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Series 5

IF YOU ARE EASILY HURT, READ THIS!!

💥 AVOID TOXIC PEOPLE:

Do you know why? Because you are flexible, their deposition may easily affect you. This is why you are always hurting by their behavior

Who is a toxic person?

A toxic person is anyone whose behavior adds negativity and upset to your life.

Many times, toxic people are dealing with their stress and traumas, and this makes them behave irrationally toward people around them

They are angry birds

They are bitter

They are sadist

They are fault-finders

They always spread negative vibes everywhere

They never see anything good in anyone or anything

They are the first-grade complainer, you are just the opposite of such a person, you are always happy, always positive, always cheerful, and looking beautiful, if you keep hanging around them, they automatically see you as a treat because you two are just like light and darkness that can never cohabit. Do yourself a favor and walk pass

In my little life and as an emotional pastor's wife, I have suffered a lot at the hands of toxic people, they always see me as a treat, they spread rumors that I show off and my joyful disposition is always a problem to them, this makes me to always have an ark enemy whenever I have a toxic person around me. I believe you can also relate to this, right?

The best solution is, when you have such a person around, avoid them, when they turn right you turn left, and do whatever you can to avoid them. But always know that you are not at fault and nothing is wrong with you, they are the one that has problems and since you can't help them, leave them. You may ask, what if they are my spouse or close family? I pray for grace for you but don't take anything they do to heart instead pray to God on their behavior because they need healing on your part, make a choice not to be hurt by whatever they do anymore, by the time they realize that you keep smiling despite what they are doing, they will let you be.

Your life is in your hands, choose to enjoy it, don't allow anyone to dump their refuse into your beautiful life, keep smiling, keep moving, you are just too beautiful to be too emotionally drained. God bless you

I just hope this helps someone just as it has helped me.

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©Olu Comfort.
Family life coach and Author

14/10/2023

Series 6

IF YOU ARE EASILY HURT, READ THIS!!

💥 DON'T ALLOW YOUR MOOD TO DEPEND ON HOW PEOPLE TREAT YOU

Remember that I mentioned in Series 1 that you are easily hurt because you are too emotional and another reason why emotional people get hurt is because they allow their mood to depend on how people treat them.

Let me explain

An emotional person always looks at people's faces a lot, you take note of who greeted you and who did not, who greeted you properly and who did not and you allow all of these to affect you badly

An emotional person can start crying because someone looks at them somehow or because someone makes a mean comment about them

If their spouse did not call on time, they may refuse to eat and start crying.....he or she didn't love me😭

If their friend did not give them a compliment about the beautiful dress they put on, wahala, they may go back home and change the dress thinking it's not beautiful just because nobody complimented the dress.

This set of people finds it difficult to enjoy any kind of relationships, especially marriage

They have enemies everywhere they go

They can not sustain friendship for a long time, and they will eventually break up with them

The problem is not the people, the problem is "you" you seek people's validation too much

See, I am not condemning you, how would l? I was once like this and it ruined many things for me but now I have rebranded myself and I can say boldly, that I am enjoying the best of God in all my relationships

It's easy to fall into the trap of seeking validation and approval from others, but this can be detrimental to our emotional well-being. When we base our emotions on someone else's behavior or opinion, it puts us in a vulnerable position to be hurt.

It's important to remember that how people treat us is a reflection of their thoughts, emotions, and experiences, and not necessarily a reflection of our worth. We should strive to build our self-worth and confidence from within so that we can maintain emotional stability, regardless of how people may treat us.

Learning to detach from these emotional dependencies can be challenging, but no worries, I am ready to work through this journey with you.

Remember, you have the power to control your emotions and reactions. Don't allow others to hold that power over you. Work on finding inner peace and confidence, and don't let anyone take that away from you.

Three powerful secrets as helped me out of this emotional hurt and I am ready to teach them for a giveaway price

Remember, you can not stop people from hurting you as long as you are in the land of the living but you can rebrand yourself to be in control of your emotions instead of your emotions controlling you.

Stay empowered and in control of your emotions. You got this!

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©Olu Comfort.
Family life coach and Author

11/10/2023

𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐒𝐩𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐂𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐬

What is marry?
Marry means to join together or combine something together

When you accept to marry someone that means you two are joined together physically, spiritually, emotionally and culturally

Culture is a way of life

Everyone one with their own culture
Different people with different cultures.

This implies that accepting to get married to someone automatically means you accepted to marry his or her culture too

You can't separate culture from human existence

Whoever you get married to, whatever is their culture shouldn't be a problem to you, especially when it's not against your faith

If you get married into a tribe that loves honor, give it to them, you know them before accepting to get married to their son or daughter

If you open your eyes and accept to marry a Yoruba man, you must be prepared to knee down and honor the family members all the days of your life, that's their ways and culture, if you are too proud to do it or your own culture do not do it, you shouldn't have agreed to get married to their child in the first place, so stop complaining.🤫

If you are married to a tribe who honors their in-laws by giving wrappers, money and drinks, you must continue to do so all through your life with them, you knew that is their culture before accepting to get married to their child 🤷

Embracing your spouse's culture is one of the ways to show your love, loyalty and acceptance. If you can't do it, don't go there.

However, as a Christian before getting married, it is important to talk about cultures, agreed on what is right for you as a child of God and what's not, stick to the ones which align with your faith and with the word of God, especially when it has to do with honouring your in-laws or giving and showing care for your in-laws.

Stop complaining that your in-laws do not love you, when you are disrespecting their cultures and ways of life, there are no two ways to it, if you can't behave like them, you can't belong to them.

Accepting your spouse's culture is respecting the person of your spouse and sacrificing for your love, marriage is about sacrifice.

However, know that you can't please the world but be sure that you are always doing the right thing.

God bless you.

©Olu Comfort
Family life coach

11/10/2023

THE BUSY ROAD OF LIFE

I remember being terrified of driving a car some years ago, especially on busy roads where big trailers were involved. It felt like there was no space for me to fit in, and everyone seemed to be too busy finding their way to their desired destination. But all that changed when my family got a car, and talking to my church member Kehinde made me feel like I could overcome my fear.

So one day, I stood by the roadside for an hour watching as women confidently drove past with the big trailers on the road. and I saw many other women driving regardless of the busy road and everyone are finding their space and their lane, I also saw some trailers on the road yet these women are driving side by side with the big trailers, they were not afraid of the trailers, the trailers and the other cars were all going on their lane on the same road, wow, I said to myself, why should I be afraid? If these other women are driving on the busy roads along side with other cars and the big trailers that mean I can find my ways too, it just for me to maintain my lane and be focus on where I am going, the big trailers not withstanding, we can all move on the road simultaneously without hindering one other. This was my turning point, thank God my husband was not in town, then I called a brother in my church Afolayan, to teach me how to drive and 14 years later, I am still driving and maintaining my lane

Here is the Lesson in My Story👇

Life is just like these busy roads. It can be overwhelming and crowded, but there's always a lane for everyone to follow on the way to their destination.

Sometimes it can be overwhelming , we might find it difficult to find our ways, sometimes we might be confused of where to turn to or the route to take, the big names in your field might intimidate you from finding your way ( Just as I was sacred of the big trailers) but the good new is, the road of life is for everyone regardless of how busy it seems, everyone has their path and their lane, but it is your responsibility to find your lane on this busy road and be courageous and focus regardless of the busyness, do not allow anyone or anything to intimidate you, keep moving on your lane and you will surely get to your destination.

Many might be doing the same thing you are doing, they might have gone far ahead of you, you might be feeling that their is no space for you anymore, I tell you, there is a space for you, keep moving on your lane, the road of life is wild enough for everyone. No one can stop the other

So my advice to you this week is to venture out onto the busy road of life. Stay focused on your lane, keep your eyes on your goals, and keep driving forward regardless of any challenges or distractions that may come your way. With determination and focus, you too will arrive at your desired destination.

Scripture: "Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us" - Hebrews 12:1 NIV

I love you



©Olu Comfort

10/10/2023

𝐌𝐘 𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐑𝐈𝐀𝐆𝐄 𝐌𝐘 𝐏𝐑𝐈𝐃𝐄 𝐃𝐀𝐈𝐋𝐘 𝐃𝐄𝐕𝐎𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋

FOCUS FOR THE MONTH: BUILDING A LASTING FAMILY RELATIONSHIP

TOPIC OF THE DAY: SOLID FAMILY RELATIONSHIP IS A JOINT EFFORTS. Part 4

Tuesday, 10th Oct. 2023

Scripture:

"Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves." - Romans 12:10

Opening Prayer:

Dear Lord, we come before you this day grateful for the gift of family. As we delve into today's devotion, we ask that you open our hearts and minds to the truth that you have for us. Help us to learn ways to strengthen and build lasting relationships within our family. Amen.

Devotional:

We all desire to have a strong family relationship that lasts for a lifetime, but it takes effort and a willingness to work together to make it happen. Building solid family relationships is a joint effort that cuts across every member of the family. This means that we must all respect one another and honor each person's unique qualities and contributions to our family.

Respect is an essential element that should be present in every family relationship. When we respect one another, we take the time to listen to each other's opinions, we share and collaborate on important decisions, and we do our best to empathize with one another. Respect is the foundation for building trust and ensures that everyone feels valued and appreciated.

As we work on building a lasting family relationship, we must remember that respecting one another is not a one-time thing but a continuous effort that requires intention and consistency. We should actively seek ways to show each other respect, such as:

1. Communication: Speak kindly and listen attentively to one another.

2. Embrace differences: Celebrate the unique qualities that each person brings to the family.

3. Encourage each other: Offer words of encouragement and support to one another.

These are just a few ways we can show respect to one another, there are many more. As we put effort into respecting one another as individuals, we are building solid family relationships that stand the test of time.

Closing Prayer:

Father, we thank you for this time together as a family. As we go through our endeavours, help us to remember to show respect to one another and foster lasting relationships that glorify your name. May your love fill our household, and may we continue to grow in your love. We ask this in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

You can read this devotional out to your family members during your devotion time."

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