Sanctuary NZ End of Life Doula

Sanctuary NZ End of Life Doula Based in Ōtautahi, my aim is to provide care for people and their chosen whanau through compassionate, personalised and practical support 🌿

🌿Moi mai rā Andrea Gibson- great explorer of life, death and identity.We are grateful for your mana, courage and light. ...
16/07/2025

🌿Moi mai rā Andrea Gibson- great explorer of life, death and identity.

We are grateful for your mana, courage and light. Thank you for all the beautiful and healing words you have created and for sharing these and yourself with the world🌿

Love letter from the Afterlife
My love, I was so wrong. Dying is the opposite of leaving. When I left my body, I did not go away. That portal of light was not a portal to elsewhere, but a portal to here. I am more here than I ever was before. I am more with you than I ever could have imagined. So close you look past me when wondering where I am. It’s Ok. I know that to be human is to be farsighted. But feel me now, walking the chambers of your heart, pressing my palms to the soft walls of your living. Why did no one tell us that to die is to be reincarnated in those we love while they are still alive? Ask me the altitude of heaven, and I will answer, “How tall are you?” In my back pocket is a love note with every word you wish you’d said. At night I sit ecstatic at the loom weaving forgiveness into our worldly regrets. All day I listen to the radio of your memories. Yes, I know every secret you thought too dark to tell me, and love you more for everything you feared might make me love you less. When you cry I guide your tears toward the garden of kisses I once planted on your cheek, so you know they are all perennials. Forgive me, for not being able to weep with you. One day you will understand. One day you will know why I read the poetry of your grief to those waiting to be born, and they are all the more excited. There is nothing I want for now that we are so close I open the curtain of your eyelids with my own smile every morning. I wish you could see the beauty your spirit is right now making of your pain, your deep seated fears playing musical chairs, laughing about how real they are not. My love, I want to sing it through the rafters of your bones, Dying is the opposite of leaving. I want to echo it through the corridor of your temples, I am more with you than I ever was before. Do you understand? It was me who beckoned the stranger who caught you in her arms when you forgot not to order for two at the coffee shop. It was me who was up all night gathering sunflowers into your chest the last day you feared you would never again wake up feeling lighthearted. I know it’s hard to believe, but I promise it’s the truth. I promise one day you will say it too– I can’t believe I ever thought I could lose you"
Andrea Gibson 1975-2025

https://andreagibson.substack.com/p/love-letter-from-the-afterlife?fbclid=IwY2xjawLk9kRleHRuA2FlbQIxMABicmlkETEzVVlneHlVS0hqek1jTmFqAR4F3SQMRAn-Ax4zq5_gi1IvvlOz1V8lPmTRgdZS4vzEqL6PqtLvMo2QHmjPcw_aem_HCtFdxaaiTw_8UyBbC7QjA

“Whenever I leave this world, whether it’s sixty years from now, I wouldn’t want anyone to say I lost some battle. I’ll be a winner that day.” – Andrea Gibson

Andrea Gibson was a winner today. On July 14th, at 4:16AM, Andrea Gibson died in their home surrounded by their wife, Meg, four ex-girlfriends, their mother and father, dozens of friends, and their three beloved dogs.

Poet Laureate of Colorado, world-touring spoken word artist, author of seven books, Calais Maine High School State Basketball Champion, and subject of the award-winning documentary, “Come See Me in the Good Light”, and so much more — Andrea Gibson accomplished much on their 49 years on this planet. Though Andrea desperately wished to have lived a longer life, they could not have possibly lived a fuller one.

Since learning they had cancer in 2021, Andrea has been a champion of finding beauty in unlikely places and gratitude in the hardest hours. Over the last four years, they danced with their diagnosis, and continually aimed their internal compass toward joy. One of the last things Andrea said on this plane was, “I fu***ng loved my life.”

Not long ago, Andrea wrote a poem titled “Love Letter From the Afterlife.” In it, they offered this line: “I am more here than I ever was before. I am more with you than I ever could have imagined.” Today, and all days forward, we hope you feel Andrea’s enormous spirit and immense presence beside you.

Meg and Heather, the authors of this post, have absolutely no idea how to encapsulate the magnitude and magnificence of a life like Andrea Gibson’s, so they intend to keep writing, to keep telling Andrea’s story, to keep Andrea alive in every way they can.

Andrea would want you to know that they got their wish. In the end, their heart was covered in stretch marks.

Andrea Gibson 8/13/75 - 7/14/25

🌿The crucial conversation around the significant and increasing cost of dying is getting much-needed media attention at ...
16/07/2025

🌿The crucial conversation around the significant and increasing cost of dying is getting much-needed media attention at the moment, with robust discussions on where these costs lie.

It's great to see Fergus from Death Without Debt leading the dialogue and advocating for changes that will provide our communities with more affordable and individualised options.

Thank you to 1News and Ally Pugh for this important report.

We encourage anyone wanting to discuss their options to connect with one of our professional members in your area. Find them via our directory: www.eldaa.org.nz 🌿

https://www.1news.co.nz/2025/07/15/dying-proves-to-be-a-costly-undertaking/

Some funeral directors say the WINZ Funeral Grant doesn’t match the burial fees imposed by councils in many parts of the country.

🌿End of Life Doulas don’t just support—they strengthen systems of care!  This study reveals how increasing death literac...
14/07/2025

🌿End of Life Doulas don’t just support—they strengthen systems of care! This study reveals how increasing death literacy among families and communities leads to better outcomes in end of life care. When people are equipped with the knowledge and support to make informed decisions, they not only experience more compassionate care—they also reduce strain on healthcare services.

It’s time to recognise End of Life doulas as vital partners in public health, community wellbeing, and meaningful system change:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37954464/

More literature is coming soon as evidence and learned experience builds supporting the need and benefits of having End of Life Doulas involved.

Let’s continue this incredibly important conversation and recognise the role End of Life Doulas can play in the circle of care. Integrate the skills, support and services End of Life Doulas bring so we can do dying and death differently for our communities. www.eldaa.org.nz

www.sanctuary.co.nz🌿

Family members' experience with a death doula was overwhelmingly positive, empowering them practically and emotionally to deliver the best end-of-life care. Empathy and sharing of knowledge by death doulas were valued by families and resulted in an increase in death literacy which provided families....

True, meaningful, connection -acknowledging someone's loss and pain can feel hard but it doesn't need to be complicated....
13/07/2025

True, meaningful, connection -acknowledging someone's loss and pain can feel hard but it doesn't need to be complicated. Don't underestimate the impact of saying, “I’m am so sorry, I cannot imagine your heartbreak" or even a simpler " I don't know what to say but I am so sorry".

"In reality, silence can feel like isolation. When people don’t acknowledge the loss, it’s as if the biggest thing in your life is invisible"

In the below video, Dr. Sarah Kerr, PhD - The Centre for Sacred Deathcare shares why naming the truth, even in the simplest way, can be a profound act of care. A few words can help someone feel seen and supported🌿

One of the reasons grieving feels so hard is that most of us were never taught how to do it. Or perhaps we were taught the wrong things, like avoiding the su...

Words from an incredible wahine who is missed and remembered all the days 🌿; "I was as impressed by the depth of profess...
08/07/2025

Words from an incredible wahine who is missed and remembered all the days 🌿;
"I was as impressed by the depth of professionalism, respectful and empathic language.
Looking for and identifying needs where needs hadn’t yet been realised by myself.
Encouraging and supporting me to convey my voice when expressing my needs to other professionals… My doula helped in such a way that gently described an overview of a situation – which helped me to see more clearly what my needs are and so I felt empowered to advocate for myself"

Trailer link for the new series, Hospice Hero's-  exploring the intimate stories of carer's and patients at Tōtara Hospi...
03/07/2025

Trailer link for the new series, Hospice Hero's- exploring the intimate stories of carer's and patients at Tōtara Hospice Hospice NZ – Living Every Moment

Praised by The Listener for its "level tone" and for sharing stories that "seem important to hear" without emotional manipulation. This looks like important viewing.

Don't miss it. Hospice Heroes starts this Sunday the 6th of July on Three & ThreeNow.

Trailer here-

With unprecedented access, we meet the team from South Auckland’s Tōtara Hospice - from the doctors and nurses who care for patients with life limiting illne...

Talking to kids about dying and death can be hard, but using clear, honest language is so important. Let them know it’s ...
29/06/2025

Talking to kids about dying and death can be hard, but using clear, honest language is so important.

Let them know it’s okay to feel sad or have questions, and that you’re always there to talk.

Honesty, empathy, and support go a long way🌿.

🙏RRNZ and SSkylight Trustfor this article.

Many parents worry about getting it wrong, but honest answers, concrete terminology and empathy go a long way, says a children's grief counsellor.

What is an End of Life Doula? This wonderful article articulates with warmth and clarity how we can support you and how ...
24/06/2025

What is an End of Life Doula? This wonderful article articulates with warmth and clarity how we can support you and how we can work in with your family and medical team. Thanks to Kathy, for sharing how mich Helen's EOLD support helped her husband, Bill and their family 🙏❤️ Helen Callanan and New Zealand End of Life Doulas - Preparing the Way

Find out how end-of-life doulas can help you in the final stages of life, plus provide support to your loved ones.

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