Dating, Marriage and Family Clinic

23/07/2025

HOW TO HELP YOUR TEEN GET CLOSER TO GOD For teenagers, growing closer to God depends on their personality, interests, and relationship with God. By Dr. Gary Chapman Learning how to get closer to God is a lifelong journey. For teenagers, growing closer to God depends on their personality, interests, and relationship with God. Put simply, teens feel close to God in different ways, most especially…...

22/07/2025

MATTRESS PALAVER

Husband: Honey, I will buy a new mattress on my way home. The one we are using is no longer comfortable.

Wife: That's my Love! But wait oo, where will you get the money?

Husband: I heard that Mr. B will pay our arrears today.

Wife: I always know that man will perform. Please, Darling, don't forget the wristwatch you promised me.

Husband: With all pleasure, my Love.

Five hours later, the man arrived home in his car. Pim... Pim... Pim..., he blared his horn. The woman ran out to meet her husband.

Wife: Honey, welcome (collecting her husband's briefcase, leading him into their sitting room).

Husband: You are always wonderful.

Wife: Where are the mattress and my wristwatch?

Husband: Which mattress? Abeg, gimme my food. I never see alert. The thing na rumour ooo.

The woman broke down weeping profusely.

Wife: Honey please forgive me......huuu huuu.

Husband: (Losing his patience) Dear, what's all this now? What happened?

Wife: Honey, please forgive me oooooo.....!!!

Husband: (Perceiving some odour, and looking out of the window) What's smelling like this? Where is this smoke coming from?

Wife: (Still weeping) Huhuhuuuu, I have burnt our mattress. I thought you would buy a new one truly. You know it is no longer good.

Husband: (Furious, with a changed countenance). What! You did what? You must be joking. You will go back to your father's house today if this is true. You burnt the #900,000 my contribution money I hid in the mattress for us to roof our house.

Wife: Yepa! You mean you have such huge amount in this house and you didn't tell me?

Husband: If I get you today, I will show you who I am.
(With this, he ran to the backyard where the smoke was coming from. Seeing the ashes of the burnt mattress, he fainted.

Lesson 1:
Never hide anything from your wife. Dhe's your better-half.

Lesson 2:
Never run faster than your husband. He's your head.

Lesson 3:
Don't rely on arrears or unpaid income to plan your home.

22/07/2025

22/07/2025

HOW TO IDENTIFY AND HEAL FROM GOLDEN CHILD SYNDROME By Cleveland Clinic Golden children often deal with perfectionism, low self-esteem, and strained relationships as adults Golden child syndrome is a family dynamic where parents see and treat their child as perfect. Parents shower them with praise and attention, and don’t hold them responsible for bad behavior. Some golden children develop an arrogant, self-centered worldview as a result....

HOW TO IDENTIFY AND HEAL FROM GOLDEN CHILD SYNDROME By Cleveland Clinic Golden children often deal with perfectionism, low self-esteem, and strained relationships as adults Golden child syndrome is…

22/07/2025

YOU CAN’T LEAD A WOMAN WHO SEES LEADERSHIP AS A THREAT

Let’s stop sugarcoating it:

A woman who fears leadership…
Will fight it.
Sabotage it.
And eventually, destroy the man who carries it.

Because in her eyes, guidance feels like control.
Structure feels like oppression.
And submission?
That’s slavery.

But here’s the truth:

You can’t lead a woman who confuses masculinity with malice.

Let’s break it down.

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1. She Thinks Leadership Is a Battle to Win—Not a Blessing to Receive

Every decision you make feels like a challenge to her autonomy.

You say, “Let’s do it this way.”

She hears, “You think I’m stupid.”

You say, “Here’s the vision.”

She replies, “Why do you always want to be in control?”

She doesn’t want peace.
She wants power.
Even if it costs the home.

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2. She Can Follow a Boss—But Not Her Husband

She’ll take orders at work.
Follow schedules.
Submit reports.

She calls her manager “sir” and shows up on time.

But at home?

She calls you controlling for asking a simple question.

Because the truth is: She doesn’t hate leadership.

She just resents being led by you.

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3. You Can’t Lead a Woman Who Thinks Submission Is Weakness

To her, following your lead makes her feel “less than.”

She believes real strength means resisting, not cooperating.

She wants the perks of your protection— But without the price of your direction.

And in her mind?

Agreeing with you is giving up her identity.

So she’d rather clash…
Than connect.

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4. Her Trauma Talks Louder Than Your Truth

You say: “I’ve got this.”

She remembers every man who failed her.

You say: “Trust me.”

She hears the voice of the man who lied to her mother.

No matter how well you lead,
She sees it as a setup.

She doesn’t respond to your wisdom.
She reacts to her wounds.

And until she heals?

She’ll keep swinging at the man who’s trying to build her.

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5. To Be Led, She’d Have to Let Go of Control—And She Can’t

Control is her comfort.

She doesn’t feel safe unless she’s steering the wheel— Even if she has no map.

She’d rather drive in circles than trust your compass.

Because letting go scares her more than crashing.

And the worst part?

She’ll blame you for every bump,
Even though she never let you drive.

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6. A Woman Who Resents Leadership Will Resist Legacy

You say: “Let’s raise children this way.”

She says: “That’s too strict.”

You say: “Let’s move toward this goal.”

She says: “You just want to control everything.”

But leadership isn’t about ego.
It’s about alignment.

And if she can’t submit to the mission, She’ll sabotage the movement.

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7. A Woman Who Hates Leadership Will Marry It—Then Muzzle It

At first, she’s drawn to your decisiveness. Your structure.
Your vision.

But once she has your last name?

She wants to edit the script.

Suddenly, she wants to “talk about everything.”

Translation?
Debate everything.

Now you’re not leading.
You’re negotiating.

Now you’re not the man she admired.
You’re the man she micromanages.

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Final Word:

You can’t lead a woman who sees leadership as a threat.
Because every instruction will feel like an attack.
Every boundary will trigger her rebellion.
And every correction will sound like criticism.

She’ll confuse your guidance for control.
Your direction for disrespect.
Your mission for manipulation.

And by the time you realize she doesn’t trust your leadership?

You’ll already be dragging her dead weight up a mountain she never wanted to climb.

So before you marry beauty, test her response to authority.

Because the right woman will see your leadership and feel safe.

The wrong one?

Will feel small—and spend her life trying to shrink you too.

©️ The Benjamites Tv

22/07/2025

11 REASONS WHY PEOPLE CHEAT By Farrah Gray No matter how many stories you hear about couples breaking up over infidelity or families being disrupted because of an indiscretion, people still cheat, and in alarming numbers. Time and time again, folks get caught, and someone gets hurt. Yet, it happens again and again, as people seem to think, “I’m not going to get caught.”...

11 REASONS WHY PEOPLE CHEAT By Farrah Gray No matter how many stories you hear about couples breaking up over infidelity or families being disrupted because of an indiscretion, people still cheat, …

22/07/2025

22/07/2025

18 Love Quotes to Celebrate the Love You Share With Your Sweetheart

21/07/2025

I THINK MY HUSBAND IS TOO FRIENDLY WITH A COWORKER By Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC You tell your husband you think he’s too friendly with a coworker. He says he’s just a ‘friendly guy.’ You say he’s being too friendly. He says this is just his personality and you’re not letting him be himself. You say he’s crossing lines....

I THINK MY HUSBAND IS TOO FRIENDLY WITH A COWORKER By Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC You tell your husband you think he’s too friendly with a coworker. He says he’s just a ‘friendly guy.’&nbs…

20/07/2025

Stop leaving your kids with them.

Stop leaving your children with your boyfriends you barely know.

Stop letting your family members you don't entirely trust watch them because it's free.

If you have a gut feeling about someone that doesn't sit right with you when it comes to your child, cut all ties with this person.

If your little one comes to you and says I don't want to stay with a particular person .... do me a favor and listen to them.

~ Cody Bret

20/07/2025

I was married to a married man for 8 years... and I didn’t even know.

Ten years ago, I met the man I called my husband when he returned from abroad. We dated for two years, and when I got pregnant, he came to see my family. He came to Nigeria twice a year, called me morning, afternoon, and night never once gave me a reason to doubt him.

He never let me work. He said I should rest and raise the kids while he placed me on ₦300k monthly for upkeep. I gave him three beautiful children a girl and two boys. I was faithful, I was loving, and I thought I was building a future with the man I loved.

Six months ago, he said he wanted to relocate us to Canada. I was overjoyed. He started processing our papers, but later told me my own was delayed. My children's visas came out, and he came to Nigeria and took them with him. I kissed them goodbye with hope in my heart, not knowing it was the last time I’d hold them as mine.

Since that day, he changed. Stopped picking my calls. Called once in three days, and even that felt forced. Then three days ago, he called and added another woman to the call. My heart dropped. He said he was sorry. That he has been married for 15 years, that his wife couldn’t have children, so he came to Nigeria to father his own and now that he has them, he’s fulfilled.

He said I should take the house and ₦10 million in our joint account… and move on with my life. That he will take care of the kids, but they are staying with him. Full custody. End of story.

I ran to my father in tears. My father called him, and he confirmed everything. I am broken. Used. Betrayed. My womb gave him what he was missing, and now that he has it, I’m no longer needed.

Please… what should I do?

19/07/2025

Sleep with these women at your own risk 😏