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Binge Free Bestie Nicole Gaviria | Registered Counsellor
Empowering Women to End Binge & Emotional Eating
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Kia ora, I'm Nic (she/her), a Registered Counsellor based in Christchurch, New Zealand. I specialize in supporting people like you recover from disordered eating, ditch diet culture and reclaim their life and their vibrancy. My journey as a Therapist stems from my own recovery from Binge Eating Disorder and years of navigating body image struggles. I've overcome the entanglements of diet culture,

body dissatisfaction, anxiety, and depression. I've also experienced life in a body of every shape and size; I know what it's like to feel invisible. To feel that my weight dictated my worth and how much love I deserved. My quest for happiness and belonging led me to choose weight loss surgery, and when I achieved my dream body, I discovered that it didn't bring the peace and joy I sought. That's when I realised that there was more work to be done and I embarked on the journey of healing my body image, and my relationship with food and eating. These personal experiences, combined with the challenges of finding support during my own struggles, motivate my therapeutic approach. In our sessions, I integrate evidence-based psychotherapy modalities, including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy-Enhanced, Mindfulness-Based Therapy, and Solution-Focused Brief Therapy. Embracing an Anti-Diet, Health at Every Size philosophy, my aim is to cultivate a secure and non-judgmental space for your self-exploration and positive transformation. Alongside my specialized focus on body image and eating issues, I also work with a range of other mental health concerns including anxiety and depression.

I was never actually there. Even when I ordered the cake, my brain was already bargaining, calculating, justifying. Now ...
26/05/2026

I was never actually there. Even when I ordered the cake, my brain was already bargaining, calculating, justifying.

Now I just... eat. And enjoy it. That’s the healing 💜

Comment HEAL and I’ll send you my free guide , it’s the first step to understanding what’s really going on underneath for you and food, and start healing the root 💜

The binge isn’t the problem, bestie.It’s what happens next.The skipped breakfast. The “I’ll be good today.” The white-kn...
25/05/2026

The binge isn’t the problem, bestie.

It’s what happens next.

The skipped breakfast. The “I’ll be good today.” The white-knuckling until you snap at 9pm and find yourself back in the pantry, louder than before.

That’s the loop. And restriction is what keeps it spinning.

Comment HEAL and I’ll send you my free guide, it’s the first step to breaking the cycle for good 💜

Even with a stomach the size of a banana, I couldn't leave food on my plate.I'd sit there, physically full after just a ...
17/05/2026

Even with a stomach the size of a banana, I couldn't leave food on my plate.

I'd sit there, physically full after just a few bites, and my brain would be screaming: "But you have to finish it. You can't just leave it."

So I'd force it down. Stretch that tiny stomach. Feel physically awful. And then hate myself for it.

I thought something was wrong with me. I thought I just had no self-control.

But it wasn't about willpower, bestie.

It was about a rule I'd learned at the dinner table when I was seven years old. A rule that said my body's signals didn't matter as much as cleaning my plate.

And that rule? It was still running the show...even after surgery, even after all the weight loss, even when I knew better.

That's how deep this stuff goes.

And I see it in almost every woman I work with. They come to me thinking they're just "bad at stopping." That they lack discipline. That if they could just figure out the right trick, they'd finally be able to leave food on their plate.

But the truth is: you're not broken. You're just following programming you never chose.

And the good news? Programming can be rewritten.

That's what we do in The Break Up. We don't just give you another food rule to follow. We help you dismantle the old ones, the ones keeping you stuck, overriding your body, and fuelling the binge cycle.

We give you the journalling, the counter-statements, the hypnosis, the nervous system tools , everything you need to actually rewire these patterns at the root.
Because food freedom isn't about having more willpower.

It's about rebuilding trust with your body. And that's exactly what this work does.

💬 Comment BREAKUP and I'll send you all the details ( or check out link in bio)

It's time to rewrite the rules, bestie. You've got this 💜

I'll never forget that after having my stomach removed ( which I thought that would solve all my issues with food) and l...
14/05/2026

I'll never forget that after having my stomach removed ( which I thought that would solve all my issues with food) and looking down at my plate, physically FULL after three bites, and still hearing that voice: "You have to finish it."

My stomach was the size of a banana. And I was still following a rule I learned as a kid.

That's how deep the Clean Plate Club runs, bestie.

It's not about willpower. It's not about being "good" or "bad" at stopping. It's about programming that was installed before you even had the language to question it.

And here's what makes it so sneaky: most of us don't even realise we're following it.

We just know we can't seem to stop eating when we're full. We keep going until the plate is empty. And then we beat ourselves up for it.

But what if the problem isn't you? What if it's just a rule that needs to be rewritten?

In Module 5 of The Break Up, we don't just talk about the diet voice and mental restrictions like the Clean Plate Club... I give you the actual tools to dismantle them.

The journalling prompts to unpack where these beliefs came from.

The counter-statements to challenge them in real time.

The hypnosis and nervous system work to rewire them at the root.

Because you can't think your way out of this pattern. You have to rewire it.

And that's exactly what we do together.

💬 Comment BREAKUP and I'll send you the details to you private messages ( or, click link in my bio)

Let's break free from the rules keeping you stuck. You deserve food freedom 💜

12/05/2026

"Finish your plate" is one of the most normalised food rules we grow up with.

But here's what nobody tells you: forcing yourself to eat past fullness just to avoid waste?

That's still wasteful 👀

You're not saving the food. You're just relocating it from the plate into your body…and overriding your fullness cues in the process.

Eating past fullness isn't honouring the food. It's dishonouring your body.

Here's a wild idea: put the leftovers in the fridge. If you get hungry in an hour or two, eat them then. Your body is allowed to guide you.

Full episode on the Clean Plate Club is live now (link in bio) or comment PODCAST and I’ll DM you the show link now 🫶

Of if you want to learn more about working together, comment BREAKUP 🔥

11/05/2026

Salad = good person. Burger = bad person.

That’s the lie diet culture sold us 👀

We’ve been taught that food has moral value. So when you order salad in public, you’re signalling: disciplined.
Health-conscious. Virtuous.

And when you order the burger? Lazy. Out of control. Doesn’t care.

None of that’s true. 💩💩

But we’ve been so conditioned to believe that what we eat reflects who we are as people.

You are not a better human because you’re eating kale.

Please eat kale if you love it…and for that reason only.

Your food choices don’t define your character 👍

Want more? Let’s talk about it.

Comment PODCAST and I’ll DM you the full episode 💜 or link is in my bio bestie

I used to eat 5 burgers in my car every day. Then go home and cook 'healthy' dinner like nothing happened.I was living a...
10/05/2026

I used to eat 5 burgers in my car every day. Then go home and cook 'healthy' dinner like nothing happened.

I was living a double life with food.

Performing 'good eating' in public.

Bingeing in secret when no one was watching.

And if you're in a bigger body? The pressure to perform is 10x worse. Because you can't be the big girl who orders the burger without facing judgment. I used to assume that evrytone was staring and judging....and you know what, sometimes if I did eat the burger, I WOULD get a harsh comment. So the fear was valid.

I always felt like I needed to prove I was trying.

But, inevitably would binge later. And the shame spiral continued.

This is the split so many of us are living in. And it's bloody exhausting.

New podcast episode breaks down:

✨ Why we perform with our food choices
✨ The double life (eating one way in public, another way in private)
✨ The amplified pressure if you're in a bigger body
✨ How shame fuels the binge-restrict cycle
✨ What it takes to stop performing and start living

Link in bio to tune in or comment PODCAST and Ill DM you the show link now 🎧

You don't have to live in the split anymore 💜

09/05/2026

What I eat in a day” is not education. It’s performance 👀

Those reels and carousels? They’re curated. Edited. Crap 💩

Designed to look effortless and “balanced.”

And if you struggle with binge eating, they’re also triggering as hell. Right?

Because you’re a real, messy human comparing yourself to someone’s highlight reel.

You’re not seeing the binge they had last night.
Or the one that’s coming.
You’re not seeing the restriction.
The mental gymnastics.
The obsession happening behind the scenes.

You just see the clean aesthetic.

And then you feel worse about yourself 🥹

That’s not inspiration. That’s diet culture in a cute font.

Comment PODCAST and I’ll send you the full episode so you can go deeper on this and make a self care plan 💜

Raise your hand if you've ever ordered the salad when you actually wanted the burger 🙋‍♀️ ( me too!)That could be perfor...
06/05/2026

Raise your hand if you've ever ordered the salad when you actually wanted the burger 🙋‍♀️ ( me too!)

That could be performative eating bestie....and so many of us are doing it without realizing!

We can unconsciously virtue signal with our food choices , ordering the "clean" option, making comments about being "good" or "bad," managing everyone's perception of us with every bite. I used to do this ALL the time.

But then, we binge in private. Part of that is beecause we've been restricting all day to look "disciplined.", another, the relief of being on your own and the mask being able to slip off.

If you're in a bigger body? This pressure is 10x worse. Because you can't be the big girl who orders the burger without judgment. So you perform even harder.

But here's what I think, as a therapist and ex-binge eater, YOU deserve to eat what you want, in front of people, without explaining yourself. Without hiding. Without shame.

🎙️ NEW PODDY EPISODE: "Why We Eat One Way in Public and Binge in Secret"
Breaking down the performance, the shame, and how to stop living in the split.

Link in bio to listen 🎧

After you tune in, tell me: Which of these 5 signs hit you hardest?

You're not alone. And you don't have to live in the split anymore 💜

06/05/2026

The “good girl” act at dinner → the drive-through on the way home 🫠

I used to do it too. Sparkling water and salad in public. Burger, fries, ice cream alone in my car 🍔

We perform because we’re terrified of being that person…the one who doesn’t have it together. The one who makes “bad” choices.

So we sip, smile, and project the lie. Then we eat alone where no one can see us.

That’s not a character flaw. That’s the restrict-binge cycle working exactly as designed.

Comment PODCAST and I’ll DM you the full episode 💜

04/05/2026

A binge is not a character flaw. A binge is data.

Read that again pls 🔥🔥🔥

One binge, in the context of recovery, is not a catastrophe. It’s your body and nervous system communicating something that was going unheard.

That’s it!

The cycle we actually need to break isn’t the binge itself…it’s the binge followed by restriction followed by shame followed by more bingeing. That’s the loop. That’s the pit of despair. And the morning after is where you either step off that loop… or get right back on it.

When you eat the breakfast, you step off the loop.

When you speak kindly to yourself, you step off the loop.

When you stay curious instead of critical, you step off the loop.

When you live a normal day without punishing yourself, you step off the loop.

Every single one of those choices is quietly dismantling the cycle from the inside.

I’ve been binge-free since 2019 and I promise you…I did NOT get there through restriction, punishment, or swearing to be better. I got there by doing exactly this.

The healing is in the gentleness 💜

🎧 Full episode is waiting for you, watch on YouTube, listen on Spotify or Apple. Link is in my bio or comment PODCAST and I’ll DM you the show links 😘

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