Wabi Sabi Psy

20/08/2019

"Nous sommes tous des Calimeros lorsque des évènements de notre vie sont difficiles à vivre, nous font ressentir de la souffrance, de l’incompréhension ou de l’injustice. Lorsqu’elle est ponctuelle, la plainte est positive car elle permet d’attirer l’attention. C’est un moyen de faire évoluer la situation lorsque l’on rencontre un problème au travail, dans une relation, dans la famille… Mais il existe des personnes qui s’apitoient sur leur sort de manière répétitive. On devient un « Calimero » lorsqu’on fait de la plainte, de l’apitoiement, un schéma relationnel, une manière d’être en relation."

Avec eux, toutes les petites contrariétés du quotidien deviennent un prétexte pour se plaindre, se lamenter. Les « Calimeros », appelés ainsi en référence au petit poussin ronchon avec sa coquille sur la tête, ont une fâcheuse tendance à nous agacer. Pourtant, derrière leurs jérémiades...

05/07/2019

"As an adult, the first step to practice self-regulation is to recognize that everyone has a choice in how to react to situations. While you may feel like life has dealt you a bad hand, it's not the hand you are dealt, but how you react to it that matters most. How exactly do you learn this skill of self-regulation?
https://www.verywellmind.com/how-you-can-practice-self-regulation-4163536

Self-regulation is the ability to act in a way that considers long-term consequences rather than just transient feelings.

10/06/2019

Are your personal relationships strained or combative? Are you seeing signs of a toxic relationship with someone you thought you could trust? Do you often find yourself in power struggles with friends or people at work?

Learn how to recognize the Karpman Triangle and how it affects your relationships.

29/04/2019

Learning to say no has helped me re-focus my priorities. It doesn’t mean that I always say no, but rather I allow myself to be flexible.

10/04/2019

Impreuna cu colega mea Popa Dana vom fi prezente pe 13 aprilie la Romanian Vibes in Amsterdam, unde vom sustine si un workshop despre migratie si gestionararea procesului psihologic al acesteia. Va asteptam cu drag!

13:45-14:30 – Migrația: Impactul în viața de zi cu zi

În acest workshop vom vorbi despre procesul emoțional și cognitiv al migrației prin care trece fiecare migrant. Ce înseamnă integrarea într-o nouă cultură. Care sunt instrumentele ce ne pot ajuta în procesul de integrare și unde și când le putem folosi.

Popa Dana este terapeut sistemic transcultural, de familie și relații, parte din echipa centrului Transparant (Centrum voor Geestelijke Gezondheidszorg) în Leiden și în cabinetul sau privat, unde lucrează cu cupluri, familii și în individual. Vorbește română, engleză și neerlandeză.

Monica Chirvase este psiholog și practician în analiză tranzacțională, membră a Institutului Psihologilor din Țările de Jos (NIP). Lucrează în cabinetul sau din Haga cu clienți de diferite naționalități. Vorbește română, engleză și franceză.

26/03/2019

"Pardonne aux autres non parce qu'ils méritent le pardon, mais parce que toi tu mérites la paix."

08/03/2019

An explosion of research into self-compassion over the last decade has shown its benefits for well-being. Individuals who are more self-compassionate tend to have greater happiness, life satisfaction and motivation, better relationships and physical health, and less anxiety and depression. They also have the resilience needed to cope with stressful life events such as divorce, health crises, and academic failure, and even combat trauma.

Leading experts on mindful self-compassion Drs. Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer share how self-kindness, recognition of our humanity, and mindfulness give us the strength to thrive.

01/03/2019

“Every time a thought enters your mind, you’re either strengthening it or weakening it, because thoughts become neural pathways. Positivity creates positive neural pathways and negativity creates negative neural pathways. Makes sense, right?

Unfortunately, if we don't silence the mean voice in our heads, we can unintentionally reaffirm a lot of limiting beliefs. The good news is that you can change your thought patterns! “

Can you boost self-esteem, release limiting beliefs, and silence your negative thoughts using positive self-talk? Sure you can! Here's how to do it . . .

20/02/2019

Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?

Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?Sources:https://sites.google.com/view/sources...Kurzgesagt....

12/02/2019

The definition of smiling depression is: appearing happy to others, literally smiling, while internally suffering with depressive symptoms. Smiling depression often goes undetected. Those suffering from it often discount their own feelings and brush them aside. They might not even be aware of their depression or want to acknowledge their symptoms due to a fear of being considered “weak.”

Even people who seem to have it all together can be struggling with depressive thoughts and feelings.

03/02/2019

Boundaries are principles that you establish in order to keep yourself feeling safe and comfortable, emotionally and physically. Healthy boundaries involve giving yourself the interpersonal and mental space to fully be you.
They protect you from being unduly pressured into behaving in ways that you don’t want to, or having your own mood, time, or mindset completely and continually drowned out by someone else’s.
Establishing functional boundaries means that your connections to other people feel fulfilling and positive: they add to your life rather than encroach upon it.
Without healthy boundaries, it’s very hard to be true to yourself and live in accordance with your own goals, values, and desires.

Having boundaries is important...but how do you actually do it?

03/02/2019

How you assert yourself and your boundaries? Share in the comments below!

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02/02/2019

Asking for help is the start to feeling better. Many people have tried to solve their problems on their own for weeks, months or even years before starting psychotherapy but have found that it’s not enough.
Deciding to start psychotherapy doesn't mean you’ve failed, just like it doesn't mean you’ve failed if you can't repair your own car. In reality, having the courage to reach out and admit you need help is a sign of strength rather than weakness — and the first step toward feeling better.

Addresses misconceptions and why therapy is beneficial for depression, anxiety, substance abuse, major life transitions or changing problem behaviors, and work/life balance.

01/02/2019

While common definitions of loneliness describe it as a state of solitude or being alone, loneliness is actually a state of mind. Loneliness causes people to feel empty, alone, and unwanted. People who are lonely often crave human contact, but their state of mind makes it more difficult to form connections with other people.

Loneliness is a universal yet complex human emotion. Learn more about the causes, health effects, and tips to prevent loneliness.

30/01/2019

En reconnaissant nos limites et nos manques, en les accueillant avec tendresse, nous devenons plus souples, plus indulgents, plus réalistes et, au final, plus efficaces.

Le wabi sabi est une notion d’esthétique japonaise valorisant l’imperfection et les marques du temps. Mais ce concept est également utilisé comme outil de développement personnel. Surtout aux Etats-Unis, où il est présenté comme antidote à l’ultra-perfectionnisme et au culte de la perf...

29/01/2019

Dr. Gabor Maté talks about the root causes of addiction and how to deal with them.

28/01/2019

A little video about psychotherapy.

Having some psychotherapy is just about the most significant and interesting thing you could do to improve your chances of contentment - in relationships, at work, and with friends and family.

Having some psychotherapy is just about the most significant and interesting thing you could do to improve your chances of contentment - in relationships, at...

25/01/2019

"None of us like to fail. But some of us find it especially difficult to rebound from a mistake. We beat ourselves up for months, even years, rehashing our blunder. We ruminate about what we could have done differently. We are stuck on what we lost. However, with time, we often discover that our failures are packed full of blessings, that our errors open doors to surprising opportunities. Even if they don’t lead us to fame and fortune, our mistakes make us better people."
https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-value-of-our-mistakes/

None of us like to fail. But some of us find it especially difficult to rebound from a mistake. We beat ourselves up for months, even years, rehashing our blunder. We ruminate about what we could have done differently. We are stuck on what we lost. However, with time, we often discover that our fail...