGE CHALLENGES OR PROBLEMS AND WE WILL HELP YOU TO BRING BACK YOUR MARRIAGE AS HAPPY AS BEFORE

20/09/2022

Advice to women

A GOOD WOMAN, MAKES A GOOD WIFE AND A GOOD WIFE BECOMES A GOOD MOTHER. A GOOD MOTHER GIVES BIRTH TO A GOOD CHILD. IF YOU WANT TO BE A GOOD WOMAN, WIFE AND MOTHER, EMULATE THESE STEPS BELOW:

1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.

2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you. You are each other's keeper.

3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don't have a happy home.

4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.

5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.

6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.

7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.

8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.

9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.

10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband's right. You must give it to him how he wants it. It's very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty (even the anointed
ones)

11). Never compare your husband to your one time Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.

12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.

13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.

14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.

15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.

16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.

17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.

18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?

19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home.

20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always team work.

21). Don't be too judgmental with your husband. No man wants a nagging wife.

22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.

23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food? Try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food.

24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.

25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.

26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.

27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.

28) A confrontational wife, can never keep a good husband and her home, she will be grooming irresponsible daughters without manners.

29) A woman who cannot manage her children, home and husband is a complete failure in life no matter her achievements.

30) A wise woman honors her husband, and respect him, in turn the husband will cherish her and love her dearly - it will be natural. Husband is a beautiful gift from God, no woman can stay without a husband. No good man on earth can tolerate a confrontational and argumentative wife except they have lost their value and become less of a real man.

31). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.

32). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason.

33). A prayerful wife is very wise and intelligent and she is a better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family. Conquer all your challenges and problems with prayers, only GOD can solve our problems - not parent, not anybody but, only God then You.

Send it to every woman you know. You never know whose marriage you are about to save. And to every man so that the women in their live can be appreciated.

08/06/2022

HOW TO CALM YOUR HUSBAND'S MIND

1. MAKE LOVE TO HIM

S*x has a way of relaxing a man. You will change his mood when you make love to him, especially if you are the one who seduces him and initiates it

2. DON'T MAKE THE HOME A WARZONE

If coming home to you is coming home to yet another argument and fight where you explode and turn everything into an issue, he will dread coming home and it hurts when home is a place to run away from, not to run to

3. ASK HIM HOW HE IS

Most women want the husband to ask them "How was your day?", "How did you sleep?" "How are you?" yet they rarely ask the husband these. If these questions make you feel cared for, your husband also wants to feel cared for

4. ORGANIZE HIS LIFE

A lot of men can be disorganized, especially when they are going through a lot in life or have a lot on their mind. This chaos in their system, dressing, schedule or environment can lead to more unease on their mind. When you help him clear the clutter and attend to some of his needs without him asking, he will think better

5. DON'T ATTACK HIS MAN CAVE

Most have a man cave. This is an activity they do or a place they go to perhaps a room; maybe to play a game, watch TV, meditate and think, write, read, create, work out or just be. Don't attack this, just agree with him on how he can balance his time so that he doesn't spend too many hours in his man cave

6. PRAY FOR HIM

You are the one who knows best his potential, struggles, battles and questions; commit him to prayer. Let him hear you pray for him

7. HELP HIM OUT FINANCIALLY

A lot of men are going through stress due to finances. Help him, by not putting pressure on him to give the family a lifestyle he can't afford at present, by helping to pay some of the bills, by helping him manage finances better, by saving and seeking long term investments, by stepping up especially when he has been fired or going through business losses

8. AFFIRM HIM

A man can get tired, a man can go through burn out, a man can question himself, a man can worry, a man can get discouraged; which is why it is important for you to remind him of his greatness, celebrate his achievements and tell him how proud you are of him. This motivates him

9. STAY FAITHFUL TO HIM

Nothing destabilizes a man like when he suspects or finds out that the wife he loves and has given his all to is entertaining, flirting, sleeping with or longing to be with another man. Spare him this torture

10. BE EASY TO TALK TO

Most men show a tough face and don't open up to anyone because they trust no one. This is how many of them go through depression and suffer in silence. They long to find a confidant who they can reveal themselves and their deepest joys and pain to; be that confidant

11. SMILE

The smile of the woman a man loves keeps him going. Your smile inspires him and makes him want to do more for you to keep it

12. KISS HIM

Kissing him shows affection. Kiss him not just on his lips, kiss his cheeks, his arms, his back as you tell him you love him

13. MASSAGE HIM

Home massages are the best. Invest in some good massage oils and ask him occasionally to lie down and give him a feel good massage. Lie down too so that he can return the favour

14. MAKE NEW MEMORIES WITH HIM

When he is spending time with you - face to face or online, make new memories together; joke with him, tease him, play with him, have stimulating conversations with him, do something new. This will recharge him and make him miss you when you two are apart

And after she does all these my guys, give her love, give her plenty money as your hand reach, take her on beautiful vacations, be romantic and respectful ,attentive and considerate to her, any woman who gives you peace deserves more than all that’s listed here.

16/03/2021

Your wife will be naked, she wouldn't look s*xy to you, but ordinary bra of a strange girl, you will be shouting WOW, WOW, like ambulance. Why?

14/07/2020

Here are 10 points to take into account..
1) DRESS UP FOR YOUR WIFE:- look clean and
smell good. Remember that our would always start with smile
when returning home and always loved
the sweetest smells.
2) CALL HER WITH THE SWEETEST NAMES:-had
nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved.
Call your wife by the most beloved names to
her, and avoid using names that hurt her
feelings. Love her unconditionally for the sake of
Allah.
3) REWARD HER ACTIONS:- Recognise all the
good that she does and focus on that. Whenever
there is a fight or argument, just remember all
the things she does for you. she cooks for you,
she takes care of your home, she takes care of
your children and the most important thing is
that she guards her modesty. So do not upset
her if she is upset with you. Only your love can
repel her anger. Communicate with her and
discuss with her if there are any misunderstandings
4) REMAIN SILENT:- If you see wrong from your
wife, try being silent and do not comment! when he would see something
inappropriate from his wives. Do not criticise
her all the time. If she is doing something that
you don’t like, or that goes against the
teachings of Islam, then do advice her gently.
5) SMILE:- Smile at your wife whenever you see
her and embrace her often Tell her often that you are very happy
and blessed to have her. A wife always wonder
how her husband feels about her. She may have
some insecurity about you, so make her feel
secure.
6) ACKNOWLEDGE HER:- Thank her for all that
she does for you. Then thank her again So
celebrate wife’s day with her, and do it very
often without having a particular date.
7) TAKE CARE OF HER DURING HER PREGNANCY
AND BREASTFEEDING:- Offer extra moral and
physical support during these difficult phases in
her life. Don't feel your manly ego busted if you
have to give the baby its bottle or pacify it,
while she attends to an older child or her own
genuine needs. Be a alert and hands-on father;
this attribute will make her love you even more!
8) VALIDATE HER FEELINGS:- Don’t belittle her
desires. Comfort her. If there is a time of
sadness, give her your shoulder to cry on. Hold
her and tell her that everything will be fine.
9) HAVE FUN:- Be humorous and play games with
her. She appreciates a
husband with a good sense of humour, one that
tells her decent and modest jokes to make her
smile. Indulge in playing various games with the
kids and involve her too.
10) BE THE BEST HUSBAND:-The best of you are those who treat their
families the best. And I am the best amongst
you to my family.”
She is your best friend, girlfriend and soul mate.
Share everything with her. Remember she is your
garment and you are her garment, so hide her
faults and mistakes. Learn to forgive her.
Respect her parents and show your love to her
family. This will inspire her to love and respect
your family.
And most importantly spend a lot of time with her
There is nothing better than praying together.
May God bless every marriage

14/05/2020
29/04/2020

There are some relationships that are heading into destruction, or some that has already been destroyed already , and this gives frustration to either of the partner , Is your relationship giving u headache, and you don't know how to save it, or is your relationship broken already and you want it back, chill let me show u simple and verified step that can make you have your relationship back to normal 1) Be very patient with your partner : This is very important if you do, this doesn't mean you are stupid, but rather it's sending signal to your partner that you are lenient and don't want the relationship to break

2) Give more attention to your partner : Let their be enough attention, it's highly needed, it's one of the secret of blossom relationships , give calls and SMS from time to time and let the person knows the amount of value you have for him or her

3) Always appear in a more s*xy form : This is very important, dress neatly, appear more attractive and let him or her know the amount of what is to be lost

4): Do what he/she likes most : Once u see your relationship is about breaking and you don't want it, start doing what your partner love most , and see how your relationship returns back to normal

RELATIONSHIPS IS NOT A JOB OPPORTUNITY!Relationships of these days are like micro finance bank.You hardly see a Lady wit...
29/04/2020

RELATIONSHIPS IS NOT A JOB OPPORTUNITY!

Relationships of these days are like micro finance bank.
You hardly see a Lady without a long list of expectations.
If you as a man you don't have money to spend my brother NO WOMAN will take you serious.

Am not saying there are no good women but its 10/100.
Some will either empty your career or build it with you, so while choosing a lady for yourself please be watchful.
Else you will spend your life trying to met her families demand..

Social media has become their business center.
One girl will have 38 lovers on fb asking guy's for money up and down I just wonder oh.

Ladies please is called relationship not job opportunity oooh. Hmmm.

11/03/2020

THINGS EVERY GIRLS SHOULD KNOW

HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF

(1) Stop looking for who is not looking for you.💁

(2) Stop begging.👌

(3) Stop saying more than is necessary.🤙

(4) When people disrespect you, confront them immediately.🙅

(5) Don't eat other people's food more than they eat yours.😋

(6) Reduce how you visit some people, especially if they don't visit you at all 🗣

(7) Invest in yourself. Make yourself happy. 💰

(8) Stop entertaining gossip about other people.🙅

(9) Think before you talk. 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth.🙊

(10) Always look your best. Dress the way you should be addressed.😇

(11) Be an achiever. Get busy with your goals 🤴

(12) Respect your time.🤔

(13) Don't stay in a relationship where you don't feel respected and valued. Walk away.🚶

(14) Learn to spend money on yourself. That's how people will learn to spend on you. 😎

(15) Be scarce sometimes. 👍

(16) Be a giver more than a receiver.👌

(17) Don't go where you are not invited. And when invited don't overstay your welcome 🙅

(18) Treat people exactly the way they deserve. 😎

(19) Except they owe you money, two call attempts is enough. If they value you they will call you back. 👍

*(20) Be good at what you do. Be the best. 👍

20/01/2020

Are u married or just preparing for marriage? Pls read dis:

WHAT A MOTHER TOLD HER SON A
DAY BEFORE HIS WEDDING

Mummy’s boy, you are now a man. Tomorrow
you will have a new mother, a new cook and a new person to share all your secrets with. It will no longer be me but her.

Love your new mum even more than you love me. Before you walk into her arms forever, let me give you some words to guide you.

There was a day I was arguing with your father.

We were screaming, Tempers were high. I was angry and He was angry. Then I called him an idiot! He was shocked,

He looked at me asking
how dare I call him that. Immediately I started calling him idiot, fool, stupid, crazy; I called him all sort of name.

Guess what he did? He didn’t raise his hands to hit me. He just walked away, banging the door as he went out.

My Son, If your father had hit me and destroyed my eyes, how will you feel sitting here with me today? How will you regard him as your father?

Would you have been proud of him or would
you be blaming me for calling him names?

Never hit your wife! No matter the provocation
just walk away and things will be normal.

Whenever she offends you, think of this story I
just told you, it could have been your mum!

After he left, I was filled with guilt. We slept on same bed that night and I went to him the next day.

I pleaded with him, I did all I could to show am sorry and he forgave me. That day I cooked his favourite food, yes you know he loves Pounded yam & Vegetable soup right?

After that day, I never called him names, my respect for him was ten times stronger.

There is something very important you must always do, my son listen very carefully, defend your wife. When she is under pressure, stand by her. If your friends hates her, it is your duty to make them see her as a Queen. Your Uncle, I mean Uncle Yusuf, never liked me.

But Ur father was always supportive until his perception changed.

There was a day your Father was going to host the owner of his company and friends. They were three of them.

That day I was in the
kitchen cooking for them and your father went to buy drinks.

When the table was set and food was served.

Everyone started eating. Then I
remembered I did not add salt in the food. I
was embarrassed.

Your father tasted the food and looked at me. He immediately turned to the guests. He told them that he instructed his wife last month not to add salt whenever she is cooking because of some problem with his body.

He said it in a funny way and everyone laughed!

The guests understood and he asked me to
bring salt and everyone added according to their taste. He managed to eat the food without salt.

After the guest left, he went on his knees and
asked God to forgive him for lying.

Your wife is like a baby, sometimes she don’t
know what to say or do. Stand up and speak for her!

Now let me talk to you about S*x. You see S*x
is a wonderful thing.

Do not be surprised if your wife enjoy and need S*x more than you do.

There were days, I needed S*x more than your father and there were days he needed it more than me but the important thing is to always try to satisfy the other when they need you.

Don’t always think of your self.

There was a time things were hard and I
needed to do two jobs to support your father.
One night I was so tired. When I got to bed he was in the mood. He try to make love to me and I didn’t refuse him. I was tired but I felt I needed to be there when he needs me.

When he tried un******ng me, he saw my look and he stopped. He asked what was wrong and I said nothing. But he understand me better.
He stopped and then started telling me stories until I fell asleep.

My son, S*x is best enjoyed when the two
parties are physically and mentally ready for it.

Sometimes, read your wife and understand her.

Make it a habit to go anywhere with your wife. Beside your job, move around with her.

If anyone invite you to his house and told you not to come with your wife then be very careful.
Use wisdom.

I know you love mummy… I know you will tell me all your problems. But now things will be different.

Let your wife be the first to know before me. Let her be the first to see before me.

When you have problems with her don’t run to me immediately.

Wait for a day to pass and then talk to her about it. Pray about it.

Report her to nobody but talk issues out within yourself.

Finally, don’t forget to come and visit me with
your wife every month!

I know you will have a happy home.

You will always be mummy’s boy.

God will bless your
home.
Pls don't forget God, pray & seek His
assistance always..
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08/11/2019

ANCIENT WISDOM TIPS

1. Wedding is a day but marriage is a lifetime .
2. A stingy man who is single will still be stingy when married.
3. Silence can never be misquoted.
4. If you want what no one has had, you must do what no one has done.
5. When God wants to bless you, He puts a person in your life. When Satan wants to destroy you, he puts a person in your life.
6. It is better to be single and alone than to be married to the wrong person.
7. Avoid a contentious woman.
8. 3 men to avoid:
a. A hot tempered man.
b. A womanizer.
c. A drunkard.
9. Marrying a comedian does not guarantee a happy marriage.
10. Never be yoked to anyone who will not be yoked to God.
11. 3 words that echo peace in a marriage:
a. I love you .
b. I am sorry .
c. Thank you.
12. Don't waste your time meditating or dwelling on your singleness.
13. Cohabitation is a recipe for marital failure .
14. Deal with anti-marriage dreams.
15. Ma********on is destruction.
16. *Marriage without friendship is like a sky without the sun.*
17. *If you rush into marriage, you may end up with someone who* *will bury your destiny.*
18. *A successful marriage is always a triangle : God, a man and a woman.*
19. Why you marry is as important as who you marry.
20. Much happiness in life depends on your marital choice.
21. A man needs divine wisdom from God in choosing who to marry.
22. Do not place your priority on good looks; no woman is ugly, she just needs rebranding.
23. 3 major characteristics to look for in a woman:
a. Fear of God.
b. Wisdom.
c. Discretion (beauty is vanity).
24. The best way to enslave a woman is to show her love excessively - as a rule, women don't run away from where they're pampered.
25. *Love is not blind;*
*infatuation and lust are blind.*
26. Love puts God first,
lust puts s*x first.
27. Test every love with your peace of mind, if it is absent, God is not there.
28. If you are a true friend, you will attract true friends.
29. Caring hearts never lack caring hands.
30. Desperation leads to frustration.
31. Bad marriages can be avoided before they begin.
32. *Keep yourself pure and your bed undefiled.*
33. *It is spiritual insanity to plan to convert someone so you can marry the person.*
34. Wage war against the devil that fought your parents' marriage.
35. Marriage is a covenant, always look before you leap.
36. It is better to be single and believing God to be married than to be married and believing in God to be single.
37. A broken courtship is better than a failed marriage.
38. Do not marry money or property, marry a person.
39. Be presentable.

*REMEMBER, THE WORST PLACE AFTER HELL FIRE IS BAD MARRIAGE. THEREFORE, WATCH, THINK AND PRAY BEFORE GOING INTO IT. Parents don't led your daughters to hell fire

24/10/2019

FACTS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS.
1. Sleeping alone is better than sharing your BED with someone who shares a BED with someone else when you are not around.

2. Cheating does not mean you have to kiss, meet or have s*x with a third party. Once you find yourself deleting texts and e-mails so that your partner will not see them, you are already there.

3. If a man is crazy about you, pray he does not get well, if he is getting well, know that another woman is giving him some tablets.

4. First love may not die, but true love can bury it.

5. If you still believe "LOVE IS BLIND" then I know for sure MARRIAGE WILL OPEN IT FOR YOU.

6. A woman's beautiful face attracts a flirt; A woman's beautiful heart attracts a lover; A woman's beautiful character attracts a man.

7. Never you fall in love because you are lonely, fall in love because you are ready.

8. A blessed water is better than a cursed fried rice. A Godly poor man is far much better than an angry rich man in marriage.

9. I will rather have you stay in your fathers house that you are sure of, than pack into a man's house you are not sure of.

10. Most men base their capacity of manhood and their abilities to fertilize ovaries and produce children. Any man can impregnate a woman. The real deal is HOW MANY MEN CAN BE THE FATHER TO THEIR CHILDREN, not promoters of ABORTION?

11. HOLY Wives do not just speak in tongues, they MANAGE their homes, make SUPER meals, raise GODLY kids, and finally they
bring out the KING in their man.

12. When you tend to your garden diligently you will be the one to reap the fruit of the vine thereof.

13. You can say "sorry" a million times, say "I love you" as much as you want, say whatever you want, but if you are not going to prove that the things you say are true, then do not say anything at all. Because if you cannot show it, your words do not mean a thing.

14. Never you lie in order to satisfy somebody for a moment, because the pain that you cause them in the future can last them for a lifetime.

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