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Thrive with Susan

Hello, my name is Susan Self and I am a licensed Thrive Programme Coach, teaching people how to overcome anxiety, depression, phobias and THRIVE in life.

The Thrive Programme is a revolutionary psychological training programme that equips people with all the skills and resources they need in order to take control of their lives and thrive. Thrive is a unique, in depth training programme that teaches you to understand how your mind works - why we think, feel and behave the way we do. In addition to this knowledge you will also learn the skills, strategies and techniques you need to bring about meaningful and lasting change, overcome symptoms and build your self-esteem and sense of control. To know more visit my website. Contact me anytime for a free 1 hour initial consultation.

07/06/2022

You can’t control what other people think or feel about you (and nor should you try!). Other people can be unpredictable.

You can, however, control how YOU feel about you.

When you feel good about yourself and you create a high level of self-esteem you don’t tend too overly care what others think of you.

The reason behind this is your self-esteem and social anxiety are inextricably linked.

You CANNOT raise your level of self-esteem WITHOUT lowering your level of social anxiety. Reversely, you CANNOT lower your self-esteem WITHOUT raising your levels of social anxiety.

A great way to improve your self-esteem is to change your self talk.

When the language you use when speaking to yourself is kind, caring and encouraging then you WILL RAISE your self-esteem.

It’s time to start treating yourself as you would treat others you care about. Be kind, gentle, forgiving and charitable to yourself ALWAYS. If you do this well enough you won’t feel the need to change how others think about you.

18/05/2022

Process the positive experiences in your life - count your rainbows not your thunderstorms!!

Some people just fail to notice that they have so many little positive experiences every day.

Others diminish positive events, thinking about them in a powerless way - usually due to their limiting beliefs about themselves. This effectively means they receive little or no psychological benefit from the experience at all - it may as well of never happened!!

Putting effort into thinking about your positive experiences over the last few days or weeks (no matter how small) for just 5-10 minutes a day can REALLY HELP your psychological wellbeing. If your positive experience was something you achieved e.g you tried that new recipe for the first time, process the fact that YOU brought about the experience, which will help you to feel empowered and capable.

17/05/2022

Gratulerer med dagen Norway 🇳🇴!

15/05/2022

When we look backwards into our past that’s the direction we go - backwards. If we want to go forward, we need to look to the present and the future!

Many people who go through the Thrive Programme often mention how pleasing and refreshing it is that they are not encouraged to go over past experiences continuously.

Most sessions involve the client learning, recognising and addressing their powerless, unhelpful thinking about themselves, the world around them and their experiences.

This is particularly important as its their current unhelpful thinking processes (possibly about the past), that are causing the issues in the present moment.

When we continuously look back into our past, looking for a reason as to why we are feeling the way we do now, we are looking down the wrong path. There are major flaws in the theory that our past experiences ‘make’ us who we become or affect us in the present moment.

When we keep looking back, that’s the route we go. This encourages us to feel powerless, stuck and helpless.

If you want to know more, send me a message or drop me an email at susan.self@thriveprogramme.org.

11/05/2022

How we manage our thoughts and perceive ourselves and the world around us will determine how happy, positive and resilient we will generally be.

Poor mental health can often lead to someone generating a lot of unhelpful thoughts which is likely to hold them back from living their best life.

Many people suffer in silence and accept their difficulties, often learning ways to manage and cope with them. However, we don’t have to live with poor mental health.

We can learn how to develop helpful ways of processing experiences - powerful, positive ways of thinking - ways that will help rather than hinder us. So rather than being held back by the stresses and hurdles in life we will flourish and react to these hurdles in a resilient and robust way. Now who wouldn’t want that?!

10/05/2022

Think back through your life (parents, teachers, friends) - who do you think the most CRITICAL person in your life has been?

Yes I'm sorry to say the most critical person in your life is YOU!

The person who tells you off the most, puts you down the most and places the most limits on your hopes, desires and ambitions is you.

Noticing the way you talk to yourself is a key step in making changes in your life. If you're not speaking to yourself in a constructive and supportive way then you're bound to be creating and maintaining problems for yourself.

So start from now paying attention to your inner voice and talk to yourself like you would your best friend, with encouragement and compassion. Recognising this inner voice allows you the option of change.

03/05/2022

Quite simply, everything! Some people come to the programme because they want to overcome lifelong mental health conditions such as depression or anxiety, while others simply want to learn how to make the most of life!

The Thrive Programme is NOT a type of therapy or counselling… it is a very clear, understandable and easy to follow training programme. Thousands of hours have been spent analysing mental health and breaking down the unique skillset ‘thriving’ people have; turning all the research into a simple-to-follow but highly effective programme.

Creating and maintaining good mental health is very similar to creating and maintaining good physical health: you learn what to do, then put it into action.

You will be taught about the different components that make up your mental health, then how to ‘fine tune’ them to get the very best out of them.

There are a number of bespoke assessments for you to complete, so you can get a very accurate measure of where you currently are - in relation to thriving - and clearly see how much you’re improving as you progress through the course. Get yourself to number 9 or 10 on the 1-10 scale mentioned above, and you’ll be more than just managing your mental health well, you’ll be positively thriving - just like the people in our video testimonials (https://www.facebook.com/watch/thriveprogramme/268554830970559).

02/05/2022

So May is here, the flowers are starting to blossom, the sun is beginning to shine.

How are you planning to create a thriving month?

Thriving isn’t something you just ‘are’, it’s something you DO every day!

How often do you wake up and wonder whether today is going to be a good day? Or hope, first thing on a Monday morning, that this week is going to be better than the last one? It’s something many of us do – without realising just how powerless that kind of thinking leaves us feeling about whether our week will be good or not!

If you are on a springtime holiday at the moment, you may be having a fantastic week away! But is that simply because you’re on holiday, or because part of being on holiday means that you’ve been managing your thinking better and you’re also making the effort to do things that make you feel happier, more relaxed and in love with life again, such as not checking work emails so much, spending quality time with family, reducing your social media time, exploring new places, trying new foods and generally sleeping and eating much better?

In reality, we have far more influence over determining what kind of a week we have than many of us often believe (although we are the first to admit that it’s a little easier to build a thriving week sunbathing on a beach in the Seychelles!). After all, thriving is not something you simply ‘are’ when you wake up each morning, it’s actually something that you can learn to do for yourself every single day.

27/04/2022

For most people, our main limitations don’t come from anything outside of us but from our own mind. The mind is a very powerful tool, if we don’t understand it and fail to use it to maximum capacity, our lives will suffer as a result.

Our beliefs and thoughts are our limitations. Our beliefs and thoughts are created in our own mind.

If you want to know more, why not book a free consultation - susan.self@thriveprogramme.org.

25/04/2022

Many people who go through the Thrive Programme often mention how pleasing and refreshing it is that they are not encouraged to go over past experiences continuously.

Most sessions involve the client learning, recognising and addressing their powerless, unhelpful thinking about themselves, the world around them and their experiences.

This is particularly important as its their current unhelpful thinking processes (possibly about the past), that are causing the issues in the present moment.

When we continuously look back into our past, looking for a reason as to why we are feeling the way we do now, we are looking down the wrong path. There are major flaws in the theory that our past experiences ‘make’ us who we become or affect us in the present moment.

Firstly, some people go through trauma and don’t suffer mental health issues thereafter. That tells us that it can’t be the experiences directly, it has to be something to do with the individual’s thinking about it (powerless thinking, poor coping skills).

Secondly, sometimes people who do suffer from mental health issues have perfectly ‘normal’ childhoods and have not had to deal with much trauma or difficulties in life. But yet a lot of these people are told ‘there must be something that happened’ and then wham….. “it must have been that time you weren’t picked for the school football team”!

Thirdly, people can go through difficulties, become depressed (for example) and overcome it months/years later and thrive and flourish. That suggests that it’s not directly caused by the experience, as if it was they would be helpless to change it - they would always be doomed. It also confirms that individuals’ thinking is playing a huge role so when they change their thinking, they overcome it.

There are many reasons why this theory is getting outdated and isn’t particularly helping overcome mental health issues. Of course it can help people come to terms or, in their mind, make some sense of their ill feelings. However, this encourages powerlessness and lack of control over life events.

When we keep looking back, that’s the route we go. This encourages us to feel powerless, stuck and helpless.

We need to teach our children helpful skills and resources, not feed their minds that they are dis-empowering human beings with little control over their reaction to life events.

10/04/2022

Do you tend to imagine the worst case scenario?

Negative thinking is a common thinking style that people recognise and also one of the most common ones that people develop.

Negative thinkers tend to assume things won’t work out, things will fail - they imagine negative outcomes.

There is plenty of research that suggests that people with a negative way of thinking do not share the same successes, levels of happiness and good health as people who are positive and optimistic (e,g Goodhart 1985).

We are all capable of sometimes being a little negative but when talking about negative thinkers, I am referring to people whose general outlook on life is negative and disempowering.

Negativity stems from negative belief systems. We all implicitly look for evidence to suggest our beliefs and true, so someone with a negative belief system will look for evidence to suggest their negative beliefs are true (confirmation bias).

This distorts the ‘glasses’ or ‘lenses’ that they are seeing the world through - life can become a dark and gloomy place to a negative thinker.

If you would like to change your outlook on life and because a more positive, optimistic thinker, get in touch and arrange a free consultation - susan.self@thriveprogramme.org.

06/04/2022

“Treat the cause, not the symptom”!

Many people are taught coping strategies to help manage and minimise their unhelpful symptoms.

For example, Gemma has weekly panic attacks to which she is taught coping mechanisms to help her manage them or minimise the amount she has.

Although useful, these strategies don’t help the person understand why they are creating these unhelpful symptoms and how to overcome them.

If the focus is on ‘coping’ this only serves to reinforce that their symptoms are out of their control and that they are powerless to do anything about them - only manage them!

I assume people suffering from crippling symptoms like anxiety, stress, depression, emetophobia, panic attacks, social anxiety, low self esteem. OCD, overthinking, would prefer to overcome these symptoms rather than becoming really good at minimising them. You don’t want to become a very effective fire extinguisher for the rest of your life!

Learning the tools and insights into developing high self esteem, resilience and a powerful mindset will enable a person to take control of their thinking and overcome these unhelpful symptoms, learning to thrive.

For more information send me a message or email me at susan.self@thriveprogramme.org.

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