18/09/2019
The way I see most Mental Health Campaigns, including R U Ok Day, is that they’re managed by inspirational leaders, created with jaw-droppingly good intent but based on (unfortunately) old science!
Like most frameworks of the modern Western World - they focus on behavioural change. Specifically, reaching out and talking to someone.
What we now know is that a brain that is highly anxious, traumatised, depressed, shut down or in survival mode is a brain that will find talking exceptionally difficult!
And the more overwhelming those mental experiences, the harder any cognitive process (including talking) will be!
We are effectively asking the most vulnerable people in our society to do something they can’t possibly do!
This is devastatingly unhelpful.
If we could move all of the mental health campaigns away from the ‘talk to someone’ rhetoric and towards what recent research shows us to be true, we’d be focusing on regulating the nervous system, not talking.
On connection, before communication.
Educating the world about how to lower a highly aroused nervous system, so that our limbic system can calm down, so that our body can unclench, so that our cognitive functioning begins to return.
So that eventually we might be able to form analytical thoughts, make sense of our experiences and take steps to get better.
This is 100%, hand on heart, devastatingly critical to our future.
And it isn’t just my opinion, it’s science.
Until we shift the focus of mental health campaigns from behavioural action to regulatory action we will have a world filled with people doing the only thing they possibly can.
Staying safe.
Which involves functioning at our best, smiling, carrying on and holding it together. Because a world that asks of us that which we can’t possibly do is not a safe place.
And in THAT world talking isn’t an option, it’s an impossibility.
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