Rinse Gestalttherapie & -coaching

16/12/2025

These days I feel a strong need to turn inward. Feel the warmth of my body. Get touched by some series I am watching. Knit. Hug people I love. Listen to myself when my body clearly says “NO”. Take the time to pet my cats. Hear their purs, put my ear to their bellies and enjoy our time together. This can only happen if allow myself to be tired, too. Bumbed out about my open to-dos. Dissapointed when some amazing plan I had didn’t happen like I fantasised. Allow mistakes. It’s crazy what is happening in the world as we speak, but what is even more crazy is how far we have let it come by turning away from our own bodies our own natures, our homelands. All though I often feel the pain of the world and the powerlessness, the reality makes me humble and strong, because nothing real can be lost. Reminds me to be brave and undo, mourn and redo what it means to live together in this beautiful world.

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28/11/2025

This is the moment to take a quick look at your insurance and see if anything needs an update. Make sure to check whether Gestalt Therapy is reimbursed under alternative medicine in your policy before the new year begins if you are considering it.

For me, offering Gestalt Therapy means being part of the world, part of the environment of my clients, and this needs both responsibility and flexibility.

By being a member of the Dutch and European Gestalt associations, and the RBCZ (umbrella); I commit myself to ongoing learning, self-reflection, and maintaining the right standards and procedures.

All so that you receive the quality of care you deserve.

Quality, for me, means:
- plenty of supervision and intervision
- my own learning therapy
- workshops, seminars, reading, and chewing on Gestalt theory with colleagues in similarities and differences.
- staying attuned to how individual struggles are often part of something larger in the world, that I am also a part off and interact with.

Ultimately, all of this comes together in one simple moment: when I step into my room, sit in my chair, empty myself, and meet the person in front of me — fully, openly, exactly where they are. Being present for how they carry their life.

Especially in the wild growth of therapists and coaches (on a spectrum between aloof and over-protocollisation) it’s good to know there’s people working hard to keep a high standard, behind the curtains of this therapy that holds both ends. Depth and responsibility.

25/11/2025

I often hear people talk critically to themselves when it comes down to self esteem and it pains me that our capitalist, individualistic system seems to reinforce this stance.

There is an introject, a rule, that you should be able to “make” self esteem - yourself. As if a) having low self esteem means that you yourself made this happen without any environment or b) that what you ate doubtful about is a bad thing or c) that its a bad thing to struggle with self esteem (we all do in some form, I have grown to love my self doubt as a precious guide)

There is a lot of freedom to be reclaimed in finding more connection with each other.

05/11/2025

A human’s life can’t ever be managed nor can life’s issues be reduced to a five step plan. I am so grateful to be here.

22/10/2025

It’s a joy to be hidden and a disaster not to be found ~Winnicott

On the axis of separation and togetherness is where we structured our selves, our identities. How well and specifically how we were met in our needs and wants organise how we navigate this thing called life.

Being alone in itself can be wonderful but often times it became a safety measure. From dealing with the dangers of situations being to intrusive or maybe the other way around, from dealing with abandonment.

What is there in the old painful isolation, that another human could understand and support? What would happen to the closeness and to the isolation?

However little, something shifts when we grow awareness over what we left something behind, this time in connection to others. To not change it but to provide it with the company that was missing. Speaking the words. Feeling and sharing the feelings. Finding the other.



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10/10/2025

When I walk through the neighbourhood it’s easy to lose myself in the amount of noises and impressions, let alone the chaos of tourism that seems to never lose its appetite.

But when I focus there is really beauty in everything. Grounding me into my day ahead.

The obvious beautiful canal with the blue sky and the autumn trees. But also the way that people have organised this little garbage dumping spot. I laugh when I think about who put their bike in exactly this spot, what where they doing that they did or didn’t notice it? These dirty spots remind me of the stories of an old Amsterdam, in Medieval times, where chaos and lack of hygiene was also not really a thing.

As I walk back, I notice the teeny tiny moon right above the Amsterdam houses, almost not visible, yet there she is.

16/09/2025

I wrote a little something (link in bio) about caregivers—the ones who hold space, who listen deeply, who carry so much. I believe it’s essential that we also learn to nurture the nurturers of this world.

This isn’t something that applies only to women… but I’d almost dare to say it always applies to women. And honestly, I think the world could use a little more feminine energy—regardless of gender or biological s*x. It’s also a way of honoring true masculine energy, which is often misunderstood. But I digress.

Beyond offering learning therapy, what moves me most is the power of support and sharing. Of remembering the “us” that so many of us long for in a society that often feels disconnected.

What I love about Gestalt is that I see people not as problems to fix or tasks to manage, but as part of co-created experiences. It invites us to explore what it really means to help—in a way that doesn’t leave us drained, but connected and whole.

And that, I believe, is something truly worth our time. 🤍

13/09/2025

Humbled and happy. Thank you for taking the time to write these kind words, this truly means a lot

09/09/2025

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about caregivers. How much they give. How little they often receive. And how the systems around us don’t really provide the nourishment that’s needed when your work is holding space for others.

That’s why I’ve started offering Gestalt Learning Therapy (in person or online, not for NSG students). It’s a space where we can meet authentically, explore what’s emerging between us, and—if you want—bring in Gestalt principles that can deepen the way you work with clients.

It’s not about “fixing” but about relating. About remembering what it’s like to be supported, so you can keep supporting others.

I wrote a blog about it on my website—if this sparks something in you, feel free to check it out.

Therapists and caregivers need care too. For students (not NSG) of Gestalt | For psychologists| For informal caregivers | For social workers | For teachers | For artists

07/08/2025

A space to land, to be held, and to heal—together.

Group therapy is where life’s stories find meaning, where community replaces isolation, and where support is woven between us.

🔆In my Therapy room there is a space for people that found themselves questioning if they belonged. I work from intersectionality and hold ancestry to a high regard.

🌀Therapy isn’t only about what is within us, here it is always about us, together, too.

23/07/2025

Life isn’t always what we think it will be. In society and daily life we look at skills and flow charts to make sense of what it is about. And surely that gives us a sense of security. We think; this is my plan and I’ll just work really hard to reach my goals.

And then, life’s events catch up to us that put things really in perspective. Divorce. Burnout or bore out. Breakups. Birth. Death. Making you not just re-evaluating the goals you set, but also shuffling what you thought the point was. What you are here for.

It can bring shock or grief. It can make you rethink a lot of decisions you made. To me, all of those moments without exception are wonderful moments of clarity. And don’t get me wrong they can be ugly or hard af, too, wonderfully messy and beautiful painful.

So what if we sit with that long enough for us to understand what remains un-lived? What do we need? What is this specific issue telling me, to live my life in my own power?

- always on point 🖤

21/07/2025

Monday reminder to go easy on yourself. To allow what exists. Let it breathe. Even in the resistance there is wisdom.