Hana Counselling and Education

20/03/2026

What if healing felt like dancing? 🎶
Move, Feel, and Dance - A Gentle Therapeutic Dance Session 🎶
Sometimes the deepest healing doesn't start with words. It starts with movement.
This session is a free gentle therapeutic dance session designed for absolutely everyone! No experience, no pressure, just a safe and joyful space to reconnect with yourself. 💛

Here's what to expect:
🎨 A creative "Where Do I Feel?" body awareness activity
🌿 Gentle stretching and slow therapeutic movement
💃 A short, simple guided dance
📅 10 April 2026
🕙 10:30 am
📍 Epsom Library, Auckland
195 Manukau Rd,Epsom,Aucland

Free to attend. No registration needed. Just show up! 🌸
👉 Tap the link below to find out more.

17/03/2026

Behind every workshop is a whole lot of heart — and a really talented team. 🎵
Here's a sneak peek at our rehearsal, where our Dance Movement Therapy specialist, music composer and PTSD therapist come together to craft something truly special for you.
Our workshops engage all five senses and are designed to offer real, professional-level therapeutic support in a warm and welcoming group setting. 🌸
Because healing doesn't have to happen alone — and it doesn't always have to look like a therapy room. 💛
📩 Curious? Reach out or tap the link in bio.

14/03/2026

Positive self affirmation to your daily life 🌿

Our brain doesn’t only respond to what has already happened.
It also responds to the future we imagine.

When we clearly picture a positive outcome and repeat it with intention, our nervous system begins to align with that possibility. Over time, these repeated mental images can influence motivation, behaviour, and emotional responses.

A simple practice is to imagine your day ending well before it even begins.
Speak it out loud as if it already happened.

Small shifts in how we speak to ourselves can create meaningful changes in how we move through the day.

At Hana Counselling, we integrate these ideas with body-based approaches such as Dance Movement Therapy, Zen-inspired practices, and Japanese therapeutic wisdom.

✨ Read the full article on our website to explore FMIX (Future Memory Integration).

13/03/2026

🌿 Developing a new framework for trauma integration in community contexts

I am currently developing the Mud Lotus Trauma Integration Programme in Aotearoa New Zealand.

This programme is informed by the Mud Lotus Trauma Integration Model, a theoretical framework that conceptualises trauma recovery not only as symptom reduction, but as a process of reality preservation and meaning integration.

Many trauma recovery models focus on PTSD symptoms and nervous system regulation. However, traumatic experiences often occur within complex social environments — including interpersonal violence, institutional conflict, legal processes, and social invalidation.

In these contexts, individuals may struggle not only with psychological symptoms, but also with challenges to their sense of reality, identity, and social belonging.

The Mud Lotus model proposes that trauma recovery can be understood as a developmental integration process involving:
• Grounding and safety
• Narrative reflection
• Meaning integration
• Community reconnection

The programme integrates reflective dialogue, body awareness practices, and community-based support structures.

🌿 This work is currently being developed for potential application in:
• community trauma recovery programmes
• community organisations and social services
• correctional and rehabilitation contexts

I am particularly interested in research collaboration and interdisciplinary dialogue with researchers and practitioners working in trauma studies, community psychology, restorative justice, and related fields.
If this work resonates with your research or practice, I would welcome the opportunity to connect.

Curious about the Mud Lotus Trauma Integration Model?
Learn more about the framework and programme here:
https://lnkd.in/etgn-u6x

12/03/2026

In trauma psychology, recovery is often described in terms of symptom reduction or Post-Traumatic Growth.

But many traumatic experiences unfold in a much more complex reality—where people face not only internal distress, but also gaslighting, social invalidation, institutional pressure, or legal conflict.

This observation led me to develop the Mud Lotus Trauma Integration Model, a framework that understands trauma recovery as a process involving three interconnected dimensions:

• Reality Preservation – maintaining one’s sense of reality despite external invalidation

• Restoration of Being – recovering safety, dignity, and internal stability

• Meaning Integration – transforming lived experience into reflective awareness and meaning

The model proposes five developmental stages of trauma integration:

Mud → Survival → Surface Break → Lotus Bloom → Sky Perspective

The metaphor comes from the lotus flower in Zen philosophy:

a flower that grows from the mud yet rises above the water to bloom.

In this perspective, trauma recovery is not only about healing symptoms.

It is also about preserving reality, restoring the self, and integrating meaning.

I recently summarized this framework in a conceptual paper.

“Beyond Post-Traumatic Growth:

The Mud Lotus Trauma Integration Model as a Framework for Reality Preservation and Meaning Integration.”

I hope this model contributes to ongoing conversations about trauma recovery, meaning-making, and the complex social realities many survivors face.

🪷 More details in the full article:

Abstract Trauma recovery models have traditionally focused on symptom reduction, including the treatment of PTSD, nervous system regulation, and cognitive restructuring. However, many traumatic experiences occur within complex social and structural contexts such as interpersonal violence, gaslight

10/03/2026

蓮の花は、泥の中からしか咲かない。

トラウマ回復と成長についての小さな考察です。

トラウマ治療では、多くの場合
フラッシュバック
不安
過覚醒
感情調整の困難

といった症状の軽減に焦点が当てられます。

それはとても大切なことです。

しかし私は、トラウマセラピストとして、そして研究者として感じています。

トラウマ回復とは、
単に苦しみを取り除くことではない。

そこには

癒しと意味づけ

というプロセスが必要です。

PTSD症状が改善しても、多くの人が次のような問いを抱え続けます。

「なぜ自分に起きたのだろう」
「この経験とどう生きていけばいいのだろう」

臨床の中で私は、トラウマ回復を
禅の比喩で理解するようになりました。

「蓮の花は、泥の中からしか咲かない」

痛み、不公平、喪失、混乱。
それらは時間が経てば自然に消えるものではありません。

しかしその泥の中から、
新しい成長が生まれることがあります。

この考えから生まれたのが

Lotus Trauma Integration Model

です。

このモデルでは

・EMDR
・森田療法
・内観
・禅マインドフルネス
・ダンス／ムーブメントセラピー
・禅アートセラピー

を統合し、

神経記憶
感情の受容
意味づけ
神経系の安定
身体的表現

という複数の層からトラウマ回復を支えます。

それは単なる回復ではなく

トラウマ後成長（Post-Traumatic Growth）

につながる可能性があります。

トラウマ回復とは、無敵になることではありません。

それは

人生の嵐の中でも壊れずに歩き続ける力

を育てることです。

禅の言葉で言えば

「嵐を止めようとするな。
嵐の中でも、静かな湖であれ。」

蓮の花のように。
凛として、美しく、そして強く。

Lotus Trauma Integration Modelについて、より詳しく書いた記事はこちらからお読みいただけます。

https://www.hanacounselling.com/new-blog/-

—
Ai Kihara - Director at Hana Counselling

セラピー

10/03/2026

The lotus blooms only in the mud.

A reflection on trauma recovery, healing, and post-traumatic growth.

In trauma therapy, treatment often focuses on reducing symptoms such as flashbacks, anxiety, hypervigilance, or emotional dysregulation.

These symptoms matter.

But trauma recovery is not only about removing pain.

As a trauma therapist and researcher, I have come to believe that recovery also requires something deeper:

healing and meaning-making.

Even when PTSD symptoms improve, many people still carry questions like:

Why did this happen to me?

How do I live with what happened?

How do I rebuild my life after trauma?

In my clinical reflections, I began to understand trauma recovery through a Zen metaphor:

“The lotus blooms only in the mud.”

Pain, injustice, loss, and confusion are part of the mud of human experience.

Time alone does not heal trauma.

But from that mud, something new can grow.

This idea led me to develop what I call the Lotus Trauma Integration Model.

The model integrates several therapeutic approaches:

• EMDR

• Morita Therapy

• Naikan reflection

• Zen mindfulness

• Dance / Movement Therapy

• Zen Art Therapy

Each approach supports a different layer of trauma integration:

neural memory, emotional acceptance, meaning-making, nervous system stability, and embodied expression.

Together, they may support not only trauma recovery, but also Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG).

Trauma recovery does not mean becoming invincible.

It means developing the strength to continue walking through life’s storms without breaking.

In Zen we might say:

Do not try to stop the storm.

Become the quiet lake within it.

Like the lotus—

resilient, dignified, and strong.

—

Hana Counselling (Ai Kihara)

Lotus Trauma Integration Model

If this reflection resonates with you, you can read the full article here:

www.hanacounselling.com/article/the-lotus-in-the-mud-an-integrative-approach-to-trauma-recovery-healing-and-post-traumatic-growth-in-the-zen-moment-a-hana-counselling-trauma-integration-model

Therapy

07/03/2026

"Coaching at Hana Counselling 🌿

Not only counselling and therapy, we also offer a coaching programme for individuals and entrepreneurs.

From personal life coaching to professional and business-focused coaching, our experienced coaches at Hana Counselling will support you to clarify your goals
and take steady steps toward them throughout the course.

If you’re feeling ready for guidance, reflection, and a gentle push toward your next chapter,we’d love to walk alongside you.

DM us or email admin@hanacounselling.com

for more information or bookings. 💛

05/03/2026

Most people think strength means fighting harder.

But neuroscience suggests the opposite.

As a trauma therapist, I often see what happens when people live under prolonged stress, conflict, or misunderstanding.

People sometimes tell me:

“I’m not an angry person, but lately I can’t stop feeling angry.”

“Small things suddenly make me anxious.”

“I find myself over-explaining even when I don’t need to.”

These reactions are not personality flaws.

They are often signs that the nervous system has entered a defensive mode.

When this continues for a long time, people may experience:

• poor sleep

• emotional instability

• difficulty thinking clearly

• constant physical tension

But psychology and neuroscience show something important:

True strength is not the ability to fight harder.

It is the ability to return to a regulated state.

When the nervous system is regulated:

• breathing becomes deeper

• the prefrontal cortex becomes more active

• emotional regulation improves

• communication becomes clearer

• trust from others increases

In other words,

the calmest person in the room is often the strongest one.

Zen expresses this idea beautifully.

Emotions and events are clouds.

Our true nature is the sky.

Clouds change shape and eventually pass.

But the sky itself is never damaged.

Zen does not try to stop the storm.

It teaches us to remain a still lake, even in the middle of it.

And perhaps true resilience is simply this:

Not winning against others —

but not losing ourselves.

If you are interested, I wrote a longer article about this here:

🔗 https://www.hanacounselling.com/article/how-to-stay-calm-under-stress-a-trauma-therapists-guide-to-nervous-system-regulation-understanding-stress-responses-trauma-reactions-and-how-to-calm-the-nervous-system

Therapy

05/03/2026

強いストレスや対立の中で、どうすれば心を整えられるのでしょうか。

トラウマ症状の治療に関わる中で、長期的なストレス環境に置かれた人が、防御モードに入ってしまう姿をよく見ます。

例えば、こんな言葉を聞くことがあります。

「普段は怒りっぽくないのに、怒りが止まらない」

「ちょっとしたことで不安になる」

「必要ない場面でも、弁明してしまう」

これは性格の問題ではなく、

神経系が防御状態に入っているサインであることが多いのです。

この状態が続くと、

・睡眠の質の低下

・感情の不安定さ

・判断力の低下

・身体の慢性的な緊張

といった反応が起こります。

しかし心理学や神経科学の研究では、興味深いことが示されています。

本当の強さとは、

戦う力ではなく、整う力であるということです。

神経系が整うと、

・呼吸が深くなる

・前頭前野が活性化する

・感情調整力が高まる

・言葉が明確になる

・周囲からの信頼が高まる

つまり、

一番落ち着いている人が、実は一番強い。

禅にはこんな比喩があります。

感情や出来事は雲。

本質は空。

雲は形を変え、やがて流れていきます。

しかし空そのものは傷つきません。

禅では、嵐を止めようとはしません。

嵐の中でも、静かな湖であることを思い出すのです。

そして本当のレジリエンスとは、

誰かに勝つことではなく

自分を失わないこと。

このテーマについて、記事にまとめました。

🔗 記事はこちら https://www.hanacounselling.com/new-blog/affirmation-

#メンタルヘルス

#トラウマケア

#心理学

#マインドフルネス

#レジリエンス

Therapy

04/03/2026

🌿 How Do We Truly Support Our Clients?

As a therapist and researcher, I often ask myself this:
Are our models enough?
Despite years of training, research, and clinical practice, I sometimes feel the limits of technique.
Because healing is not only technical.
It is relational.
I believe the therapeutic relationship can feel deeper than friendship — sometimes even deeper than family.
Why?

Because we are entrusted with what cannot be spoken elsewhere.
Since the 1990s, I have held a Japanese therapeutic stance called Kyōku (shared pain).
Not empathy.
Not emotional merging.
But the disciplined act of feeling a client’s experience
without inserting my ego.
I do not run.
I do not judge.
I do not collapse.
I stay.
Calm. Steady. Present.

During my graduate research at the University of Auckland, I explored the intersection of Zen philosophy and neuroscience.
Three Zen principles shape my clinical work:
• Taigu (Stepping Back) – Reclaiming choice instead of reacting.
• Hōge (Letting Go) – Releasing attachment, not responsibility.
• Taigu (The Great Fool) – Strength without aggression. Mushin.
Inner stability.

When practiced, these principles create something powerful:
Alignment.

When values, actions, and inner stillness align,
external chaos loses its power.
True invincibility is not defeating others.
It is having a centered mind.
In a post-COVID world filled with uncertainty,
presence may be our most powerful intervention.
For those of us who support others —

how do you cultivate steadiness?🌿

Full article is here:
https://www.hanacounselling.com/article/zen-and-therapy-standing-without-leaving

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