Islamic Counselling

28/07/2023

Dear akhi 🎭,
When love knocks at your door next time, I hope it brings dinner tables full of conversations, and homes where you don’t have to hold your breath to save the roof from collapsing.

May you never have to beg to be someone’s something. May you never have to give up on yourself to keep others afloat.

When love knocks at your door next time, I hope you don’t think of your childhood, or all things that your childhood didn’t provide. I don’t want you to see trauma spreading in cereal bowls until it’s too large to fit in your hands. I don’t want to resent your mother anyone or call your father grief.

When love knocks at your door next time, I hope it’s a person who doesn’t let go off your hands while the city burns.

May you never feel like apologizing for existence, may you know that you’re the best thing that happens to the people around you.

When love knocks at your door next time, I hope you can wrap your arms around it before it turns away.

18/06/2023

Parents! You're a temporary custodians of both your children and property. You ineherited yesterday and tomorrow your children will inherit you. What is of mere importance is how you shape your kids in terms of morality, behaviour, love, kindness, empathy? These are not just words rather emotions. It's implausible to forcibly make your children show towards you while you act against what you decipher. Go on fulfilling the time-based yet halal needs of your children. Doing so, you're watering the plants that one day will for sure going to give you the shades of all positive emotions. Remember what our Prophet said! He said the best among you're those who are best to their family members. Children should also be mindful that their parents have right towards to you and you're bound to perform your duties towards them. It's a balance. Your personality is shaped of how you were brought up.

24/05/2023

What? Are you seriously here with presenting complaints, seeking help?
--One of the drawbacks of psychiatric illnesses are that their symtopms are immeasurable through quantitative tests unlinke non-psychiatric issues. The patients take this for granted and henceforth claim they aren't understood well even by professionals. Because of higher prevalance rate of social stigmas, patients many a times resist to fully disclose what they're going through. It's intriguing that a lot of mentally struggling people fear to even visit a psychiatrist/psychologist. However, they must understand that those professionals are who after trainings have strengthened their natural skill of perceiving others feelings, thoughts, and/or actions. One thing might be true: your perceptions and interpretations of about your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviours might not best-fit to all the same-diagnosed patients however you should fully trust that the professionals will understand your presenting issues.

27/03/2023

Jihad as heard by us many times holds a very deep meaning. Most of the times, it’s commonly stereotyped with one of it’s types as “religious war”. However, one must understand that it does entail numerous types and subtypes. Additionally, some of those are compulsory upon us all to indulge in, some are highly recommended while some are exempted from us provided some communities out of the Ummah is involved into. Since, this page is related to counselling, let’s just focus on 2 of those which are; Jihad An-Nafs and Jihad As-Shaitan. And these 2 types are compulsory upon us all.
Jihad An-Nafs:
It’s striving with one’s ‘self’. ‘Self’ is a very broad term to define outwardly however let’s break it into 4 other subtypes to grasp their meaning clearly.
1. Striving to learn the teachings of Islam. Gaining knowledge is Fard upon all Muslims as told by Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. Some may not be directly approachable to authentic sources while some of us wouldn’t like to transform ourselves just because things go against our values/cultures. Remember, Allah rewards for your struggle that you put into learning and practicing.
2. Striving to act upon what one has learned. It’s in simple terms people behave by “Knowing without acting”. Allah said in the Qur’an to perform what we preach. Also, it’s of mere importance to show in our actions of whatever we have learnt throughout. What’s the point of learning if one has not put into practice of what he has learnt?
3. Striving to give Dawah. As said by Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam in an authentic Hadith, “Convey from me even it’s just an Ayah of the Qur’an”. We must understand how blessed this work is. If you don’t preach of what you know, it will be like you trying to conceal things which people have been given as birth rights by Allah, i.e., to hear the teachings of Islam.
4. Striving to bear trials and tribulations patiently. It’s more than difficult to observe than just to say by mouth. By the help of Allah, one may practice persevering both in terms of trials or tribulations showered directly by Allah or by Allah because of what we tried to preach people and they harshly attacked or jokingly criticized.
Jihad As-Shaitan:
It’s striving against Shaitan. Again, this may be of 2 types.
1. Warding off the doubts that Shaitan brings to our minds in goal of weakening our faith. Remember, his ultimate goal is to deceive us from Allah and his straight path. In order to do so, he plays beautiful tricks on us per se, logics, explanations, examples and so forth. However, we gotta strongly hold the rope of Allah by seeking refuge from Him and trying from our inner self not to get intimidated by Shaitan’s whispers.
2. Striving against Shaitan of what desires he puts onto our hearts. This is the most difficult to strive with. Because a lot of the things are easily present around us that it seems normal to us which in fact is haram. Meanwhile, sometimes Shaitan uses his weird trick of coming to whisper into ears gradually. We must be self-aware about those things and try hard to free ourselves from devilish thinking.

29/01/2023

The most successful ones in this world are those who upon closing their eyes at night fall asleep easily.

20/01/2023

He said,
“Oh Allah🥲🤲, I’m exhausted, each bit of me is saying to give up. I acknowledge you said that you don’t taste us beyond our capacity🥲. I always endured patiently you know that. Every time, I begin with something with positivity and hope it crumbles. You say you listen to our call. Indeed you hear each beats of my heart and you know what it’s seeking for. Ya rabbi🥲 you said that you won’t leave us without testing. I know you test us differently ya Allah. Ya Ghafoorurraheem you said twice in a consecutive verse that after hardships there’s ease. Please show that ease, you know I have been struggling. Ya Allah😢 my worst enemy Shaitan is trying to control me with his whispers about you but you know that these tears are your mercy ya Allah😢😢😢 give power to overcome this. You said this life for believer is that of prisoner. Ya Rabbi😢 the prisoners do have difficulties yet sometimes they rejoice, celebrate, get to meet special ones😢. Ya Rabbi, yet you in another place of Qur’an said you’ll make the life of believers easy for them. Aye rabb you know I’m a Mu’min. You better know ya rabb😢 when will the cloud of hardships bring rain of mercy. Unite us ya Allah 😢😢😢🤲”

Such is the case of one of our brothers. May Allah sort his things out soon in an easier way

16/01/2023

Ibn Qayyim (رحمه الله) said, “When the the Abd’ knows that Allah (ﷻ) alone is in charge of harming and benefiting; giving and withholding; creating and providing; giving life and bringing about death, it produces the acts of worship of completely putting one’s trust and reliance upon Him in one’s heart, and with such reliance the chest produces in the person a keen guarding over his tongue, physical limbs and thoughts in the heart to keep them away from everything that is displeasing to Allah. Furthermore, it makes him involve those bodily parts in acts that are beloved and pleasing to Allah. This in turn produces the necessities of trust and outward deeds. The Abd’s knowledge about Allah’s hearing, seeing and knowledge—not even the smallest of physical particles in the heavens and earth is unseen to Him—and that He knows the secret and hidden and the deception of the eyes as well as what is hidden in inward shyness. It also produces a shyness that makes the person avoid the forbidden and evil acts. [The Abd’s] knowledge of Allah’s self-sufficiency, generosity, kindness and mercy makes the person become very hopeful in Allah. Furthermore, it produces in him similar acts of external and inward forms of worship in accord with his level of understanding and knowledge. Similarly, his recognition of Allah’s grandeur, greatness and magnificence produces in hum humility, submission and love. It also produces in him internal emotions and feelings of worship as well as the external acts that these require. Similarly, his knowledge of Allah’s perfection, beauty and exalted attributes manifest itself in a special kind of love found in the different levels of worship.”

: Adapted from Ibn al-Qayyim, Miftaab Daar al-Sadaab, vol 2, p. 90.

16/11/2022

Choose wisely whom to befriend!
It doesn’t matter how many friends you have rather what matters is how empathetic they are to you when you’re in trouble either physically or psychologically. A true friend will boost your motivations at the time of adversity to produce soothe, though it might be salutary but it’s always better to have something than to owe nothing.

01/11/2022

How long have you been struggling for?
-One, two, three or five years. I have seen people who have been struggling throughout their career. To put in numbers at least for 20 years. To your intrigue, I have found them happier than we actually are. Don’t you try to know how do they find courage to feel that way.
You should know when man gets backed off either by situation or by his own fault, his whole life turns down. Somehow after few days, he comes up again with lot more enthusiasm and energy. You guessed it correctly! He fails again. This time, he gets more upset, and starts doubting upon his own capabilities. At this stage, most people are stuck per se 90% of those who failed. The rest 10% get up with more courage to uplift themselves yet again they fail. Continuous failures don’t make them unhappy but strong. You must know that “Often at hardest time of your life, you find your true self” Yes this time, they start searching for what they actually are working for whether that befits their capacity. If yes! Then next try, if not then they change their goals. Few might argue, why change goals? I ask them why not? After all happiness counts.
You should know that “Resiliency doesn’t come all at once nor it’s a trait to build. It’s a process that continues throughout”
After a lot failed retrials, they learn to become happy. Yes, we lack this thing in life. Truly, they are the achievers. They have walked a long unpaved path yet painted finally with stunningly beautiful colours.

25/10/2022

Can you recall your memories with this little thing?
~Yes, it’s a catapult that we used to play with when we were kiddy. Wow! Those were days SubhanAllah❤️. Anyway, what we did with it was-pulled towards our face with projectile and then left suddenly. Just to make your projectile move forward, you had to pull backward first. In the same manner, you have your dark days with you when you’re with totally shattered heart ready to give up. But you must understand that the more the rubber in the catapult is stretched the harder it hits the target. So keep calm, wait for your time to launch yourself in the correct direction.

28/09/2022

In Islamic theology, the heart has its own importance. It is super-sensory organ that is cognizant of volition, intention, affection and emotion. Only Allah knows the secrets of the heart or it’s know by the person possessing it. Your level of Eemaan im your heart at times are shaken vigorously and at stake of danger (loose Eemaan), so it’s our duty to check whether you’re nourishing your soul or not. Many times, our heart(dead/sick) would ask us to interpret things differently than what Islam has prescribed. If your heart isn’t corrupted then only your Fitrah will derive towards the truth otherwise you are prone to err. For instance; we often take the meaning of this Hadith for granted which goes إِنَّمَا الأَعْمَالُ بِالنِّيَّةِ which means that Indeed deeds are by intentions. However, this implies for only good deeds otherwise people all around come together and start sinning claiming that their intentions were good, alcoholic would come and say he was just exhibiting other level of consciousness, Az-Zani would come and say he was doing so out of pleasure and yes with consent. These all are blasphemy in itself. This Hadith is talking about good deeds only. Suppose you tried to help a needy person in the way who was suffocating but unfortunately death happened. Since your intention was clear Allah will reward you for it In Shaa Allah.
May Allah give us true understanding of the religion. Ya Muqallibul Quloob🤲 Thabbit Qalbi Ala Deenik

16/09/2022

Guess what! Life is full of transformations. You keep changing every moment. Sometimes these changes are driven through your inner cues but most of the times your surroundings such as people, situation make you change your beliefs. At the end, what matters is how close you’re to the original format just after your change.
We must understand the efforts of people why and how they made you take a move. And yes! We must appreciate those who make you feel connected back to the Almighty. The final move of the long transformations should be to the one who allowed you to walk throughout your transformational journey.
Rabbil Aalameen

05/07/2022

Indecisiveness and procrastination are chosen ways of lives for many of us. We follow the course of least resistance, which is to do nothing. While this of course provides a security blanket of never being wrong, never being disappointed, and never failing. But for sure such people will never succeed.

04/07/2022

One must note that distress and sufferings are normal part of our lives which do not in themselves constitute a psychological disorder. In order to classify it under disorder it must entail 3 things:
1. Psychological dysfunction
2. Personal distress
3. Atypical/Culturally unexpected

30/06/2022

Allah (عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ) has blessed everyone of us differently. Some might be bestowed with beauty while others with intelligence and wealth. Not a single person is affluent in every possession that a nafs can desire. Meanwhile, nobody can attain perfection in each segments. So why do you worry about others when they beat you in one of such things despite knowing that you too are better than them in at least one of those?
Accept your flaws first and try improving them while at the same time strengthening your natural strength that He has blessed you with. Lastly, hold your wings and give a high jump to fly. You are unique in your own way, no need make cheap comparisons.

30/06/2022

29/05/2022

What has happened today to the Sunnahs of Nabi’ Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam?
We have made Nikah difficult and Zina easy. People are delaying their marriages simply because they are not yet ready. Ready for what, why not ready?
Answer comes that they’re still studying, unsettled, no means to provide and alike…
Why are you worried when you as a believer you compel yourself to be a one who believes in predestination as a sixth pillar of Eemaan? Who are you to worry about your Rizq if He ﷻ who created you is taking guarantee of every living creatures on earth including you? Why not to have Tawakkul on Him ﷻ for you’ll be blessed for sure? Has the times not become different than what our parents witnessed i.e. you can earn for your living if you just work as a labour? Now comes the study! How many of you have remained single throughout your life until getting married? Was there any difference in your studies when you were in relationship?
Dear viewers! All these tactics are of Shaitan to keep you away from Halal and make you swim in the pool of Haram.
Do your Nikah at prescribed times as per Shariah and save yourself from Fitnah which is spreading faster than Coronavirus

27/05/2022

How to plan something?
-Start with Bismillah. But before that, a major role lies which will shape your being and that is intention ‘Niyah’. Yes you read it correctly!
Intention of what your end result would be after your planning, where are going to land afterwards. Normally, we have our end result of planning already planted in our heads before awhile we have even started.
Don’t you see there’s something wrong here?🤨
You have already planted your results yet you’re planning to gain. How come you even think of results at this very moment?
The answer lies in being optimistic. Far beyond that, as Muslimeen ours’ lie in being positive towards our actions/plans by relying on Allah Subhanahu Watala.
Tawakkul upon Allah will ease your efforts. How to gain that!
1. Make firm belief and conviction inside your heart/mind and pray Istikhara.
2. Don’t run pro and anti-wise in respect to what you intended before praying Istikharah
3. Now plan accordingly to your best of ability while keeping in my mind that He (Subhanahu Watala) is the best of planners yet I have blessed with Aql to plan for now.
4. After you have planned, act upon them with full reliance. (Hardest)
5. If things don’t go as per your plan, don’t get upset. Take a deep breathe thanking Allah. You’re rewarded for your reliance upon Him.
* In Surat A’le Imran Allah instructs the prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam to فَإِذَا عَزَمْتَ فَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى ٱللَّهِ which means : Once you make a decision put your trust in Allah. What a beautiful verse SubhanAllah. Allah loves those who rely on him (further He adds in the same verse).
His instructions are not only advices but guidelines to live our lives happily and easily
May Allah make us among those who when plan, plan in an Islamic way

09/04/2022

Feeling distressed so much so that you think you can’t go ahead a single step!
Your feelings are true, you don’t have to try to stop having this emotions. Remember! You must not let your thoughts weaken you. You must be strong enough to restrain yourself from negative thoughts. You are more worthy of happiness than how much you’re now-happiness is waiting to hug you tightly.
All of us are striving in our own way but we have got way to enjoy and find happiness in such scenarios. Learn! Lean! Learn to feel good 😊

26/03/2022

Struggling with mental health issues 🤔
Or,
Stumbling with your level of Eemaan and willing to move forward in life!
Please feel free to contact
In Shaa Allah we’ll help you coping with any type of issues that might be disturbing your inner peace.

24/02/2022

Do you guys know how many pillars of Eemaan are there?
- Most will say 5
Those who insist on 5 are wrong because you’re thinking about the pillars of Islam. There are six pillars of Eemaan and those are:
1. Belief in Allah
2. Belief in His Prophets
3. Belief in His Books
4. Belief in Angels
5. Belief in the Unseen
6. Last but not least, Belief in the Qadr

15/02/2022

I’m sorry guys to post after a long time.
Have you ever noticed yourself being bestowed with As-Sakinah (Tranquility)? The reason why I must say it to be bestowed by Allah Subhanahu Watala is that it’s only in his hand. Unlike secular perspectives who claim it’s gain after few continual and focused meditation. It’s so unique in itself that not everyone is granted. And you won’t perceive it until you are awarded with it. I’d like to describe it’s experience ti best if my ability here. When you are gifted with it, each ounce of your heart and body feels calm and resting. This feeling is totally distinct from feelings gained by personal strife. You would feel content by his mercy and affirmations (Subhanahu Watala). This is the reason it’s synonymous to reassurance. Let us remember the battle of Badr when believers were few in numbers and Allah helped us with his Sakinah through angels and the hearts of the believers were assured.

24/12/2021

‘Nothing’ is a mistake, and nothing is something that you should regret-It all happens for a reason, there’s a purpose for and behind everything.

03/12/2021

Very soon In Shaa Allah!
No matter how difficult it is seen superficially. Remember! He (Subhanahu Watala) will only charge you which you can bear. Stay calm and have tawaqqul on Allah. Your distress and calamity will go away in the same way he gives light to darkness and transforms night into day.

14/09/2021

Beware of unnecessary talks which one way or other hamper you. These talks will just contain backbiting, blasphemy, heedlessness, greediness and evil. In fact, these are the waste of you valuable time which you little possess. Remember! the way you don't like anybody talking behind your back about you, the person about whom you would be discussing about has the full right over you. This can be clearly seen in our Shari'ah in which the severe punishment is there for slanderers. Instead of gossiping, give your precious time to your family, to hunt out your hobbies, to travel and explore the world and most importantly learn and teach others the goodness. Submitting to Allah doesn't only include the things which he had ordered us to adhere with rather it too includes things which he had ordered to refrain from.

05/09/2021

The Qur’an has a guidance for all human beings not only Muslims. Because it has in it reference to individual self care, relationships, family, marriage, social welfare, embryological and developmental stages, emotional behaviours, pro social behaviours, ethical and spiritual intelligence, personality and need for learning and knowledge. Alhamdulillah! We’re blessed with complete and holistic facets of human behaviours and experiences.
Give yourself a time to reflect and ponder over the verses of the Qur’an.

31/08/2021

Sabr (Patience) is tough thing to adhere to. When you’re surrounded by the darkness and you don’t have any move to go anywhere. Every door is closed and you’re stuck in the cloud of hardships. The only way to help you breathe in the place is just a tiny pore through which a light is passing in the room in the required quantity. It’s totally overwhelming and suffocating too because you have no any other choice. But have faith in Allah that there’s always a light outside of what you’re going through. The ease will follow you. The wisdom of sabr is very high in the eye of Allah Subhanahu Watala which is why he says Indeed he’s with As-sabiroon.

30/08/2021

Many a time, we get stressed when things don’t go as per our plan or people don’t act as we anticipated them to. More often we blame others and sometimes we even cut off our relationships not understanding that actually it is we who needs to be corrected. Remember! We have been granted free will by Allah Subhanahu Watala. People utilize it in an unique way. We aren’t here to judge or to rule over others. Just like we want ourselves to be happy by following our own thoughts and actions, they too have full authority on whom to choose and how or why choose or reject. You should not see them antagonists rather filter your thoughts and bring optimism in your processing system.
We mustn’t forget our mission which is to please Allah not people or be pleased or angered by their behaviours. Work on your soul and be the best.

29/08/2021

Human behaviour is such an extraordinary and well-managed system developed by Allah Subhanahu Watala. Your mood is reflected by your way of actions, facial expressions and even verbally through your communication patterns.
Our face becomes saddened after we hear bad news about someone. Imagine what would the expressions of ours be on the day of resurrection! Aren’t you excited and terrified at the same time? Of course! You should be because nobody knows what that day holds for you. As mentioned in the Qur’an of Surah Al-e-Imran verse 106, on that day some faces will be bright and some gloomy. One might wonder how this would happen. Well, when your deeds will be provided to you by Allah Subhanahu Watala, you will imagine yourself either enjoying in the paradise or being punished in the hellfire depending upon the deeds that you had done in the first place. Out of fear, or joy your facial expression would be explicitly stated. We ask Allah Subhanahu Watala to encompass us into the circle of his mercy. Aameen 🤲

29/08/2021

25/08/2021

Try your best and leave the rest to Allah
Subhanahu Wata’la.
Anything destined to happen will happen at it’s own prescribed time but you shouldn’t stop asking Allah and struggling to reach your destination. Sometimes you gotta pave your own path. It doesn’t mean that Allah stopped you rather he might have willed to make you even stronger by choosing you to carve the path by your own hands. Remember! This life is just a trial for few days and your next life would be In Shaa Allah more beautiful if dealt with everything patiently.

22/08/2021

22/08/2021

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