14/04/2026
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Francesca was my favourite facilitator at the ISCA conference in Merida Mexico and she invited me to take her souvenir shopping-so blessed.
Francesca has been a key facilitator birthing nature constellations and constellations as ceremony.
A key message was an invitation to find the love stories of your family and focus there rather than on what is dysfunctional. By focusing on love movements of the soul are possible so love flows in balance.
Here’s an excerpt from her new book.on “Love in Family Systems Constellation: An Invitation to Life."
"The family is the container of life, the progenitor of human legacy. Within those systems, there are many aspects of what we call "love" that are included. The magic of Al defines love as follows: "In a relationship, 'love' is often defined as a complex emotion encompassing deep affection, care, respect, commitment, intimacy, and a desire to prioritize your partner's happiness and well-being, often expressed through actions that demonstrate support, understanding, and mutual trust; it involves both emotional and physical connection, and can manifest in different ways depending on the individuals involved."
In constellation work, we recognize "blind love" and "enlightened love." Blind love is the heady hormonal love that is characteristic of the euphoria of new love or adolescent attraction. This is characterized by such an infusion of emotion and pheromones that judgment and critical thinking are rarely at the fore.
Enlightened love is the steady choice to bond, respect, and appreciate each other after the initial flood of the blinding rush of initial attraction has diminished.
Love, in terms of family constellation, is supported by respect-respect for the position of each person within a family system and respect for many unique destinies of everyone within the system.
Love, in family systems constellation, may involve passion, attraction, or the magnetism in life that pulls two people together. The remembrance of this love, a celebration of this enchantment, may be a healing movement in a constellation when a couple has experienced difficult stressors in life: job loss, death in the family, natural disaster, war, etc.
The love of parents for their children may be lifelong (and beyond), uninterrupted by circumstance or changing fortunes. When this is the case, the child has a foundation that is a gift from life. Honoring that one has the right parents, one cannot choose differently, and nothing will ever change what is true. These people passed life on and had a capacity for love that made dark days lighter.
Being open to addressing the history of love within a family that can be enlightened by a constellation may also include affairs and the loss of love or avoidance of love that comes from one having been betrayed by a partner. This may be true not just for the couple; the ripple effect of the injury may extend beyond their relationship. Children of parents who experienced infidelity in their marriage may be impacted in their ability to trust their own future; and even extramarital affairs within the extended family or ancestral family system may have an impact on nieces, nephews, or grandchildren who have witnessed esteemed adults being injured by a breach in their relationship. To widen the lens, it is not even necessary that a child was a direct witness....
Not all romance is tragic. When we are working with family systems constellation, we may encounter deep, transcendent love. This may be evident in a long-term relationship in which one of the partners is critically ill or has recently died. The commitment, affection, surrender, and even humor may be experienced as implausible if one comes from a family system that does not have any demonstration of this kind of tenderness and devotion. But when you see this demonstrated in a constellation or in one's conversation, it is a testament to the capacity of the soul.
Making space to honor deep love, commitment, and loss in a communal setting not only offers grace and expansion to the individual who had the fulfillment of such a relationship. But the gift of representing and the privilege of witnessing such depth may lift a community as well."
Francesca Mason Boring, Love in Family Systems Constellation: An Invitation to Life, (2025) pages, 19 - 21.
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