La Luna Yoga & Coaching

22/11/2025

Yes, this is a learned behavior.

And, yes, this one can feel tricky, because the need to belong can make it feel like we *have* to abandon parts of ourselves to be accepted by our communities.
No one fully fits anywhere, right?

Well, when we look at healthy systems, people are allowed to exist as unique individuals within the system and still be loved and accepted. Which means that I would be allowed to feel differently than you about things, and I'd be allowed to have different preferences, boundaries, and to take my own life-route and still be seen as worthy and lovable by my people.

For those who did grow up in healthier, more highly functional systems (and it's a spectrum), they don't believe that being 'different' threatens their belonging or ability to seen and loved by others in the system. And if they have moments of feeling that way, they can talk about it.

For those of us who were raised in more co-dependent systems, we learned that we had to be a certain way in order to receive love.
We learned we had to adapt our needs because others couldn't handle them. And as adults we still operate with that lived experience in our bodies - that if we do something that goes against the system, we'll be cast out (which can feel like life or death in our bodies).

So we've learned to turn against our own intuition and knowing and live a life to please other people. And this is where we find the most psychological suffering - because even when we can't see it at first, it IS a choice, and it is the ultimate form of abandonment; self-abandonment.

To begin to heal is come back to yourself.
To develop a working relationship with your intuition and to begin to trust your inner compass. It takes some time and finessing, but it won't lead you astray. And the more time we spend in this space, the less time we spend downplaying our real selves to fit in.

Did you knowThe EQ School can send daily texts to your phone? It's great if you’re trying to spend less time on social media but still want pointed reminders that help you check in with yourself, and to remind you of why you’re doing the work.
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22/11/2025

Break the cycle 🎯

22/11/2025

Let’s step into this New Moon portal together, Witches 🌑

22/11/2025

You are not selfish for resting. You are not weak for needing space.
You are honouring who you are becoming.

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22/11/2025

Being a truth-teller gets you blamed and scapegoated not only in a dysfunctional family system, but in society as a whole. Because the moment you speak up—about the harm, the manipulation, the double standards, or the patterns everyone else pretends not to see—you become the “problem.” Not because you’re wrong, but because your honesty threatens the comfort that denial provides.

In dysfunctional families, truth disrupts the unspoken rules:
Don’t challenge the favorite. Don’t reveal the abuse. Don’t question the narrative.
So the one who names what’s actually happening becomes the target. They’re labeled “dramatic,” “disrespectful,” “negative,” or “too sensitive,” when in reality they’re simply refusing to carry the weight of everyone else’s lies.

And society isn’t much different. People cling to illusions that keep them safe—illusions about relationships, about leaders, about systems, about themselves. When you expose contradictions or point out behavior that everyone else is trying to normalize, you make them uncomfortable. Instead of addressing the truth, they redirect that discomfort onto you. They silence the messenger to protect the myth.

Truth-tellers often stand alone not because they are wrong, but because they refuse to bow to collective denial. But the irony is this: the same people who reject them in the moment often seek their clarity later. The truth has a way of aging well. And those who dare to speak it—despite the backlash—are the ones who end up freeing themselves from the very dysfunction that others stay trapped in.
“Andy Burg”

22/11/2025

For a lot of people the nervous system was built in homes where emotions brought shame, not safety, so closeness feels threatening, not comforting. They pull back to protect themselves, not to punish you. It can make you feel unwanted and unimportant. Do not take it personally, they are unable to regulate their feelings. Your pain activates their buried wounds. Emotional intimacy exposes the parts of them they’ve spent a lifetime hiding. Emotional abandonment is real and your feelings matter. It is very important to learn nervous system regulation tools to calm anxiety and rebuilt self-trust. Set and uphold healthy boundaries with confidence, clarity, and emotional safety. Reconnect with your worth and steadily move toward secure, grounded attachment.

Come back to yourself, people will only change when they are ready. Accept them for who they are, do not wait for potential that might not even exist. Do not come down to their frequency to be understood. Unhealthy relationships (colleagues, work, family, friends, partners) drain your energy, erode your confidence, and keep you in a cycle of constant problem-solving and emotional management. Over time, that can become a health issue, it will fry your nervous system.

Real wellness does not ask you to be calm. It asks you to stay with yourself. To feel what is true, not what is acceptable. To stop performing and start listening. It is not about controlling your emotions. Shake, cry, feel the rage, express your emotions. Identify your boundaries. You are allowed to feel deeply, think loudly, or break down honestly. If others cannot handle it, that is their problem. Do not shrink yourself to make others feel comfortable. Do not accept energy that is disturbing or unstable. Your regulated nervous system is worth so much more! Your life gets better or harder depending who you let close ✌️
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21/11/2025

A regulated nervous system is the new wealth!

Your nervous system never lies to you. What is it saying?

One of the clearest signs of nervous system healing is losing interest in proving your worth. You stop over-explaining. You stop chasing people who misunderstand you. You stop performing for love that should have been given freely. The urge to be chosen fades and peace takes its place. You have taken your energy back and are focusing on you. Your soul, your heart, and your alignment. No more people pleasing and resting without feeling guilty.

You are no longer staying in places which drain your energy. No longer looking for someone to save or fix. You stop expecting anyone to meet your depth and hold yourself. Instead of asking: can you hold me? You say: I’m holding myself. You lead with a different energy. Healthy, grounded and emotionally secure…

Read more https://www.yogastudiolaluna.nl/blog/a-regulated-nervous-system-is-the-new-wealth/

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21/11/2025

Choose calm over chaos

21/11/2025