22/01/2021
REINFORCE YOUR COMMITMENT
"It's the extra effort after you have done your best that creates victories" -Lou Holtz.
One day I took my vehicle to a certain road side mechanic to fix a fault. After series of trials, he came to me and said, "I have tried my best to fix the fault but to no avail...Omenwere ma chi ekwe gi, onye uta atala ya"....meaning.."when a man tries to succeed in something and his CHI(God) didn't allow it, that no one should blame him". From this context, indirectly 'his Chi' should be blamed.
This is an ancient adage that was targeted to making people acknowledge the presence of the 'ALMIGHTY' in their day to day activities...but most people didn't picture it that way.
Those who look at its meaning and without considering its purpose use it as safe haven for accepting defeat.
Logically, if you ask me, it implies that 'only God approves success'. But it is untrue. Prov. 10:4 says, "He becometh poor that dealeth with a slack hand: but the hand of the diligent maketh rich".
However, in response to what he said, I replied, "are you sure the person got it right in the first place before blaming his Chi?.... because the ('Chi'/God) I know, is the one that accept things done accurately. Even ( , , etc), had to set their altars "in order" for Him to accept their sacrifices.
Meanwhile, the same vehicle was taken to another mechanic and the fault was fixed, even though he consulted someone who helped him.
Funny enough, it might interest you to know that when one of their colleagues tried making fun out of the situation, the first mechanic said, "it was his luck, the money belongs to him".
Obviously, this young man, isn't alone in this. Most people belong to the same school of thought.
The truth is that the 'second mechanic' succeeded because he made an extra MOVE. But the 'first mechanic' forgot that- where a man stops "his Chi" cannot push him .
"We all come into this world the same: naked, scared, and ignorant. After that grand entrance, the life we end up with is simply an accumulation of all the choices we make. Our choices can be our best friend or our worst enemy" -Culled from "THE COMPOUND EFFECT" authored by . I recommend this book to you. Thank you!
At this point, I want to say that... "Most times our choice is God's priority. To the first mechanic, he had tried his best, therefore his chi should be blamed. Like Adam, who also blamed his chi for giving him Eve when he failed.
Honestly speaking, marriages and relationships are going down daily because people failed to acknowledge and take responsibility, where they contributed to the problems that destroyed the joy, togetherness and love they once shared.
Often times, people come to me trying to convince me to believe that, they've tried so hard to making their marriages work, but to no avail.
For me, they've really worked so hard like the . In fact, in one occasion, one of them told me that... from the look of things, it's the will of God they divorce. Interesting, right?
Share with me this interesting story -culled from .
"I decided...( the author, Darren Hardy speaking)..to keep a Thanks Giving journal for my wife. Every day for an entire year. I logged at least one thing l appreciated about her,..the way she interacted with her friends, how she cared for our dogs, the fresh bed she prepared, a succulent meal she whipped up. I looked for the things my wife was doing that touched me, or revealed attributes, characteristics, or qualities I appreciated. I wrote them all down secretly for the entire year. By the end of that year, I'd filled an entire journal. When I gave her the following thanksgiving, she cried, calling it the best gift she'd ever received. The journal forced me to focus on my wife's positive aspects. I was consciously looking for all the things she was doing right. This caused me to show up differently in my marriage, which, of course, made her respond differently to me".
Are you tired of your marriage or think that the only option left is ? I urge you to try 'sformula as an extra effort like the second mechanic who later succeeded.
Most times, our problem is pride. What is the essence of marriage, if one cannot be happier in it than when he/she was single. If we can do anything to get married, we should equally do everything possible to make it work.
In , Anything you wish to a better result this year: is it in your business, marriage or personal development? TRY something NEW. You may fail while trying, it's natural. Be patient with yourself, reinforce your commitment and try again.
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Thanks for reading.
-Johnwesley Chimezie
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