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28/04/2025

GASLIGHTING: EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Hello esteemed family, welcome to Fix It today...

Have you ever felt like your partner is manipulating your perception of reality, making you feel like you don't know what you are doing? Then that's what we call gaslighting.

It is one of the most dangerous red flags in a relationship that should make you run for your dear life if you notice it and can't handle it.

Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse where one person makes the other doubt their own sanity, memory, or perception. It's a subtle yet damaging behaviour that can erode trust and confidence.

Signs of Gaslighting:

- Denying previous agreements or conversations. They never stick to plan or agreement, they will certainly give you reasons why they won't. Telling you how you never said anything about the issue.

- Minimizing or trivializing your feelings. They will tell you how you're over thinking and feeling about things. How you feel doesn't matter to them either.

- Blaming you for their behaviour. They will blame you for every of their wrong action, instead of feeling remorse, you'll be the one begging at last.

- Making you question your own memory or sanity. They make you think you are sick in the head, or that you don't know what you're doing.

- Isolating you from others. They make you think you don't need others, while they are never there for you either.

- most people who gaslight are very selfish, insensitive and wicked. They think only of themselves and do only what favours them.

How to Protect Yourself:

- Trust your instincts and feelings.

- Keep a record of events and conversations.

- Seek support from trusted friends, family, or a therapist.

- Set clear boundaries and communicate assertively.

If you recognize gaslighting in your relationship, prioritize your own well-being and take action. You deserve respect, trust, and honesty in a relationship.

19/04/2025

FORGIVENESS: THE HEALING YOUR RELATIONSHIP NEEDS!

Hello and welcome to Fix it Today...

Imagine standing before a judge, guilty of every wrongdoing imaginable. But just as the verdict is about to be pronounced, the judge steps down, tears off his robe, and embraces you, saying, "I forgive you. You're free to start afresh.

That's the love of Christ for us. He took our sins upon Himself, showing us the ultimate act of forgiveness.

I can hear you saying that you are not Christ, well, let me tell you this for free, if you don't cultivate the attitude and habit of forgiveness, then you are not ready to build a relationship.

WHAT ACTUALLY IS FORGIVENESS?

Forgiveness is choosing to let go of resentment, anger, and hurt. It's not forgetting or condoning wrongdoing but releasing the hold it has on us.

Now we can see that by forgiving our partners, we are not just doing them good but also releasing ourselves from a strong bo***ge and emotional torture.

We don't forgive to forget, or accept the wrong doing of our partners but we forgive to correct them, free ourselves and also heal our relationship.

I repeat, if you are not ready to forgive, then forget about building a healthy relationship.

You must be offended, and the funniest part of the whole show is that you are not even perfect 😃. So you certainly would need your partner's forgiveness.

Please, choose to forgive him or her, do this for the health of your relationship. You can do this, trust me😍.

BTW: This is Easter season, a season of LOVE and FORGIVENESS...
May this season bring healing to our relationships in Jesus name, Amen.

18/04/2025

💘A LOVE LIKE NO OTHER💘

Our love is fleeting, here today
Gone tomorrow, fading away
But Christ's love stands, through every test
A love that endures, forever best

Our love is selfish, seeking its own
But Christ's love gives, to make us known
He laid down His life, for our sake
A sacrifice, that our hearts can't fake

Our love is weak, in times of strife
But Christ's love strong, cuts through life
It heals the broken, frees the bound
A love that's powerful, forever profound

Our love may falter, fail, and fall
But Christ's love rises, standing tall
It forgives, it gives, it never ends
A love that's pure, that transcends

Let us behold, this love so true
A love that redeems, forever new
May Christ's love be, our guiding light
A love that shines, through darkest night.




❤️ PEACE❤️

✝️ Happy Easter Friday✝️

17/04/2025

DANGERS OF INFERIORITY COMPLEX IN A RELATIONSHIP AND HOW TO OVERCOME IT...

Hello esteemed family, welcome to Fix It today...

When one partner feels inferior, it can lead to:

1. Allowing Third Parties to Interfere: You might seek validation from others, compromising your relationship.

2. Self-Doubt and Low Self-Esteem: Feeling unworthy can affect your mental health and overall well-being.

3. Relationship instability: Inferiority complex can create tension, resentment, and conflict in your relationship.

4. Lack of self-confidence: Your partner may also struggle with self-confidence, feeling like they're with someone who doesn't believe in themselves.

5. Giving Up: You might stop trying to improve the relationship or yourself, leading to stagnation.

6. Insecurity: Inferiority complex can fuel feelings of insecurity, making it harder to navigate relationship challenges.

7. Separation or Divorce: In severe cases, it can even lead to the breakdown of the relationship.

HOW TO OVERCOME INFERIORITY COMPLEX

1. Communicate Openly: Talk to your partner about your feelings and concerns.

2. Build Self-Esteem: Focus on your strengths and accomplishments.

3. Seek Support: Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for guidance.

4. Practice Self-Care: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being.

5. Constant Appreciation: Show gratitude and appreciation for your partner and their efforts.

6. Frequent Affirmations: Tell your spouse you love them and assure them they're the best.

7. Encouragement: Be there to encourage and support your partner's growth and development.

8. Unconditional Love: Let your partner know you'll love them regardless of their imperfections.

PS: let's fight against INFERIORITY COMPLEX, it has done more harm in relationships today.

16/04/2025

Hello fix It family,

DON'T GIVE UP YET!

I know it has not been easy this period, but hear this : The Lord will make a way where there is no way.

My lady, please be patient with your man, everything will be alright.

My dear man, keep pushing, don't give up, do the right thing, things will work out as planned.

Much love 💕😘

15/04/2025

INFERIORITY COMPLEX DESTROYS RELATIONSHIP...
Hello esteemed family, welcome to Fix It Today!

Dear couples, today, we're talking about something that can quietly creep into your relationship and cause major damage: inferiority complex. You might be wondering, "What exactly is this?" Well, let's break it down.

What is Inferiority Complex?
Inferiority complex is a feeling of inadequacy or not being good enough. In relationships, it can make one partner feel like they're not worthy of the other. Imagine feeling like you're "not enough" for your spouse – it's like carrying a weight that affects your self-esteem and relationship dynamics.

Inferiority complex brings about insecurity in your relationship, it shells you in your comfort zone and makes you a perpetual melancholic...

A man with inferiority complex will not fully assume his position in the family.

A woman with inferiority complex will always make mistakes because she would rather stay put in the relationship than to contribute anything.

SOME CAUSES OF INFERIORITY COMPLEX IN RELATIONSHIPS

So, what might cause this feeling of inferiority in relationships? Here are a few possible reasons:

1. Past Experiences: Traumatic events, past relationships, or childhood experiences can leave emotional scars, making you feel inadequate.

2. Comparison: Comparing yourself to others, whether it's social media friends, or family, can create unrealistic expectations and feelings of inadequacy.

3. Lack of Communication: Poor communication or not feeling heard can lead to feelings of insignificance.

4. Societal Pressures: Cultural or societal expectations can make you feel like you're not meeting certain standards.

5. Over expectation from your spouse: when your partner expects more than you can actually offer, it makes you feel like you're not doing enough. It makes you feel like you have nothing to offer since you can't meet up with his or her expectations.

To be continued...

14/04/2025

HOW TO BREAK THE CYCLE OF CHEATING.

Hello and welcome to Fix It Today...

Cheating can be a devastating blow to any relationship, but it's not impossible to overcome. With effort, commitment, and a willingness to work through the issues, you can break the cycle of cheating and build a stronger, healthier relationship.

STOPPING THE CYCLE:

1. Acknowledge the Hurt: Take responsibility for your actions and acknowledge the pain you've caused your partner.

2. Identify the Reasons: Reflect on why you cheat and address the root cause. Is it insecurity, fear, or a lack of communication? This is very important, talk about it with your partner.

3. Commit to Change: Prioritize your relationship and make a conscious effort to stop cheating.

4. Be Transparent: Be open and honest with your partner, and work to rebuild trust. Stop hiding things, your phone and friends from your partner.

5. Seek Help: Consider therapy or counselling. Though this is optional because we always advice couples to try fixing things themselves. But if you try, and you're not able, don't hesitate to get the services of a professional.

HEALING TOGETHER:

If you really want to stop cheating, if you want to heal the relationship, then you go through the process with your partner.

1. Communicate Openly: Share your feelings, needs, and concerns with your partner.

2. Set Boundaries: Establish clear expectations and work together to rebuild trust.

3. Rebuild Trust: Focus on consistency, transparency, and follow-through on commitments. This aspect is very important. Consistency is the key here.

4. Always hang out together, get to be more intimate with your partner, get to reassure them consistently.

A NEW BEGINNING:

My dear couples, remember that breaking the cycle of cheating requires effort, commitment, and a willingness to work through the issues. By working together and prioritizing your relationship, you can build a stronger, healthier bond and create a brighter future together.

12/04/2025

That is how life should actually be
👌

“Everybody who works for me including our cooks, maid, gatemen, and friends, all eat the same food I eat and use the same plates. They can take some of my cars out for a drive and feel free. That’s how I was raised.

My father taught me to see everyone as family and treat them like my own siblings, no matter their situation, because you never know who might save you tomorrow.

If my wife is cooking, she makes sure there’s enough for everyone to eat, including the gateman,” ____ Davido reveals!

You can’t be normal if you don’t like Davido!

The man is so humble! 🙌

11/04/2025

WHY YOU SHOULD SAY NO TO CHEATING

Hello esteemed family, welcome to Fix it Today...

Cheating can leave a relationship in shambles, with broken trust, hurt feelings, and a deep sense of betrayal. But why? Let's dive below.

SOME CONSEQUENCES OF CHEATING CAN BE SEEN AS FOLLOWS:

EMOTIONAL TSUNAMI: Cheating can unleash a wave of emotions, including anger, sadness, and hurt, that can be overwhelming and difficult to navigate.
Hmmmmm! Believe me, this has led to the brutal killing of many.

SHATTERED TRUST: When trust is broken, it can be challenging to repair. The foundation of the relationship is compromised, and it may take a long time to rebuild. Even if you're forgiven, you might never be trusted again.

RELATIONSHIP RUIN: Cheating can lead to the demise of a relationship. The hurt and betrayal caused by cheating can be too much for some relationships to overcome.

SHATTERED SELF ESTEEM: Cheating can also damage a person's self-esteem and self-worth. The person who was cheated on may feel unwanted, unloved, or unappreciated. Same with the cheater, you lose your worth the moment you start cheating on your partner. You might be surprised that even the person you're cheating with won't respect you ever after. Therefore you end up disrespecting yourself and your partner.

LONG TERM CONSEQUENCES: The consequences of cheating can be long-term, affecting not just the relationship but also the individuals involved. It can lead to anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues.
..TBC...

10/04/2025

CHEATING:THE SILENT KILLER OF RELATIONSHIPS

Hello esteemed family and welcome to Fix It today...

Cheating has destroyed countless relationships, leaving behind a trail of broken hearts, shattered trust, and devastated lives. It's a phenomenon that's become alarmingly common, with many people engaging in it without sober consideration.

But what exactly is cheating? Cheating is the act of being unfaithful to your partner, whether it's through physical infidelity, emotional affairs, or even just flirting with someone else. It's a breach of trust, a violation of the commitment you've made to your partner, and a disregard for the feelings and well-being of the person you love.

Many people cheat without thinking through the consequences. They may be driven by a momentary lapse in judgement, a desire for excitement, or a need for validation. But whatever the reason, cheating is never worth it.

When you cheat, you're not just hurting your partner; you're also hurting yourself. You're risking the loss of the relationship, the trust, and the love that you've built together. You're also compromising your own integrity and self-respect.

So, why do people cheat? Often, it's due to a lack of communication, intimacy, or connection in the relationship. Sometimes, it's a result of personal issues, such as insecurity, low self-esteem, or a fear of commitment.

Whatever the reason, cheating is never the solution. Instead of cheating, try communicating with your partner. Talk to them about your feelings, your desires, and your concerns. Work together to build a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.

Remember, relationships take work and effort to maintain. But with trust, communication, and mutual respect, you can build a relationship that's strong, healthy, and fulfilling.

So, don't cheat. Choose to prioritise your relationship and your partner. Choose to communicate, to trust, and to respect each other. Your relationship will thank you.
.. To be continued...

31/03/2025

WHY YOUR PARTNER LOST INTEREST IN YOU...

Hello esteemed family and welcome to Fix It today!

Have you lost that initial Loving Feeling, and you've been wondering why?

Let's talk about something that's really common in relationships, but not often discussed: losing interest in our partner. It's easy to get caught up in the daily grind and let the spark in our relationship fade, but what are some specific reasons why this might happen?

Here are 4 reasons why a party might lose interest in their partner:

NO MORE ATTENTION: When we feel like our partner is no longer making an effort to spend quality time with us, listen to us, or show us affection, it's easy to feel unimportant and lose interest.

NO MORE COMPLIMENTS: Who doesn't love a good compliment? When our partner no longer takes the time to notice and appreciate us, it can make us feel unseen and unappreciated.

NO MORE SURPRISES: Surprises can be a great way to keep things exciting and fresh in a relationship. When our partner no longer makes an effort to surprise us, it can make us feel like we're stuck in a rut.

NO EFFORTS: When our partner no longer puts in effort to resolve conflicts, plan dates, or show interest in our lives, it can make us feel like we're carrying the load alone.

If you're feeling like your partner has lost interest in you, or vice versa, it's time to take a closer look at what's going on. Are there underlying issues that need to be addressed? Are there changes you can make to reignite the spark?

Share your thoughts: What do you think are some common reasons why interest fades in relationships? How have you kept the spark alive in your own relationship?

Interest

17/03/2025

SUPPORT YOUR MAN!

Hello esteemed family and welcome to Fix today,

My fellow ladies and wives, let's talk about something that's really important for a healthy and thriving relationship. As women, we often expect our men to be strong, supportive, and caring. And while it's true that men should strive to be their best selves for their partners, it's equally important for us to return that love and support.

When our men are doing their best to provide for us, care for us, and make our relationships work, it's essential that we acknowledge and appreciate their efforts. Instead of focusing on their shortcomings or mistakes, let's choose to see the good in them and encourage them to keep going.

It's easy to get frustrated and feel like walking away when things get tough. But the truth is, relationships take work, and it's in those difficult moments that we need to dig deep and find the strength to keep pushing forward.

So, what can we do to support our men and strengthen our relationships?

Be their rock: Offer a listening ear, a comforting presence, and a supportive attitude.

Communicate openly: Share your thoughts, feelings, and concerns with your partner, and listen to theirs without judgment.

Appreciate their efforts: Show gratitude for all that your partner does for you, no matter how small it may seem.

Work through challenges together: Instead of giving up, face difficulties head-on with your partner, and find solutions together.

By doing these things, we can build stronger, more resilient relationships that bring joy, love, and fulfillment to our lives.

So, ladies and wives, let's make a conscious effort to support our men, encourage them, and work together to build relationships that thrive.

Remain blessed ❤️✌️