17/10/2023
So true we all need a method to process loss of all kinds
When I came to Grief Recovery for the first time, I was 18. I had lost a pet and a grandparent, and those things were sad for me, but at 18, if you were to ask me, “Do you have unresolved grief?” I would have responded, “What are you talking about?”
At 18, I never would have thought, “I could benefit from doing Grief Recovery.” It was foreign to me, but I was part of a family that did this work. My dad said, “You’re going to go do this.” The minute I started doing the Grief Recovery Method, it was evident that I had a lot of unresolved pain from my past. There was still a lot to look at, to work on, and to free myself of. There was this emotional pain that I wasn’t even aware I was carrying.
It was a profound experience that I wish more human beings had. If I could redo my website and have a slogan that didn’t sound cool and wasn’t catchy, that slogan would be, just because it’s the truth:
Welcome to griefrecoverymethod.com. If you are a human being who has been on this planet for more than seven years, then you’re in the right place. There is work that you can do around emotional pain.
One of the biggest hurdles to reaching others is that most people don’t self-qualify as a griever. For most people, the term griever is a weird term. Unless you work in this line of work, it’s a bizarre concept for people. But every human being I meet is grieving. Whether at the airport, at a social event, or the Little League game for my kids, I know they’re a griever.
One of the big concepts we're trying to work with is moving away from the term "griever" because it can be so jarring and unfamiliar to people. Instead, we discuss emotional pain, sadness, and unfinished business. More people can relate to those terms. We don't have to call it grief. A lot of people call it trauma, stress, anxiety or depression. Those are all other aspects of the human experience. It doesn't matter what you call it, but the Grief Recovery Method is how to heal. - Cole James