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At Jen Rieder - Positive Change Integration (PCI) Therapy & Mentoring, we specialise in guiding you through a transformative healing journey. Our personalised approach to trauma healing, mindset rewiring, and confidence mentoring helps you unlock your potential, build confidence, and achieve lasting life transformation. Whether you're seeking emotional healing, self-empowerment, or personal growth

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29/04/2026

I’ve had moments where I’ve looked back at past versions of myself and thought… “why did I do that?”

But the truth is
I was doing the best I could with the awareness I had at the time.

And so were you.

Growth isn’t about judging who you were…
it’s about honouring how far you’ve come.

This is your reminder to soften, to forgive, and to keep becoming. 🤍

13/04/2026

If you think you can’t be hypnotised… read this

Did you know I’m a Master Hypnotherapist?

And no… it’s not what you think.

Most people hear “hypnosis” and imagine “stage hypnosis”:

👉 being controlled
👉 clucking like a chicken
👉 “losing control”

But real hypnotherapy isn’t about losing control…

it’s about regaining it.

I’ve trained in both RTT (Rapid Transformational Therapy) and clinical hypnotherapy, and while they both work with the subconscious mind, they’re used a little differently.

Here’s the simple breakdown:

✨ Hypnotherapy
Focuses on gently rewiring patterns over time

Think: calming the nervous system, shifting habits, building new beliefs

✨ RTT
Goes deeper, faster

We uncover the root cause of a belief or pattern and rewire it at the source.

But at the core… both do the same thing:

They help you access the part of your mind that’s been running the show all along.

And here’s the part most people don’t realise…

Hypnosis is simply a focused state of attention (a trance)

where your brain shifts into a different brainwave pattern. It slows down.

It’s actually something you naturally move in and out of every single day:

👉 when you first wake up
👉 just before you fall asleep
👉 when you’re scrolling your phone without even realising
👉 when you’re zoned out watching TV or YouTube
👉 when you’re stuck in a loop of overthinking

You’re not “out of control”…. you’re just more open.

Because here’s the truth:
You’re already in “hypnosis” multiple times a day.

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The question is —

is it working for you… or against you?

This is the work I do with my clients.

Not surface-level change…

but subconscious, identity-level transformation.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns you know aren’t serving you…. this is why.

And this is where we change it.

DM me if you’ve ever been curious about hypnotherapy ❤️✨

09/04/2026

You’re not lazy. Sometimes you’re overwhelmed by your own expectations.

We were staying at a friend’s place right on the beach, one of those “how lucky are we” kind of spots.

On the drive there, I made a commitment to myself:
“I’ll go for a run Saturday morning.”

The night before? Great food. Wine. Margaritas. Slow conversations.

Saturday morning comes…. it’s a beautiful day…
And instead of feeling motivated, I felt resistance.

Not because I didn’t want to run.
But because of the expectations I had placed on it.

My mind immediately started going:
You need to do at least X kms…
You should be going at this speed…
You need to go for at least X amount of time…

And just like that…. something I wanted to do started to feel heavy.

This is the part most people don’t realise.

It’s not laziness.
It’s not lack of discipline.

It’s your brain trying to protect you.

There’s a psychological concept behind this called self-handicapping

It’s when we unconsciously avoid or sabotage something before we start. So we don’t have to face the discomfort of not meeting our own expectations.

If you don’t try, you don’t have to feel disappointed.

So your brain creates resistance… not because you can’t do it, but because it’s trying to keep you emotionally safe.

And that’s exactly what was happening.

My expectations had become so rigid… that my brain was trying to talk me out of it completely.

So I did one thing differently.

I got up anyway.
I put my gear on.

And I dropped the expectations.

I told myself:
You can walk if you need to.
You can go slow.
You can run out and walk back
There is no standard — just move.

And everything shifted.
The pressure disappeared.
The resistance softened.

I ended up doing a 40-minute slow run along the beach.

Nothing impressive. But it felt really good.

And it reminded me of something I see in my clients all the time:

It’s not the action that stops you. It’s the expectation you attach to it.

We think we need more motivation, when actually, we need less pressure.

If you’ve been avoiding something lately… Check the expectations you’re carrying.

You might not need more discipline.
You might just need to take the pressure off🤍

05/04/2026

Hi 👋🏼 Jen here and right now, I’m working with clients who are navigating some of the hardest, most transformative chapters of their lives…

- Moving through the breakdown of a long-term marriage through infidelity… after years of trying to hold it together. A marriage that became controlling, suppressive, and left her questioning herself. Navigating separation, co-parenting, and financial uncertainty, while grieving what she thought her life would be…
Starting over again, going back to school, building a new career, and rebuilding her confidence, identity, and independence.

- Breaking free from addictive-style patterns that have been quietly running his life… the ones he justifies, minimises, or promises he’ll “get under control” but keeps coming back to.
Facing the impact it’s having on his relationship, his self-respect, and the way he shows up, and learning how to regulate, take ownership, and become someone he & wife can actually trust again.

- Earning more than he ever has before…
but still feeling constantly stressed about money.
Overspending, avoiding, or not even wanting to look then wondering where it all went.
Learning how to feel safe with money, take control, and shift the patterns that are keeping him stuck in a week-to-week cycle.

- Untangling the shame of being “the other woman”… and not being chosen. Facing the deeper layers of self-worth, self-abandonment, and what she was truly settling for.

- Navigating fertility challenges…
while trying to hold onto hope, manage the emotional rollercoaster, and not lose herself in the process.
At the same time, stepping into a new business or chapter, and learning how to hold both grief and growth without burning out or shutting down.

This isn’t surface-level work.

This is identity work.
Nervous system work.
Pattern-breaking work.

Because you don’t get a different life by trying harder inside the same unconscious loops.

Having a life quake too? Maybe it’s time to reach out?

Message me “READY” and let’s talk.

04/04/2026

One of the hardest things my clients navigate isn’t what to say…
it’s being heard by someone who’s not actually listening.

Because when someone is deeply attached to their story their wounds, their protection, their insecurities, they’re not hearing you.

They’re filtering you.

Twisting your words.
Rearranging your meaning.
Fitting what you say into a narrative that already feels safe for them.

And that can feel exhausting…
confusing…
even crazy-making.

You start questioning yourself.
“Did I say that wrong?”
“Am I the problem here?”
“Why can’t I just get through to them?”

But here’s the truth most people don’t realise:

You cannot create clarity with someone who is committed to misunderstanding you.

Not because you’re not communicating well…
but because they are protecting something they’re not ready to face.

And this is where the real work begins.

Not in trying harder to be heard but in learning when to stop over-explaining, when to hold your ground,
and when to step out of conversations that are no longer safe or productive.

This is the shift from people-pleasing…
to self-trust.

From over-explaining…
to emotional boundaries.

From “how do I make them understand me?”
to “what do I need right now?”

If this hit home for you, you’re not alone.
Save this for when you need the reminder.

06/03/2026

Things I learned the hard way about leaving toxic environments…

Your mind will often try to take you back.

Not because it was good for you.
But because it was familiar.

If you’ve spent years seeking validation from others to feel worthy, leaving those spaces can feel like losing the very thing that helped you value yourself.

Approval.
Recognition.
Being needed.

And suddenly you’re left with a question many people have never learned how to answer:

Who am I without their approval?

Most of the time, staying in these environments feeds a deeper belief:

“I’m not good enough.”

So without realising it, you place yourself in spaces where that belief keeps getting reinforced.
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Chasing people who are unavailable.
Seeking validation from the wrong people.
Trying to prove your worth to those who never fully give approval.
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Because if you can finally get their validation,
it feels like proof that you’re finally enough.
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But the truth is…
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No amount of approval from the wrong people will ever heal a belief that was formed inside you.
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I actually wrote about this experience in my recent book — how hard it was to walk away from an environment that was feeding my insecurities, and how every part of me wanted to go back just to prove my value.
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And sometimes another uncomfortable question arises:
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Were those environments actually toxic…
or did they simply reveal the parts of me that need my attention and healing?
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Because often both can be true.

Some environments are unhealthy.

But they can also highlight the insecurities, patterns, and wounds within us that are asking for our attention and growth.

And once you begin to heal those parts of yourself…
you stop being attracted to the same environments that once felt normal.
If you think you are stuck in a toxic environment, reach out I know personally how hard it can be to break that cycle - Jen x

03/03/2026

Are you quietly drifting away from your goals/vision? Use this powerful 3-Step Reset That Gets You Back on Track!
It only works if you use it 😉

DM me any questions
Jen x

28/02/2026

When you’re in a rebuild and the mental noise is loud
Read this.

People won’t always understand the pauses.

The pause between sets in a workout.
The pause before you answer in a conversation.
The pause before you say yes to a date again.
The pause before launching something new.
The pause before trusting again.

But the pause is where the rebuild happens.

Today in training, I wasn’t just catching my breath.

I was:
Interrupting a negative thought
Softening the expectation I have of myself.
Reminding myself that its ok to be where I’m at right now.
Bringing my focus back from “what are they thinking?” to “I’m showing up for myself?”
I’m choosing to see this version of me with respect, not criticism.
I was recalibrating.

Because rebuilding anything

your body
your confidence
your life after heartbreak
a business after it failed
yourself after injury
going on a date for the first time
starting a new job
learning a new skill
moving cities
comes with noise.

It requires being okay being seen at 60% when you used to operate at 100%.
It requires being okay not finishing.
Scaling back.
Starting again.
Looking like a beginner.

And that can feel vulnerable.

But here’s the truth:

The people who matter don’t judge rebuild seasons.
And the ones who do have never built anything themselves..

Not everyone will understand your pauses.
Some will misread them.
Some will rush you.
Some will project their own discomfort onto you.

Let them.

Because rebuilding isn’t about performing strength.
It’s about becoming it.

If you’re in a rebuild right now
in your health, your heart, your career, your confidence

Take the pause. Breathe. I see you.

Jen x

11/02/2026

From a psychological perspective, “shrinking” in relationships is rarely about being calm or easy-going…

It’s often a protective strategy.

Many people learn (consciously or unconsciously):
• If I don’t ask for much, I won’t be rejected
• If I stay agreeable, I’ll stay connected
• If I minimise my needs, I’ll feel safer

But over time, this creates a subtle dynamic:

You may stay in the relationship…
while slowly disconnecting from yourself.

Because healthy connection isn’t built on self-editing.

Secure relationships require mutuality:

Not just “Do they want me?”
But also…

Do I feel seen here?
Do my needs have space?
Am I allowed to be fully human in this dynamic?
Do they align with the values I hold?

Shrinking might keep the peace short-term,
but it often breeds resentment, anxiety, or emotional loneliness long-term.

The goal isn’t to become “low maintenance.”

The goal is to become self-honouring.

Because the right relationships don’t require you to disappear to be loved.

🤍✨
DM me “WORTH” if you’re ready to stop shrinking and start showing up fully.

27/01/2026

Real confidence isn’t believing you’re better than others.

It’s releasing the need to convince, explain, or perform for acceptance.

When self-worth is solid, you stop outsourcing your value.

You simply show up, or step away, without self-betrayal.

If confidence has felt conditional for you, it’s often not a motivation issue, it’s a belief and identity pattern that can be gently rewired.

If this resonated, pause and ask yourself:
What belief am I living from right now and is it serving me?

DM “confidence” if you’re ready to explore the beliefs shaping your self-worth.

Jen ✨

26/01/2026

Swipe through and hear it from the real heroes—my incredible clients ❤️ (all messages shared with permission)

These stories aren’t just testimonials. They’re powerful reminders of what’s possible when you decide to heal, grow, and finally back yourself.

These clients showed up, got vulnerable and trusted the full process.

Whether you’re stuck in self-doubt, healing from past wounds, or ready to reclaim your confidence… just know this:

You don’t have to do it alone. And your transformation? It can start today.

Slide into my DMs with “READY”
or
💻 Head to www.jenrieder.com to book your free Strategy Call.

I’m here to help you rediscover you!

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24/01/2026

5️⃣ Advocating for myself more intentionally

This photo was taken just last week. I look healthy, right?

And in many ways, I am. I’m active, I train consistently, I eat well, I have strong mental skills, and from the outside, nothing looks “wrong.”

But over the last 12 months, that hasn’t been the full picture.

Throughout 2025, I experienced reoccurring unexplained episodes that felt like a flu, body aches, sudden fatigue, and sometimes fever and vomiting.

They were unpredictable. Sometimes it lasts a full day, sometimes only a few hours. Sometimes weeks apart, sometimes weekly.

At first, I dismissed it. Because it would pass. I told myself my body was just fighting something and doing a good job. But after five months of this pattern, I sought professional support.

It impacted my work, my training and my overall capacity in life. There were days where I had to cancel everything because I was bed ridden. Out of over 300 workouts in 2025, honestly only about 20 felt like how I would normally feel when I train. I had to pull back, reduce load and intensity and kindly met myself where I was each day.

Sharing this isn’t a request for sympathy (I know what I’ve experienced is minor compared to what many people live with every day). It’s a reveal.

Through appointments, tests, scans and conversations upon reflection I realised I wasn’t very good at advocating for myself.

I downplayed my experience. I softened symptoms. I minimised impact. And I often left appointments feeling dismissed or unheard, without clarity or resolution.

What surprised me most through self enquiry was realising this isn’t something I only do with my health.

This experience highlighted I do this in other areas of my life too. I tolerate. I adapt. I push through. I stay quiet longer than I should. I manage instead of naming what I need.

So this year, I’m practicing advocating for myself more fully.

With my health.
In my work.
In my boundaries.
In my needs.

That means following up, asking clearer questions, naming impact, & making changes before I’m depleted.

So I’m on a mission in 2026 with my five focuses to continually expand & live a beautiful, full life 🤍✨

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