30/12/2025
who is not a friend.
Yes, in a deeper sense, everyone is our friend.
Yet it is also important to understand who is not a friend.
Be gentle, but be attentive, especially with those who stay very close.
Those who cling to you, who speak loudly of how great you are,
how much you help them, how you have saved them, supported them, uplifted them.
Pause and look quietly.
See if there is any hidden agenda behind the praise.
Some people can walk beside you for a very long time.
Not all companionship is friendship.
Sometimes, a friend arrives like a parasite…
drawing from your energy, your time, your kindness…
while you ride on the pride they carefully place upon you,
portraying themselves as right hand, your supporter, your closest ally.
Turn this into a meditation.
Ask one honest question:
Am I truly doing what I once wished to do?
Or have I lost my way trying to become someone’s redeemer?
Am I being pulled toward their needs,
instead of walking steadily toward my own dreams?
We have seen many good-hearted people exhaust themselves
trying to heal, fix, and carry others.
Compassion is beautiful, but everything has a limit.
Time is short.
If someone remains deeply attached to what they want,
yet rarely supports what you must do for your own true growth,
perhaps distance is not cruelty, it is clarity.
Sometimes, maintaining space is an act of wisdom.
In the end, we must realize:
we are all alone on our path, sooner or later.
And that is not a tragedy.
That is an invitation, to be brave, to be honest, and to walk forward without fear.
