04/07/2024
In the weekend I celebrated my son’s first birthday, and yes as everyone says it passes fast and they grow far too quickly! But oh how I have treasured every moment, and I’m not lying here haha.
Part of this I think is due to the fact I keep my schedule clear (apart from chatting with some of you guys of course!) so that I can be fully with him and am able to be present in the moment, not rushing off anywhere, not too busy, not wanting to be anywhere else, with him is really where I want to be and he comes along with me and shares the things I do. For me it’s really not about getting through this time but instead fully enjoying it.
I decided before he came along not to listen to anyone else on how they did it, what is best or what I should be doing but listen to my intuition and trust my gut on what was best for my baby, and I really want to give you permission to do the same.
This doesn’t mean you have to do it the way I did it, or if you’ve done it, that it was wrong, because everyone is different and every baby is different, some are more strong and others more sensitive, and that gets catered to in different ways.
I wouldn’t say my son is sensitive, in fact he has never been a crier (yes I got lucky there!) but I do cater to his every need, he sleeps in the bed beside me so I can settle him before there’s a call, he is always with me (yes at this moment there are even times he comes to the toilet with me) and with this he is thriving, he’s confident to go off and play and then pops back to me to check in before he’s off again, or alternatively he’s happily exploring the world with me.
I feel catering to him in this way will not form a bad attachment to me, it will form a great one, one where he feels I am here for his needs and that he can come to me for advice or a hug anytime and I’ll be there for him. In turn this will help him to be more secure in his relationships in the future because he has never been left by the one he loves and trust in another has been built.
What I have mentioned here is just an example, some of it will resonate and some won’t and that’s okay, so, more than that, I want to share incase you, like me, want to listen to yourself and do it your way.
Alternatively if you would like any help separating from the ways things were done and tuning into yourself and what is right for you, then let me know. I’d be more than happy to help.