29/12/2025
There are so many moments in the last 365 days that I've missed her ~ in the magnificent & the mundane, in the celebrations & the chaos, in the moments I want to share something funny or something I'm proud of. I've missed her amongst it all.
I've come to learn I'm never just grieving the moment Terri died, but every moments I wish she was here for. One year on & the milestones hit hard. But if I'm honest, the ache lives in everyday. When I share a hard or heavy moment people ask me if I'm ok. And I appreciate that deeply, but what I invite you to do is ask me about her. Let me talk about her. Remembering who she was is one of my favorite things - even when it hurts, because the ache is just another shape of love.
I think there is so much to learn about life from loss & we do that by being vulnerable & brave. Lately, I've been reminding myself that love came first.
In the magnificent & the mundane, in the celebrations & the chaos, love came first.
"You do not move on after loss, but you move with.
You must shake hands with grief,
Welcome her in, for she lives with you now.
Pull the chair at the table & offer her comfort.
She is not the monster you first thought her to be.
She is love.
And she will with you now, stay with you now, peacefully.
If you let her.
And on the days when your anger is high,
Remember why she came,
Remember who she represents.
Remember.
Grief came to you my friend, because love came first.
Love came first."
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