Meer in Balans

05/02/2025

THE CALL TO HEALING

When our childhood wounds remain unprocessed, when we bury painful feelings and live as a false self in the world, no matter how successful or famous or powerful or “enlightened” we are, those wounds end up dictating our speech and actions from their dark home deep within the unconscious. And we end up becoming violent, manipulative and dishonest to others and to ourselves.

The journey of healing will take great courage! We will be asked to invite excruciatingly uncomfortable feelings back into the light of conscious awareness.

As we heal, we may feel more vulnerable than ever. More unsafe than ever. More angry than ever. More powerful and powerless, hopeful and hopeless than ever, as unbearable material finally becomes bearable in the holding field of Presence. But now, at least, we are FEELING these feelings. So they can be met, and owned, and embraced, and accepted, and digested. And no longer acted out on others. No longer vomited out unconsciously into the world.

No matter how spiritual or liberated or woke we think we are, no matter how much effort we have put into creating a false “me”, no matter how much we believe we have transcended our issues, we just cannot ignore the cry of our humanness any longer. Our sensitivity, our bodies and our feelings, our doubts, our exquisite vulnerability and the glory and wisdom of the feminine - we must honour these things now, more than ever.

- Jeff Foster

28/11/2024

Joepie, praktijk Meer in Balans is weer voor 5 jaar goedgekeurd! 🎉

25/08/2024

26/05/2024

“Spirituality is not religion. It is a path for us to generate happiness, understanding, and love, so we can live deeply each moment of our life. Having a spiritual dimension in our lives does not mean escaping life or dwelling in a place of bliss outside this world but discovering ways to handle life’s difficulties and generate peace, joy, and happiness right where we are, on this beautiful planet.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh

22/12/2023

If you’re NOT looking forward to the holidays and the new year, please know, there’s nothing wrong with you.

It’s normal to feel ambivalent, down, uncertain, confused, numb and detached from it all.

It’s normal to feel abnormal.

If you feel angry, bored, full of sorrow or grief this Christmas, you are not alone.

If you don’t feel like participating.
If you have a ‘no’ to spending time with certain people or engaging in certain rituals.
If you can’t repress, cover up or ignore your pain any longer this holiday season.
If you feel like a total MESS in the presence of the MESSiah.
There’s nothing wrong with you.
You are not wrong for being ‘not like the others’.

There’s never anything ‘wrong’ with you.
(‘Wrong’ is just a magic spell we learnt as kids, a powerful word that does great damage if it’s not wielded with care.)

If you don’t believe in all the religious myths and legends or if they leave you feeling cold.
If this new year you don’t feel like celebrating, and you’re not exactly looking forwards to the year to come.
If you are processing deep pain and trauma, especially where it relates to your family, and you need space and time away from them.

If you feel like curling up into a ball, and waiting for all the noisy ‘celebrations’ to be over.
If you don’t feel like pretending to love - or even like - certain people.
There is nothing wrong with you.
Remember, you are a unique and original creation of the divine.
And you can love someone without wanting to see them.
And your sensitive and vulnerable heart is crying out for strong loving boundaries to protect and honour it.

What is healthy, or fun, or right for others is not necessarily what is healthy, fun, or right for you, at this time in your life, considering what you’ve been through, considering the difficult path you have been walking.

This holiday season, let yourself be unique, one-of-a-kind, a total original.
It’s brave to be yourself when there is such a strong pull to be someone else in order to please others, or not let them down, or just ‘keep the peace’.
We 'keep the peace' - but at what cost to our sanity?

This holiday season, give yourself a real holiday.

Whatever you choose to celebrate, or not celebrate...

Happy holidays, friends!
(And yes, you can totally celebrate your lack of celebrations!)

Jeff ###

22/12/2023

Laat je Licht schijnen. 🌟 Fijne feestdagen.