01/09/2024
For one reason or another, a lot of us didn't have the best childhoods growing up. The Alexander technique can be helpful for those of us who have been through traumatic experiences/have post-traumatic stress where our nervous systems are freaking out and for those of us who have difficult family backgrounds.
When we come from difficult family backgrounds with unreliable parents, it can negatively affect our sense of self and we often don't feel safe or like we can fully rely on others at a deep level and this can negatively affect our relationships with other people. (We can end up with what they call 'insecure attachment' styles.) Because the Alexander technique mirrors early developmental processes (eg, it uses touch and helps the way someone moves as a parent would help a small child), if you get enough consistent boundaried Alexander touch, it can help 're-parent' you in a way. (It did this for me personally.)
Over time, the touch can help you feel cared for and safe at quite a deep level and can change any insecure attachment to more secure attachment, and this helps how we can feel about ourselves and our relationships with others. It can 'undo' a lot of our crappy childhoods, basically. I have a page on trauma and the body that talks about some of this stuff. I'll link to it in the comments.
Theo von and trauma expert have a discussion about early childhood traumas. from This PAst Weekend #495
