ARC Psychosocial Care And Research Center

25/02/2026

PsyEd #1
Psychological safety in families and the workplace

Love language describes the different ways we express and receive care.

One of the most powerful non-verbal expressions of presence is a hug.

But a hug is not just a hug.

It can be a casual greeting, a celebration, a gesture of reassurance, a silent support during grief, and for some, a source of discomfort.

The meaning of a hug depends on context, emotional state, and safety.

There is the one who offers the hug and the one who receives it.

But the dynamic is more complex than it seems.

The person offering the hug may:
*genuinely want to give comfort
*be seeking connection in return
*be unaware of their own emotional needs
*or assume their gesture will automatically be welcomed

Yet what truly matters is:

Is the intention felt the way it was meant?

The intention of offering and the impact it makes are not always the same.

In families, between partners, siblings, parents, and children- and even in professional environments- connections depend on emotional readiness on both sides.

A child who deeply longs for love may not ask for it if they do not feel safe enough to express, even in an otherwise loving family. A sense of fear, tension, or unspoken expectations makes the child silence their need.

And sometimes, adults do the same.

Sometimes the most loving act is not to hug, but to notice whether the other person is ready to be held.

So, this brings deeper reflection on:

*What role do i mostly take- the giver or the receiver?

*Is my intention clearly felt?

*Am I offering connection in a way the other person can actually receive?

*Is there an unspoken need in me as I offer it to the other?

*Am I emotionally in a state to receive from others?

*Can I feel and hear the intention of a giver?

*What might be blocking this rhythm of giving and taking?

Connection requires more than good intention.
It requires awareness, empathy, timing, and emotional safety.

Whether in families or leadership, the real question is not just-

"Did i offer support?"

But also,

"Was it experienced as support?"

Sometimes growth begins by acknowledging the difference.

09/09/2025

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05/12/2024

With 18 years of experience as a school counselor, Sheila Shrestha blends compassion and expertise to support children, families, and educators. She also offers mental health care and training through the Gestalt Institute Nepal and A.R.C Psycho-social Care.

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24/09/2024

So I've been doing quite a few posts on boundaries lately.

And it's been super interesting to see the different comments and perspectives on what people think boundaries are.

Some think boundaries are just plain hurtful.

Some think boundaries are just walls that we built.

Some think that boundaries aren't things we need to express explicitly, that people "should" be able to plainly see from our behaviours and actions.

Some even think that setting boundaries are an act of selfishness too.

And know this, I'm not here to convince you that what you think is right or wrong.

That would just be on me, wrongly imposing on you my values.

And really the truth is this:

That you should keep doing "you", as long as it brings you inner peace and it's something you're happy to do (and makes your loved ones happy too).

And perhaps the even bigger truth is this:

That I won't even bother setting boundaries with most of the people I meet in life.

Why?

Simply because their actions and words don't really matter to me.

They don't impact me at all.

We can just walk away from them, and go live our individual lives too.

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But the important bit here is this, that if I do set a boundary with you, this is me telling you that 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 to me.

So much so that it's important for me to 𝗹𝗲𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗶𝗻 on how I feel.

As well as what I truly 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 from you.

Be it a close friend - telling you that what you did was hurtful (could you do this instead?)

Be it a boss or colleague - telling you that I didn't like that (would it be okay to discuss what happened?)

And especially so for my loved ones - because I don't want to lose you (but at the same time I need to feel safe and loved too)

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Boundaries aren't just walls intended to hurt or threaten.

Boundaries are the directions we give, so we can feel loved and keep loving them too.

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"Boundaries are me telling you that you do matter, here's how you can come in".

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With love,
Hernping

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17/09/2024

10/09/2024

Asking for a help takes courage! What is supportive is what matters!

04/10/2023

25/09/2023

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Sarita Rana joined Rato Bangala School in 1994 as a class teacher. She worked in various grades before she moved on to coordinating Unit 1 (Grades I-V). She has been associated with the Primary Teacher Training Program since its establishment, first as an advisor to the trainees and later as an instructor. She has been working as the coordinator of RBECC since its inception in 2017.

Sheila Shrestha is a Gestalt Therapist, school counselor, and the founder of ARC Psychosocial Care and Research Center. She has been trained in various national and international training on working with children, adolescents, and families. She has 17 years of experience working as a school counselor.

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24/09/2023

WHAT IF...
The part of you that you hate the most is actually the part of you that deserves the most love?

This is a post about self compassion.

A practice that I'll readily admit is not easy to do.

Because maybe, like me, you have a part of you that feels unworthy...

Or ashamed and undeserving of love too.

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You see, there's a term for such parts of ourselves.

We call them "exiles" in psychotherapy.

For me, one of my exiles was a past version of myself...

A youth that used to be creative and carefree.

But this was also the same youth who was criticised by my peers.

Shamed as being unsophisticated, "stupid" and immature.

Even though back then all I wanted to do was to be myself and enjoy my life.

Instead I tucked this part of myself away.

And hid him away from the world.

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Pretending to like things that I didn't like, and pretending to be smarter than I was.

All the while feeling a little fragile, pretending to be a person I knew I wasn't.

Hiding away the "real" me.

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But the truth is, this was also a part of me that never actually went away.

It remained inside as a deep seated wound.

Sometimes showing up as resentment to others.

Sometimes showing up as fear of criticism too.

But in my internal world, what it often showed up as...

Was a shame of being who I "really" am at my root.

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So here I am, bringing this part of me out.

Drawing whatever I want and writing whatever I want too.

To this part of me, i don't want to "exile" you anymore.

Come on out, let's flourish together for good.

Love,
Hernping

😬🇸🇬🦕

19/07/2023

Enjoy here and now!

"I'm full of worry." said Rabbit.
"Don't believe everything you think." said Bear. "The future has yet to happen. Be here, right now and let your worries melt away..."

©Tara Shannon
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Image description: Black and white sketch with handwritten text. The text floats above a sketch of Bear who is relaxed and laying down, facing left, with Rabbit stretched out and completely relaxed across Bear's back, facing right.

23/04/2023

Sheila Shrestha is a Gestalt therapist, school counselor, and the founder of ARC Psychosocial Care and Research Center. She has attended various national and international training/ workshops on working with children, adolescents, and groups. She has 17 years of experience working as a school counselor and 10 years as a lecturer of Psychology. She is a Gold Medalist in M.Sc. Clinical Psychology from Bangalore University (2006).

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