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22/03/2022

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24/04/2021

Foreplay is so much more than just the physical suggestion that kick-starts a s*xual encounter. Foreplay is the energy that runs through an entire relationship. It begins at the end of the previous or**sm and it lives as an ever-present suggestion that a small look, touch, text, or banter might lead...

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29/11/2020

"Good s*x is about learning how to feel and be honest about what that is." -Sarah Byrden Sarah is a sacred s*xuality teacher/s*x educator who has worked with...

12/11/2020

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02/11/2020

**FOR HER SURRENDER - TRANSMISSION FOR MEN**⁣

I had a male client communicate to me today: “she’s so hard. I want her to be softer. It pi**es me off when she is so hard. What do I do? I keep telling her to be softer and to surrender in her femininity, but it’s not working.”⁣

“Well firstly, you being annoyed by her “hardness” as you put it, is only going to support more hardness.” I replied.⁣

She is already “soft” by nature. If she is not willing to be in that energy with you, there are parts of your being which she does not fully trust at this point. ⁣

An emotionally reactive and unclear man, is felt as a weak untrustworthy man. You don’t have to like it. It simply is what it is. ⁣

Even if her mind wants to trust you, her body will never feel safe enough to open in your company. It will brace in your presence. There will be an energetic cocooning as a form of protection. Not because you are a bad man, but because there are too many parts of you which are unclear, uncertain, and dispersive. This is unsafe for her on every level of love & surrender. ⁣

Men, you must realize to some degree what it means for her to be in a place of deep softness and receptivity with you. For you, it turns you on. For her, it’s risking life. ⁣

It requires her to release all order and control, which she has been forced to barricade up around herself, based on her past experiences with males. ⁣

This is what you are asking when you request for her to “surrender” more. You are inviting her into absolute exposure.⁣

On top of that, you are also wanting to literally insert a part of your body up inside of her, in a way which allows you to have full control over how you move it inside of her, in the most sensitive part of her entire physicality. DO YOU REALIZE HOW MUCH TRUST THIS REQUIRES? ⁣

As men, we cannot ever truly feel the reality of this situation in our body, and what it must actually feel like when it is presented in a disconnected and hungry way. ⁣

On the other end of the scale, having such intimacy presented in a connected, sensitive and conscious way must be like taking silky rockets of love-drops, made of dark chocolate, to the milky way. Excuse me, I’m veering...⁣

Basically, you are requiring her to bathe in oceans of vulnerability. A vulnerability which has been many times before you; used against her - disrespected, judged & dropped.⁣

Based on all of this...why on earth would she trust a man who she hasn’t vetted repeatedly?⁣

Welcome her challenge. ⁣

Welcome her moment to moment tests. ⁣

Realize it’s because she actually gives a damn about you. If she didn’t, she would never feel the need to test anything about you.⁣

If any of this sounds like something you simply don’t want to engage with, then leave her alone. She can probably find someone safer than you. ⁣

What men need to see is the beauty in the challenge - the beauty present in the opportunity to demonstrate your wisdom and strength. This, is the dance. ⁣

If you are wanting to show up for yourself, for community, for her - regardless of how terrified you may be, beautiful! Stay there, in your integrity, and allow her to continuously experience you. ⁣

Finally, the question answered:⁣

How do we as men experience woman in her softness? ⁣

Through learning how to LOVE HER.⁣

Especially in her hardness. Especially in her anger. Especially in her frustration. Especially in her tension. Especially in all the places she has been mishandled and traumatized. ⁣

Love her!⁣

And then love her more...if you want to. ⁣

If you don’t want to, there’s nothing wrong with that - But leave her the f**k alone. She doesn’t need another half-assed version of undercooked love. None of us do. If you are going to be there, at least commit to it.⁣

You want her to be soft? Learn how to love her. ⁣

Much love,⁣
Chris⁣
www.awakenedintent.com

Spiritual Development, Authentic Relating, Conscious S*x - Bringing realness, consciousness , and deep truth to our mishandled human condition. Spiritual Mentor. S*xual Alchemist . Energy Worker.

25/10/2020

THIS!!

Subject: SELF WORTH (Deep!!!) In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: 'What kind of man are you looking for?' She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, 'Do you really want to know?' Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes. She began to expound, 'As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man... or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?' The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought & stated, 'I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life. He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain. She said, 'I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man. I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. Hey may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself. When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, 'You are asking a lot. She replied, "I'm worth a lot". Send this to every woman who's worth a lot.... and every man who has the brains to understand!!!

22/10/2020

"THE RESTORATION OF EROTIC INNOCENCE AND THE SHADOW OF SEXUAL LIBERATION. By Vanessa Florence

Over the past ten years I’ve been working deeply in the conscious s*xuality fields.

I’ve worked as a seduction and pick up coach for men, as a ta***ic bodyworker, I lived in the centre of a B**M kink community and a ta***ic yoga community. I created what at the time was Australia biggest residential s*xuality festival called S*x Camp and attended various other s*xuality events and offerings held by others, I have held space for thousands of women and men in the erotic initiation experience Dancing Eros I created, I’ve done hundreds of private coaching sessions with people in this area..

Yep I reckon over the past decade I’ve been directly and intimately able to witness and be part of thousands and thousands of peoples embodiment and relationship to their s*xuality.

Over this time I’ve become extremely finessed at tracking the energetics of intimacy, s*xual expression and energy. It’s become one of my areas of mastery for sure.

It has been an absolute privilege to witness a level of beauty, healing and freedom in human beings that is beyond what most people could ever dream is possible.

It's what I've continually been an advocate for with this type of work and I still am.

At the same time though, something I have been less inclined to really name is the absolutely epic levels of distortions that exist in the s*xual liberation communities and the greater world at large.

For some of you what I’m about to say may seem overly conservative, puritanical and judgemental; especially those of you that are still of the narrative that “all s*xual expression is beautiful and we shouldn’t shame it, everyone is free to express how they like and all of it is sacred” etc

However these days..I tend to disagree.

What I have experienced over the years is that s*xual purity is RARE as f**k and is desperately needed to restore health to humanity.

When I say purity I mean s*x that is free from distortion, conditioned programs, disassociations and collective or personal traumas that have kinked out our nervous systems and perverted the innocence and beautiful naturalness of our s*x.

By purity I mean s*x that is deeply connected to the heart.

By purity I mean s*x as an expression of love.

S*x is a deeply intimate act, to have someone inside of you, to be inside of someone, to open and let go and reveal and bond ourselves with each other in the deepest way possible.

S*x from this place of sensitivity and true safety is one of the most jaw dropping, holy things to experience in another and in yourself, it will make you cry, it will totally change who you are and take you to states of bliss, wonder and awe that bring you to your knees in trembling worship at the beauty and the blessing of your incarnations potential.

Yet the amount of people actually experiencing that is rare.

Instead overt s*x is everywhere, selling everything, billboards. magazines, the music industry and movies. The conditioning is so deep and so rife supporting others to continually numb out the heart, desensitize from the true vulnerability of s*x and violate and objectify themselves and each other in subtle and not so subtle ways.

S*x has been phenomenally cheapened by the western world by being treated with so much frivolous lightness that it has now lost its true value and our society is like this lust obsessed monster that’s just gone off the rails.

Starting early for many; with the rush to lose our virginity and get laid, to get to 4th base or swipe right our way to the next conquest.

Perhaps it is all a societal swing back reaction from christianity, religion and the Victorian era that made us all out to be dirty, sinful creatures so we are now trying to rebel and reclaim our power that was suppressed back then.

But like any reaction it’s still not really integrated or healthy in its expression. Whether it’s under active or over active the truth is it still hasn’t found balance.

This is not just a mainstream thing either but is wildly present in a lot of the s*xual liberation movements too.

I’ve witnessed so many things over the years that were in the name of ‘s*xual freedom’ but just looked like the same distorted s**t in a different outfit to me.

I’ve witnessed deeply avoidant dissociative behaviours being disguised in the name of polyamory, open relating and s*x parties.

I’ve witnessed Ta**ra teachers who are really just hardcore s*x addicts acting in deeply predatory ways with their students.

I’ve witnessed women dance with so much distorted, s*x kitten, child abuse programming you can’t even feel them breathing its like they are possessed.

I’ve witnessed people beating or whipping each other so hard that they bleed in the name of ecstasy and turn on.

I’ve had a man ask me to donate my faeces to him because this was his s*xual desire to eat them despite him needing to take medication afterwards because he would get sick.

and much more…

And over the years I’ve had to ask myself..

Is all of this really healthy?
Is all of this really an act of love?
Is this really supporting us to heal and become whole and healthy humans?

Please know I am not saying any of this to shame anyone…I get we are all collectively trying to work our way to wholeness always and everyone has their path to that.

But when we have a culture that has a philosophy that believes;

"ALL IS WELCOME"
"EVERY DESIRE CAN BE CATERED FOR"
"WE ARE ALL SO FREE AND LIBERATED"

When actually those very desires are leaving you sick, bleeding, bruised, empty, broken or lonely...

Well I think we have to check ourselves.

If I'm honest, these days the whole over s*xualised liberation culture turns me right off.

I’ve been there and done that.

Funny enough in my super ‘liberated’ days I also got severe bladder infections every few weeks (hmm could that have perhaps been my body telling me that I wasn’t actually in total alignment with that kind of s*x with strangers ’freedom’?)

You betcha..

I also get a sense there is a shift happening in the psyche of the collective around this right now too.

One way this is being reflected is in this sudden explosion of attention on protecting children from s*xualisation and abuse (the trafficking stuff, cuties, etc)

This is a very real issue to be faced within our society on many different levels.

Personally I believe the deepest systemic way we will actually be able to stop this being a thing and to be able to guide and support our children's s*xuality in an integrated way is if we do our own healing work on our INNER CHILDREN.

To save ourselves from the abuse we are putting ourselves through every time we f**k someone we don’t love or push or rush ourselves to be erotic too soon, every time we participate in a conditioned distortion or over s*xualisation that has been implanted into us.

If you are continually violating your own innocence how do you expect to be someone who can protect the innocence of others?

If we can learn to become so attuned to our own nervous systems and cultivate safety of the heart and body in s*x then we will all become natural guides and educators for the next generation and know exactly how to skilfully support our children to be safe, empowered and healthy in their s*xuality - because we are.

S*xual energy is a HUGE FORCE and huge powerful forces of energy need to be treated with the greatest reverence and respect as they have the power to radically transform us in positive or negative ways.

Most of the time when I engage with people personally and professionally I experience such a rush and a push, such a rush to get to the kiss or get to the next base or get to the final goal, to get to the action.

I used to be like this too, I used to base my worth in my s*x, I was in the race to lose my virginity alongside all my friends, I used to think there was something ‘wrong’ if i wasn’t having s*x all the time. I used to ask my ex partner for it harder and faster and stronger all the time because I was so desensitised from my body I thought that intensity was what i really needed to feel anything.

The more I have come into my heart and have released trauma from my body the more I recognise I actually need to go slow.

I need the build up.
I need the safety and connection and love to be there to access the depths that are possible.
To really unfurl all the deliciousness inside of me and share that with another.

So much is lost when we rush, when we leave our inner children behind and over s*xualise ourselves and each other and go too fast.

Restoring s*xual purity and innocence is not about rejecting the primal wildness, passion and rawness that is an amazing aspect of our s*xual expression, but about slowing down enough that this intensity and passion births from a place of deep safety, care and reverence for the sacred miracle of life so all our s*x becomes a prayer of devotion to each other.

Call me frigid,
call me delusional,
call me precious or a puritan.

But I’ve seen and experienced too much to hold any other position anymore.

Not in the the name of permission
or liberation,
not in the name of freeing myself or others from shame or guilt or oppression.

Not in the name of lightening up, getting off or just having a bit of fun.

No.

S*x without love can suck a dick.
.. or not. 😂

True s*xual liberation is an innocent, pure, beautiful, natural and organic expression of love.

I am here to serve and embody nothing less than this for myself and others.

Written in deepest respect to all our unique journeys in this path.

May we all find our way home to this."

16/09/2020

Love this insider view. Thank you, let you c**k flag fly

08/09/2020

"ORIGINS OF THE WORD "C**T"

"Cuneiform", the most ancient form of writing, derives from "kunta" meaning "female genitalia" in Sumerian of ancient Iraq. "Kunta" is "woman" in several Near Eastern and African languages and a Mother Tongue that is being compiled by linguists today. It was also spelled "quna," which is the root of "queen." Since priestesses were known to be accountants/administrators of Temple of Inanna in Sumeria c.3100 B.C. when Cuneiform was first used, it is highly likely that cuneiform was "the sign of the kunta" who kept the books (clay tablets) for the temple economy/redistribution of wealth that evolved from communal economics of ancient mother-cultures.

So when an abuser calls a woman a "c**t" he is actually calling her a "queen who invented writing and numerals." Girls and women can thus reclaim the words in our language that have been used as weapons against us in emotionally explosive situations. The word "pr******te" (law giver of the temple) and "w***e" (houri, Persian, which means a gorgeous semi-divine female that awaits men in the 7th Heaven) are some of the finest compliments a woman can be given.

Many ancient languages did not have huge vocabularies as we do and the same word had many meanings, according to the context in which it was used. "Kunta" is also the root of kundalini (energy), khan (highest leader of the Eurasian steppe nomads, whose society was originally matriarchal and who still have remnants of a matriarchate), quantity, any words that start with "kw", qu, or kh. Examples: Cunda, mother of Buddha according to Japanese; Cunti-Devi, Goddess of kundalini energy, India; Kunta, means literally one who has female genitalia, and describes a priestess, ancient Sumeria; Kun, Goddess of Mercy, India; Quani, Korean goddess; Qudshu, female priestess of ancient Canaan & Phoenicia, which became the Roman province of Palestine after they conquered it; Quadesha, Sumerian word for a type of priestess. Qu' can also mean love, sensuality, s*xuality, the divinity present in all females.

So, the most interesting conclusion is that the Quran, is actually the book of love for females. Female sensuality is probably the literal translation, but Muslims translate it as "reading or lection", which is also flattering to females because the mothers of Arabs were always their only teachers before Mohammad dictated the Koran. Now they have Koranic schools called "Madrasas", the mother-schools, although they now teach only boys and denigrate women. Almost every value word in the Muslim religion, including "Muslim" is a mother-word, derived from the mother root: Mohammad, m***i, mosque, madrasa, Makka (Mecca), Madina, mukhtar, mujahadeem, mezes, and many, many more.

Another variation is "quern," a hand-mill used by ancient women to grind grain into flour. The etymology points to housewives of ancient Mesopotamia, present-day Iraq and parts of Iran, Palestine, & Syria, where agriculture began, as the ones who invented bread out of flour by adding a liquid and letting the dough sit for while until air-borne yeasts raised it. When baked in their clay ovens, it resulted in the most remarkable invention of the human race, the staff of life, bread. It was also baked quickly, without waiting for the yeasts to lighten it, and is known today as pita.

~Gloria Bertonis, M.Ed. with Carol Miranda, Stone Age Divas: Their Mystery and Their Magic

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This is a nice long helpful free interview.  I found it to be intriguing,  helpful and restorative and plan to join the ...
18/07/2020

This is a nice long helpful free interview. I found it to be intriguing, helpful and restorative and plan to join the seminar.

Restoring Resilience & Healthy S*xuality: A 2-Part Live Webinar

Excellent conversation and questions.
16/05/2020

Excellent conversation and questions.

THE SEXUAL EXCHANGE OF ENERGY

As I go deeper into exploring energy fields, I see that more than anything else s*x is an exchange of energy.
Every single aspect of a s*xual experience is an expression of energy.
Before we’ve even looked at each other, there is desire, energy. It begins in me, reaches out to you. And so it begins.
Every time we look into each other’s eyes, energy travels from me to you, you to me.
Every kiss, every touch, energy.
I breathe your breath into me, I take your essence, I give you mine.
Every touch, energy.
We go deeper into each other.
There's a dance of light and colour between us, unseen, yet known.
It sings, it laughs, it shouts, it weeps, we don't hear it.
I enter you, you receive me, energy.
In the liquid meeting of our bodies, energy.
The opening of the heart takes us even deeper.
Strands, spirals, swirls.
Our bodies are the portals.
Sensation is an energy, waves move through us.
Emotion is an energy, my body, my eyes, my mouth express it.
My whisper in your ear is an energy.
The sweat on our bodies is an energy.
The more we surrender, to ourselves, to each other, the more energy we create.
The more we feel, in every way, the energy expands.
Consciousness gives us choice, to ride the waves of pleasure to places deep within us, beyond us.
The energy surrounds us, flows through us.
It's a communication of vibration.
With open heart the frequencies expand.
It becomes a field of ecstasy.
Our bodies begin to disappear as we move into the realm of love.
We see more of who we are, far beyond the boundaries of this beautiful physical vessel.
And when we return we are expanded, for the energy remains with us, within us.
And our connection is deepened.
Love...

How aware are we of s*x as an energy exchange? How do we prepare for these experiences? How do we stay present during s*x and lo******ng? How do we create an intention for pleasure? How do we go deeper into the energy field? How do we become more aware of energy, of s*xual energy, of ours, our partner’s, our combined energy? How does the energy help us to have more pleasure?
So many possibilities…

13/05/2020
Excellent
22/04/2020

Excellent

Better S*x, Different S*x

I was thinking about something I get asked a lot.
How do we have better s*x?

It's something so many people talk about, and it's something so many programmes and courses offer.
Better S*x.

What I was thinking about was this.
What is better s*x?
And I realised that maybe the question we should be asking is how do we have different s*x?

Because…
Everyone is at a different place in their s*xual journey. Everyone has a different understanding of their s*xuality and pleasure. Everyone is at a different place in their lives. Everyone is at a different place in their journey of healing, growth, learning and exploration. Everyone is at a different place emotionally. Everyone is at a different place in relationships.
Better s*x for a woman who is not having or**sms is very different for a woman who ej******ed easily is different for a woman who explores deep s*xual energy states. I'm just using that as an example.

Because…
When we realize the fullness of the expression of our s*xuality, all the different ways it can be expressed. When we come into greater s*xual authenticity and start becoming aware of what we want s*xually. When we understand that we can have something different every day based on how we feel, what our body wants, what our heart wants, what our energy wants, which part of us wants to be expressed.
Today we might want very tender s*x and tomorrow we might want to express our kinky selves and on the weekend we want hours of s*xual energy in many ways. I'm just using that as an example.

Because…
We live in patterns, our s*xuality is one of the most deeply and unconscious patterns of our lives. We do the same thing in the same way because it works, or we think it works, it's our comfort zone, and it's what we know. For many of us talking about s*x is one of the hardest things. We have a fear of sharing our fantasies and desires, the things that interest us, that turn us on, that we'd like to explore and experience. The fear is often of judgement, of rejection.

Because…
For many of us the criterion for a successful s*xual experience is or**sm. If we move to a model that a successful s*xual experience is about pleasure, intimacy, love, energy, so much changes. We free ourselves from pressure, from performance, from patterns and conditions and expectations.

Because…
Better is about a measurement. How many times, how many ways, how many different boxes did we tick? And if this was better then what happens tomorrow, what happens if it's not, what happens if it's not what we expected or something else happens that makes it not better?

Because…
Better isn't about being present.
It isn't about what is, where we are, where I am, where you are.
Better isn't about being here, now.
Better isn't about the feeling, the sensation, the energy.
Better is a judgement.
And there is no judgement on being present and conscious during pleasure.

So maybe the question we should be asking is how do we have different s*x?

And then we're starting to create possibilities.
Then we can start learning, expanding, exploring.
Then we can learn to communicate, to listen.
Then we create experiences of deeper fulfillment, which may be different today than it was yesterday. Because we are different. Our energy is different, our emotions are different, our desires are different, our chemicals are different.
We learn to listen to our inner selves, what do we want, what do we need? How do we create that?
How do we understand what our partner is asking for? How do we go beyond our fears? Beyond our conditioning? Beyond our inhibitions?
How do we create a space of freedom to explore, to move towards authenticity, openness, honesty?

Different.
And in this, a world of possibilities…

One of the easiest ways to change s*x, to bring you more into being present, to feel your body more, to feel sensation more, and to experience greater intimacy is…
SLOW DOWN
Then slow down more
And then slow down even more
And…
BREATHE
Breathe, slow deep breaths.
And…
Every now and then…
STOP
Be still
Ahhhh.

03/02/2020

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