The Healing Barn

21/10/2025

It’s hard to put into words how powerful my work can be.
Each session is gentle, but what unfolds can reach layers far beyond what we consciously realise.

Often, emotions or old patterns that have been carried for years begin to shift — not through force, but through safety, awareness, and release.
Sometimes, what’s uncovered even connects across generations.

This beautiful reflection from a recent client touched me deeply:

“My first session with Melissa was absolutely incredible. Since then, I’ve had waves of emotion come up — but knowing they’ve been released, I’ve felt safe to simply let them move through me. It’s been so much easier not to get caught up in them, but instead to recognise them for what they were.

For the first time in my life, I have a deep sense and inner knowing that I’m going to be okay. There have been many tears — not of sadness or pain, but of pure gratitude and relief, as though I can finally let go.

I can’t quite express in words how much Melissa has helped me, especially at such a peak of emotional & physical overload. I also shared the post-session notes she gave me with my mum, who was deeply moved. She explained that the prenatal trapped emotion we uncovered was actually her own — directed toward my grandmother and her moral judgement when she was pregnant with me.

I’d always sensed this on some subconscious level, but hearing it confirmed was profoundly healing. It feels like both of us have finally been freed from that energy. I cannot wait for my next session with Melissa. I feel I’m finally in safe hands — and that I’m truly going to be okay through this holistic journey.

With love and gratitude,
A

08/10/2025

✨Your Body Already Knows What You Need ✨

My left knee had been quietly calling for attention lately.
At first, I thought it was just another flare-up—something physical that would ease with time.

But as I tuned in, I realised the tension wasn’t new. It was linked to an old horse accident that had injured my foot years ago. My body had remembered what my mind had long moved past.

That injury had subtly shaped the way I stood, walked, and supported myself. Over time, it had taken away some of the natural rotation in my knee—the flexibility I once had, both physically and in how I moved through life.

It’s fascinating how the body speaks.
Pain isn’t always asking to be fixed—it’s often asking to be understood.

✨ Reflection:
Where is your body holding tight to keep you safe?
What part of you might be ready to soften—
to trust stability enough to let movement, change, or life flow again?

Melissa 🥰

02/10/2025

I had a powerful experience recently in a ConTact CARE session of a “flinchlock” being released between Scott and me.

It was as if both of our clavicles were locked together — like I was carrying the weight of his flinchlock as well as my own. We were like two magnets flipping back and forth: first drawn together, then repelled, then drawn back again.

Inside my body, I felt as though I could just walk away — yet I couldn’t. I was stuck. Held in place by something larger than both of us. As the flinchlock unravelled, I found the strength to push back into the resistance, and in doing so, I helped release some of it. Yet at the same time, part of me felt like a fly caught in a spider’s web — suspended, with no control or effect.

Gradually, I found a wall for support. That gave me enough steadiness to step away. It was as though our wounds had begun unravelling in front of us, showing the real force that had been quietly shaping and controlling our lives.

For Scott, the experience was different. The flinchlock felt numb, dumb, immobile, and heavy — either “weight” or “no weight.” The ability to pivot, to be flexible in life, wasn’t available to him. No matter how much he tried, he couldn’t move in the direction he wanted, even when he knew what that direction was. The flinchlock would trigger alarms: “This isn’t safe.” “Don’t go this way.” And so it held him back.

What became so clear to me is how the body holds the memory. It carries the survival pattern long after the moment has passed. The mind can try to push past it, to reason with it, to suppress it — but the body doesn’t forget. It keeps holding on until it’s given the support and safety to fully process it.

Looking back now, I can see how deeply our core wounds had braided together. That interweaving gave us a kind of strength and rigidity we needed to survive the toughest seasons of life. By carrying a little of each other’s burden, neither of us was completely dragged under. It was the only way we knew how to survive the storm.

But survival has its cost. What once held us together also kept us frozen. And so this untangling — as painful and powerful as it has been — has given us something new. More flexibility. More freedom. The ability to move independently, yet still support one another. No longer bound by the weight of survival, but able to stand side by side, with choice and breath and space between us.

30/09/2025

Lately, I’ve been sitting with how shame lives quietly in the body.
Not just as a passing thought—but as a heaviness, a tightening, a quiet “no” when life is trying to offer us a “yes.”

Shame whispers:
“Don’t shine too brightly—it might hurt someone else.”
“Don’t ask for too much—you’ll seem selfish.”
“Don’t receive that love, that opportunity, that ease—it’s not safe.”

And so, without even realising it, we dim ourselves. We block the very things we most deeply long for. Not because we don’t desire them… but because our body remembers what happened last time we reached.

This is where support can be so powerful.
Because in the tenderness of unravelling shame, the body often asks us to hold two truths at once: the ache of old pain and the possibility of new pleasure. Alone, this can feel overwhelming. But with safe support—a person, a practice, a space to lean into—we can slowly expand our capacity to hold both.

I’m curious…
Where do you notice shame in your body?
And what might become possible if you didn’t have to hold it all by yourself?

Melissa 🥰

21/09/2025

✨ When I didn’t know what I needed ✨

Sometimes a memory pops up—the kind that still brings a pang of shame, guilt, or heaviness in my body.

And I find myself asking:
What did I really need in that moment?

Most of the time, I don’t have a clear answer.
Back then, I genuinely didn’t know what I needed.

But it makes me wonder… if I didn’t know what I needed, how could I have asked for it?
How could I have received it, even if it was offered?

And I think many of us carry this—an ache from the past, not only because of what happened, but because of what we couldn’t name.

🌿 These days, I’m learning that receiving starts with curiosity.
Even simply asking myself now, “What do I need?”—without rushing for the perfect answer—begins to open the door.

💭 I wonder, if you look back at one of those moments that still tugs at you… what did you really need then?

Melissa 🥰

18/09/2025

✨ New Reading for Kere ✨

Kiri asked a powerful question: “Is my path into spiritual work clear? Have I learnt enough to step into it?”

In this video, I dive into her Human Design and Tarot to explore:
🔑 Her core wound (Gate 43) – the challenge she’s here to move through
🌌 Her life’s work (Gate 61) – the deeper purpose that guides her path
🎴 Guidance from the Nine of Pentacles and Wheel of Fortune

This one’s quite a provoking reading — but it’s full of insight for anyone feeling the pull toward spiritual work.

👉 Watch here:

In this video, I dive into Kere’s big question: “Is my path into spiritual work clear? Have I learnt enough to step into it?”We explore her Human Design char...

14/09/2025

Lately, I’ve been creating Soul Alignment videos that weave together Tarot + Human Design — and the feedback has been beautiful. These little readings shine a light on what’s happening right now while showing how you’re naturally designed to move through it.

For a short time, I’d love to make a few of these videos available here on The Healing Barn page, completely free. Think of it as a way to get a taste of how Tarot and Human Design can work together to bring clarity and direction.

💫 If you’d like me to record one for you, just comment below or send me a message.
🌿 If you’d like to dive deeper into a full Soul Alignment Reading, you can learn more here: https://www.healingbarn.co.nz/tarot-human-design-reading
Scott Holdem

Cut through the mental noise. Understand yourself better. Take the next step with confidence. You don’t need fixing. You need space to feel, clarity to see, and support to reconnect with the truth already inside you. Life can get complicated. You hit those moments where you’re unsure which way t...

12/09/2025

✨ The compliment we can’t quite receive ✨

The other day I was sharing a little about my work, and the person listening lit up and said, “That’s amazing!”

And almost instantly, I felt the familiar ripple move through my body:
“Oh, it’s nothing.”

Here’s the truth…
I don’t actually believe it’s nothing.
I know the depth and the value of what I do.
I want others to believe in the strength of my gifts too.

So why, when someone offers me that acknowledgment, do I find it hard to fully let it land?

Why does my body respond with shrinking, dismissing, brushing it off?

It made me wonder if this is something many of us do—deflect the very thing we most want to feel.
Maybe it’s because receiving makes us vulnerable.
Maybe it’s because old patterns whisper, “Don’t shine too brightly.”

💭 I’m curious…
When someone tells you, “That’s amazing!” — what happens inside you?
Do you let yourself soften and receive it, or do you instinctively push it away?

🌿 I’m learning that being able to receive is just as important as giving. And sometimes the body shows us exactly where that door is still closed.

Melissa 🥰

09/09/2025

🌿 Stability isn’t about standing still.

Over the years, I’ve had more than my fair share of horses step on my feet. At first, I thought it was just bad luck. But recently I’ve been reflecting on what my body has been showing me through these injuries.

The feet represent grounding and stability. When we lose rotational flexibility in the legs — from the knee to the ankle — our stance becomes rigid. Instead of letting force spiral through the body and out, it gets locked down into the feet. They end up carrying the brunt of impact.

It struck me how much this mirrors life.
How often do we brace ourselves, thinking that standing our ground means locking down and holding firm?
But real stability isn’t about being rigid. It’s about being rooted and flexible. It’s about having the freedom to pivot, to absorb pressure, to redirect energy instead of taking it all in.

My horses, as always, are my greatest teachers. When they step on me, they’re not just testing my physical space — they’re showing me where I’m too fixed, where I’ve forgotten the gift of movement within stability.

✨ True stability feels more like a tree than a post. Rooted deep, but able to bend and sway without breaking.

What about you?
Where in your life are you bracing, locking down, or taking the full impact — when what’s really being asked is to soften, spiral, and flow?

Melissa 🥰