Tong & Peryer Funeral Directors

02/04/2026

How do you want to be remembered?

It’s not something we often stop to think about, but taking the time to reflect can bring real clarity and comfort.

Workshop One: Meeting Your Own Mortality is a gentle, guided session designed to help you explore what matters most to you, and how that might be reflected in a meaningful farewell.

In this workshop, you’ll have the opportunity to:
✨ Reflect on your values and what’s important
✨ Explore your personal wishes
✨ Learn about modern and personalised funeral options
✨ Begin conversations that many people put off

There’s no pressure to decide anything, just space to think, reflect, and learn.
The first workshop is wednesday 20 May in Hastings NZ

🕯️ Learn more or reserve your place:

20/03/2026

Every life tells a story, and every farewell should honour it.

At Tong & Peryer, we believe funerals are more than a goodbye. They’re a chance to celebrate a life, share memories, and create moments that truly reflect the person behind them.

Read our latest blog to understand why what we do makes a difference....... https://www.tongandperyer.co.nz/why-we-do-what-we-do-creating-meaningful-farewells-at-tong-peryer-funeral-directors/

09/03/2026

Visit our website to see the latest blog - When a pet dies......

01/02/2026

Because pets are family too!! Tong & Peryer Pet Cremations are a call away....

22/01/2026

We’re opening the conversation about death, gently and honestly.

Introducing The Death Experience workshops at Tong & Peryer.
A calm, guided series designed to help people understand what happens when someone dies, explore personal wishes, and feel more informed and at ease.

Open to anyone. No pressure to share. Just space to learn and reflect.

16/01/2026

06/01/2026

We believe the money we spend should reflect what matters most to us - our community.

Recently, the cost of advertising in the local newspaper increased to a point where it no longer felt right. Rather than passing that cost on to the families we serve, we’ve chosen a different path.

We’ve decided to redirect that investment back into the community where we belong, supporting local people, local clubs, and local connections.

As our first community share, we’re delighted to support an upcoming bowls competition at Hastings Kia Toa Bowling Club, proudly sponsoring one of the prizes. It’s a small way of giving back to a club that brings people together.

Here’s to keeping our support local and meaningful!

27/12/2025

A new year doesn’t mean forgetting what’s been, or who we’ve lost.
It simply offers a quiet opportunity to keep going, carrying love with us into what comes next.

At Tong & Peryer, we know this time of year can feel different if you’re grieving. There is no right way to enter a new year, only the way that feels right for you.

As we approach the new year and it starts to unfold, may there be comfort, connection, and lighter feeling, even in the smallest of ways.

From all of us at Tong & Peryer, we wish you a gentle and hopeful New Year.

— Tong & Peryer Funeral Directors

23/12/2025

Christmas can hold many emotions.

For some, it’s a season of laughter, busy kitchens, and familiar traditions.
For others, it’s a little quieter, carrying memories of those who should be here but aren’t.

We see both sides of Christmas. We’re reminded how important it is to make space for connection, remembrance, and kindness, in whatever way feels right for you.

If you’re celebrating, we hope your home is full of whanau and those you love.
If you’re missing someone, please know you’re not alone.

From our family to yours, we wish you a gentle, meaningful Christmas.

Tong & Peryer Funeral Directors

23/12/2025

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12/12/2025

Last week, I became what I so often stand beside. I lost my dad. I was a grieving son and brother.

As a funeral director, people often assume we’re somehow “used to” death, that we’re stronger, steadier, more prepared for grief. The truth is simple… when it’s your own, it cuts just as deeply.

I feel the same ache, the same disbelief, the same quiet moments where the world keeps turning while mine feels paused. On Wednesday, I will attend our Christmas service carrying my own grief alongside the families I have served throughout this year — not because I’m immune to it, but because I understand it. And it will be hard, as I hold space not only for them, but for myself and my dad too.

This Christmas will also look different.
There will be an empty chair where my dad should be.
A silence that wasn’t there before.

Grief doesn’t mean we stop living. It means we learn how to carry love in a new way. I’m giving myself permission to feel it all, even while I continue to show up for others, as I did for the two families I supported this week. Dad was proud of me and what I do and I know he would have wanted me there for them.

I share this not for sympathy, but for honesty. Funeral directors grieve too. We are not untouched by loss, we are shaped by it. We are all human first.

My pain reminds me that love is the reason it hurts, and the reason I will keep going.

11/12/2025

This week, we lost our incredible dad and husband of his best friend Jean of 64 years.

A steady, incredibly generous, quietly extraordinary man whose guidance shaped so much of who we all are. It’s hard to find words big enough for a loss like this as its been so sudden but we are so grateful, he did it all on his terms. Our hearts are heavy, but also full of gratitude for the amazing years we have had with him.

The world feels a whole heap emptier today, but the memories of him shine brighter than ever as we share the stories, the laughs (and there are many) and the life lessons, he gave so freely.

Thank you Nigel, Dad for everything you were and everything you gave, we are so proud of you. May your journey be gentle, even though we know there will be whole lot of trouble happening as you catch up with those gone before you.

Dad didnt want a funeral but he loved his happy hour so thats what we did and he would have loved it - music, song, stories and a heap of laughter!