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25/11/2025

NERVOUSNESS IS NOT YOUR ENEMY — IT IS YOUR SIGNAL

By Abdulhakeem A. Adedoja, M.Sc. (Clinical Psychologist)

I recently came across a thoughtful post on LinkedIn by Dr. Julius Kunle Oni, a surgeon with over 13 years of experience.
He shared something very profound:

“I still get nervous before every surgery. Every. Single. One.”

That statement touched me because it shows something many people don’t understand.
He isn’t nervous because he doubts his ability.
He is nervous because he understands the weight of responsibility, the trust of another human being, and the seriousness of the work he does.

As a clinical psychologist, here is the truth I want you to take from this:

Nervousness is not a sign of weakness.
Nervousness is a sign that what you are doing matters.
It is your mind’s way of preparing you.
It increases your focus.

It sharpens your attention.

It helps you stay aware and present.

Even highly skilled professionals feel nervous before big moments.
It doesn’t stop them it guides them. So the next time you feel nervous, don’t judge yourself.
Don’t think something is wrong with you.
Instead, remind yourself:
“This moment is important.”
“My body is preparing me to do well.”
“This feeling means I care.”
Nervousness isn’t your enemy — it is your reminder. Learn to use it, not fear it.

22/11/2025

Today is International Survivors of Su***de Loss Day, also known as 💙
For survivors of su***de loss, there is a special kind of comfort that comes from being in the presence of others who have faced this deeply complex and painful experience. 🫂✨ Being together helps survivors gain understanding, share strength, and support each other on their unique healing journeys.
Across the world today, in-person events are being held to bring su***de loss survivors together. Many people attend every year to honor their loved ones, reflect on their healing, and acknowledge how their emotions evolve with time.
As part of our commitment to emotional wellbeing, Hafcom Psychological Solutions stands with all survivors today offering compassion, solidarity, and hope.

20/11/2025

FREE Su***de Prevention Training 🌟

Join us for a special QPR Su***de Prevention Awareness Training
with Dr. JohnBosco Chika Chukwuorji, a leading expert in mental health and su***de prevention.

Host: T**i Tade
Date: 24th November 2025
Platform: Zoom
Zoom ID: 91613693979
https://msu.zoom.us/j/91613693979
Fee: Completely FREE

Learn how to:
✔ Recognize warning signs
✔ Ask the right questions
✔ Offer hope
✔ Connect a person to help
✔ Potentially save a life

Let’s build a community that knows how to respond with skill, compassion, and confidence.
Everyone is invited. Please share widely.

01/10/2025

Happy Independence Day, Nigeria 🇳🇬
As a Clinical Psychologist and Digital Strategist, I am reminded that true independence is not just about freedom from external control, but also about the ability to nurture our minds, innovate in our spaces, and build a nation where resilience, creativity, and unity thrive.

May we continue to grow stronger, healthier, and more purposeful as individuals and as a nation.

Abdulhakeem Adedoja
Founder, Hafcom Psychological & Digital Solutions

30/09/2025

Today marks the end of Su***de Prevention Awareness Month, but the mission continues. 💛 Every day is a chance to check in, listen, and show love to those around us.

No one should ever feel alone in their struggles. By talking openly, spreading hope, and encouraging resilience, we can save lives.
Let’s carry this light beyond September, because su***de prevention is not just a month — it’s a movement we live daily.

***dePrevention

30/09/2025

I gained 123 followers, created 66 posts and received 243 reactions in the past 90 days! Thank you all for your continued support. I could not have done it without you. 🙏🤗🎉

26/09/2025

“Sleep is the original performance drug.” – Tai Lopez

When I first came across this line on Tai Lopez’s wall, it struck me deeply. As a clinical psychologist, I see how true this is, not just in theory but in real life. Sleep is one of the simplest yet most powerful tools for mental strength and productivity.

Psychologically, sleep repairs the brain. It organizes our memories, balances our emotions, and sharpens decision-making. Without it, we’re running on empty — more irritable, less focused, and vulnerable to stress.

I’ve seen this play out around me here in Nigeria:
Students in Ibadan pulling all-nighters before exams, only to forget what they crammed because their brains didn’t get time to consolidate it.

Commercial drivers in Lagos dozing off at the wheel after nights of poor rest, putting themselves and passengers at risk.

Even professionals in offices depending on endless coffee while neglecting rest, not realizing their true productivity is slipping.

For me, this quote is a reminder that performance is not just about working harder but also about working wiser.

Sleep is not laziness; it’s strategy. It’s resilience. It’s preparation for greatness.

So, the next time you’re tempted to trade your sleep for more hours of work, remember: the real performance booster is already within your reach every night — quality sleep.

Adedoja Abdulhakeem Alao, Clinical Psychologist & Digital Strategist

24/09/2025

The Psychology of Opportunism: A Lesson from Nigeria

I came across a powerful story shared by Ismail Abdulazeez Mantu (Diary of a Traveler), and I believe it carries deep psychological lessons for us all.

He had an appointment at the Russian Embassy in Abuja by 11am. But on getting there, he mistakenly stopped at the UN Office, which had the same paint color. The time was 10:42am, and he was visibly frustrated.

The security guards directed him to some taxi drivers across the road. Immediately, about five rushed toward him.

“Oga, where you dey go?”
“Russian Embassy,” he replied.
“Ahhh! Russian Embassy far o, about two hours drive.”
“How much?” he asked.
“₦30,000,” one answered firmly.

Desperate, he tried to negotiate down to ₦20,000, but the man refused.

Then, a Hausa man selling oranges who overheard the conversation whispered in Hausa:

“If not because you are in a hurry, you can trek to the Russian Embassy.”

He asked Mantu to follow him. Time check: 10:49am.

They trekked a short distance, made two turns, crossed an overhead bridge—and boom! they were standing right in front of the Russian Embassy at 10:57am.

Mantu was so relieved that he hugged the man, even spilling some of his oranges. They chatted briefly, discovered they were both from Katsina, exchanged contacts, and parted ways.

But as he waited to be called into the Embassy, his mind returned to the taxi driver he had been pleading with. Imagine—he was about to waste ₦20,000 because someone tried to exploit his desperation.

💡 Psychological Lessons

Opportunism thrives when people sense urgency and vulnerability. The taxi driver exaggerated the distance to create an inflated price. This is a form of exploitation bias.

The orange hawker, on the other hand, represents empathy and honesty—he had nothing to gain, yet he saved a stranger money, time, and peace of mind.

The truth is, not all of Nigeria’s problems come from its leaders. Many ordinary citizens also exploit opportunities to take advantage of others. Sometimes, the difference between corruption in power and corruption on the street is simply opportunity.

👉🏽 This story reminds us: integrity is not about position, it’s about character. Every day, you and I get the chance to be either the taxi driver or the orange hawker.

Reflection for you:
When life presents you with the chance to help, will you exploit—or uplift?

Abdulhakeem Alao Adedoja
Clinical Psychologist & Digital Strategist

24/09/2025

⚽ The Dembele Challenge: Where Do Your Friends Take You?

Here’s Ousman Dembélé at the biggest football award in the world, standing with his close friend. Now, these friends wouldn’t normally have access to such an exclusive stage—but because of connection with Dembele, the doors opened.

That raises a deep question: what kind of rooms are your friends taking you into? Are they spaces that can shift your destiny, or circles that keep you stuck?

Psychology reminds us that our environment and associations shape our mindset. The people you walk with act like mirrors—reflecting back attitudes, habits, and opportunities. If your closest circle normalizes mediocrity, you start to shrink your vision. But if they normalize excellence, your brain adjusts to that standard too.

Too often it’s: “Let’s hit the club, let’s chase vibes, let’s hang out where nothing lasting happens.” 😎

But imagine friends who say:
👉 “Come with me, I’m meeting people who could fund your idea.”
👉 “Let’s sit over coffee ☕ and review this book together.”
👉 “There’s a retreat abroad—let’s go and brainstorm the next big move.”

That’s more than friendship—that’s social capital at work. The right company doesn’t just entertain you, it elevates you. It primes your mind for growth, pushes you to think bigger, and pulls you into rooms you never thought you’d enter.

👉 Moral Lesson: Let’s do the Dembele Challenge.Post the most valuable place your friends have taken you—rooms of growth, opportunity, and transformation.

23/09/2025

The Psychology of Value: Lessons from Axiology

As a psychologist, I often see how people’s choices reveal their values. Philosophy calls this axiology — the study of value. It explains why we sometimes pay more, wait longer, or sacrifice deeply for something, while ignoring cheaper or easier options.

The truth is, our lives are not driven by price tags; they are driven by what we treasure.

Think about it:

Parents in Nigeria will sacrifice for private schools even when public schools are free. Why? Because they value quality education.

Someone will buy an iPhone, not just for calls, but for the trust, design, and prestige it carries.

A customer may walk past five food sellers to buy from the one they believe is clean.

These examples remind us of something powerful: people pay for what they value, not just what you sell.

So, what’s the lesson for those starting out in life or business?
👉 Don’t compete to be the cheapest. Compete to give value that lasts.
👉 Don’t waste energy chasing shortcuts. Invest in skills, relationships, and habits that carry long-term value.

Yes, it may cost you more effort, more time, and even more money now — but what you value will reward you tomorrow.

So, as you begin this journey, ask yourself daily:

What do I truly value?

What do my customers, friends, or family value?

How can I align my choices with those values?

Because at the end of the day, success is not built on price. Success is built on value.

21/09/2025

✨ World Gratitude Day – Sunday, 21 September 2025 ✨

World Gratitude Day reminds us that appreciation is more than good manners — it’s good psychology.
When we pause to notice what’s working, our brain releases feel-good chemicals like dopamine and serotonin. Over time, these “gratitude reps” build resilience, soothe stress, and train the mind to look for possibilities instead of problems.

Today, let’s honour the people, places, and small mercies that steady us. A text, a smile, a quiet “thank you” can rewire not just your day, but someone else’s too.

💡 Pause right now and name three things you’re grateful for — then share a note of appreciation with someone who matters.

— Adedoja Abdulhakeem Alao, Clinical Psychologist & Digital Strategist

17/09/2025

🌟 From Scrolling to Connection: Lessons from Rat Park & Phone Use

A psychologist’s response during “Understanding Drug Abuse: Myths, Facts & Consequences,” a recent Safespace Initiative event

At our Safespace Initiative session, themed “Understanding Drug Abuse: Myths, Facts & Consequences,” a teen asked:

“How can I stop spending so much time on my phone? I always end up scrolling, even when I want to stop.”

That question reminded me of a famous experiment in the 1970s called Rat Park.
Researchers placed some rats alone in small cages with two bottles: plain water and water laced with drugs. Isolated rats kept returning to the drugged water — often until they harmed themselves.

But when other rats lived in a big, bright “park,” with toys, food, and other rats to play with, most ignored the drugged water. The lesson? Addiction isn’t only about the substance — it’s also about isolation, stress, and lack of connection.

Today, our “cages” can look like endless screens. Social media rewards keep us tapping, while boredom, stress, or loneliness make it hard to put the phone down.

Here’s how to create your own “Human Park” and reclaim your time 👇

1️⃣ Understand the pull
Apps are built with “hooks” — likes, notifications, infinite scroll — that keep your brain chasing rewards.

2️⃣ Reshape your environment

Keep your phone away during meals, prayer, or study.

Use timers, Do Not Disturb, or app blockers.

Make your bedroom and classroom phone-free zones.

3️⃣ Strengthen real connections
Hang out face-to-face with friends, join clubs, play sports, or volunteer — they give your brain the same lift, without the drain.

4️⃣ Train your mind
Pause when the urge hits. Take a breath and ask, “Do I really need this right now?”

5️⃣ Replace, don’t just remove
Swap scrolling for reading, art, exercise, journaling, or helping someone else.

6️⃣ Seek support
If overuse is hurting your sleep, mood, or schoolwork, talking to a counselor or psychologist can help you build new habits.

✨ Remember: Just like the rats thrived when they had space, play, and friends, we thrive when we have purpose, connection, and supportive spaces.
Your phone is a tool — not a cage.

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