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From the Heart - Family education & well-being mentor You are the best parent for your child. Understanding brain development, knowing that behaviour is Talking to someone impartial helps clarify your thoughts.

Message me, Bev Waugh – I lived a 'could try harder life' and now know I'm neuro divergent. I'm a trained Family Partnership practitioner, a mum, a grandma, an experienced parent educator, a primary teacher with a graduate diploma is special education and recent studies in the nuero divergent brain. I'm ME... practical, empathic, honest, always moving and autistic

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Need support in your role as a parent? Need to talk about any aspect of you or your child's learning? Want practical peaceful strategies to help your child be the best they can be? Want to feel confident in your decision making as a parent? Learn how to calmly follow your child’s lead & encourage them to use their whole brain. A chat to an impartial, qualified, life experienced listener can help you focus your thoughts, set some goals and develop your skills to become confident in how you’d like things to be......

There is no substitute for talking with someone who has been there ie more experienced. Being able to ask exactly the questions that you need answered without having to worry about the presence of others can be very helpful. To this end there are many reasons to book a private session...’

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'the first three years set the foundations for life'

So true - love this graphic and life
07/10/2025

So true - love this graphic and life

Understanding NT, ADHD, Autism, and AuDHD Through Simple Visuals

Sometimes words aren’t enough to explain how different brains work. That’s where visuals like this one come in — a simple drawing that powerfully illustrates how neurotypical (NT), ADHD, Autism, and AuDHD minds process life, thoughts, and experiences.

At first glance, the lines might look like random doodles. But each one represents the cognitive patterns and lived experiences of these different neurotypes. Let’s break it down.

1. Neurotypical (NT): The Straight Line

The straight line represents stability, predictability, and consistency.

Neurotypical individuals often experience life in a way that follows social expectations, routines, and structures.

Their thought processes are typically linear — start, middle, end.

This doesn’t mean life is easy, but it means that their brains usually follow the “default settings” society is built around.
That’s why many social systems (schools, workplaces, etc.) are designed with NT thinking in mind.

2. ADHD: The Interrupted Line with Zigs and Zags

The ADHD brain looks very different. Notice how the line starts straight, but then suddenly zigs and zags all over the place.

ADHD often involves inconsistent attention. Someone may start a task with focus, but quickly get distracted or pulled in multiple directions.

Hyperfocus can also appear — represented by the sudden dense scribbles — where someone gets absorbed in one thing and loses track of time.

It’s not a lack of intelligence or effort. It’s a different wiring of the brain that struggles with executive function (planning, prioritizing, finishing tasks).
This is why ADHD is often described as having “a race car brain with bicycle brakes.”

3. Autism: The Web of Expanding Lines

Instead of a straight path, the autistic brain is represented by lines spreading out in multiple directions.

Autism is characterized by intense focus, sensory differences, and unique ways of processing the world.

Rather than going from point A to point B, autistic thinking can branch out like a network — seeing connections, details, and patterns others might miss.

This is why many autistic people have strong special interests and a deep ability to hyperfocus on specific topics.

However, this nonlinear thinking can also create challenges in environments built for NTs, especially when sensory overload or social misunderstandings occur.

4. AuDHD (Autism + ADHD): The Organized Chaos

The final drawing looks like a storm of zig-zags and lines all overlapping. That’s AuDHD — when someone has both Autism and ADHD traits.

ADHD brings distractibility, impulsivity, and inconsistent focus.

Autism brings deep focus, need for structure, and sensitivity to sensory input.
When combined, these traits can sometimes feel contradictory. For example:

Wanting structure (autism) but struggling to stick to it (ADHD).

Getting hyperfocused (autism) but also easily distracted (ADHD).

Having brilliant ideas and creativity, but feeling stuck in executive dysfunction.

It can feel like living in constant chaos — but it also comes with unique strengths, like creativity, innovation, and the ability to see the world from perspectives that others overlook.

The Takeaway

This visual reminds us that there’s no single “right” way for a brain to function.

NT brains may be linear and predictable.

ADHD brains bring bursts of creativity and energy.

Autistic brains bring depth, pattern recognition, and unique insights.

AuDHD brains are a storm of contradictions, but also a powerhouse of perspective and innovation.

Instead of viewing these differences as flaws, society needs to embrace them as part of neurodiversity — the natural variety in human brains. Every line, whether straight or chaotic, is valid.

05/10/2025
Definitely
05/10/2025

Definitely

Whispering works! Years ago, I hired at one of our schools a teacher who naturally spoke in a low voice. It turned out her class was the quietest and calmest. Try it! It works.

29/09/2025

Come and join us at Parents’ Circle. We’re gathering this Wednesday October 1st at St Pauls Church Hall, Church St, Feilding, at 10.30a until 12.30p.
Parents Circle is a free support group for parents, whanau and their babies/toddlers. Breastfeeding support is available, but no matter how you feed your baby/toddler, everyone is welcome.
We’ll have a cuppa with something sweet to share with you.
Bring a friend or whanau for support. We would love to see you.

25/09/2025

📱✨ Need a hand with technology? A new way to get digital help has arrived. Meet our Digi-Coach Briar, now available as a new service with Manawatū Community Hub Libraries.

From setting up devices, or help with apps, emails, signing up for Skinny Jump to job applications your new Digi-Coach is here to help. Plus, career-focused VR sessions will be held on 21–23 Oct and 25–27 Nov.

🕙 Monday–Friday, 10am–2pm
📍 Look for the bright blue Digi-Coach flag
➡️ Free support, drop-ins welcome | VR Sessions - Bookings Essential

👉 Read the full story here: https://www.mchl.co.nz/your-mchl/latest-news/2024/2025/need-help-meet-your-digi-coach/_nocache

22/09/2025

We all want the straight line. Set the goal, achieve the goal. B

ut life doesn’t work like that.

The path is messy, full of doubts, setbacks and failures.

And that’s exactly where the growth is.

The detours are not distractions, they’re the process.

Keep moving.

Ready to listen and play ..   tomorrow 10.45 - 11.45ish at Manawatū Community Hub Libraries - final time for term 3
14/09/2025

Ready to listen and play .. tomorrow 10.45 - 11.45ish at Manawatū Community Hub Libraries - final time for term 3

14/09/2025

Special thanks to Ainslee for chatting to us about sleep. Always interesting to hear how much a child’s temperament influences how they sleep and how every child has unique sleep needs. So reassuring to know. Ainslee posts on Facebook and Instagram just follow Baby Sleep with Ainslee

10/09/2025
This is beautiful and spot on ….
05/09/2025

This is beautiful and spot on ….

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