14/03/2026
I’ve felt drawn to share something publicly that I’ve not spoken about before.
Nearly 25 years ago, after a severe accident, I had a near-death experience — one that came to shape my understanding of loss, healing, and rebirth.
During that experience, I saw what I understood to be a soul contract I had created before my birth. In that moment, I realised I had not yet finished what I had come here to do in this “Earth school”, so I came back.
Since then, I have also lived through many smaller deaths and rebirths.
I have known the loss of relationships and friendships, the loss of my 20-year career and, with it, a deep sense of identity, purpose, and meaning. I have also faced the loss of loved ones, my health, hope, and joy.
The loss of my long-standing career was not a small thing. For a long time, I stayed silent around those losses in ways that asked me to set aside my own truth. I no longer feel willing to do that. Naming what has been painful is part of honouring my own experience, my own truth, and my own self-worth.
And yet, not despite those losses but because of them, I have gained so much.
Over time, I gained a deeper level of authenticity and realised the necessity of having strong boundaries. I also gained a stronger sense of self-worth and a clearer understanding of what I will and won’t tolerate in friendships and relationships. I no longer seek belonging or acceptance from others when it requires me to disappear in the process. Quite simply, I have lost all interest in those kinds of interactions.
I no longer measure my worth by how much I sacrifice myself in the service of others. If anything, those experiences have deepened my capacity to hold space for others - but now that offering comes from wholeness, not from a need to find my value there.
Some would describe this kind of passage through loss, fragmentation, and renewal as a form of initiation.
From this place, I can say with absolute certainty that death is always followed by rebirth.
Spring comes after winter. Day comes after night. Joy returns after sorrow. New beginnings are born from endings.
These are not shallow platitudes. These words come from the profound and excruciating territory of lived experience, and the newfound vitality that emerges on the other side.
I share this for those who are moving through your own season of loss, endings, or inner change. New life does emerge.
And if your own light has grown dim through the territory you are currently traversing, and you would like some company and support, feel free to message me for a complimentary chat or to book a session.
I’ve shared the full blog post in the comments for anyone who’d like to read more.