Profusion Coaching

03/09/2025

Tips to Look After Yourself

When people say, “You have to put yourself first,” it doesn’t mean turning your back on your Community, connection, commitments and loved ones.

It doesn’t mean dropping everything, spending all your savings, or making huge radical changes.
It doesn’t mean walking away from the people you love.

✨ Putting yourself first means listening to your inner voice.

I talk about this every day with my clients.

Listening to yourself might sound like this:

“Omg, I just want to go for a walk, I feel so stressed right now.”→ THEN GO.

“Man, I miss my friends.” → THEN REACH OUT TO THEM.

“I just want 30 minutes of peace to clean my house.” → TURN UP YOUR MUSIC AND CLEAN YOUR HOUSE.

Putting yourself first doesn’t have to be a big, dramatic shift.
Sometimes, it’s simply giving yourself 30 minutes to do the thing your heart (or head) is quietly asking for. 💛

25/08/2025

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22/08/2025

Life doesn’t just throw curve balls sometimes—it hurls concrete bowling balls.

This week I’ve watched my clients truly listen, take things on board, and not just talk about change… but live it. And not the kind of change where you find a few coins rolling around under the car seat. I’m talking about massive, life-shifting, heart-opening change.

This is why I do what I do.

I’m not the most “PC” professional in this field—I call things out, I push hard, and yes, I can be brutal at times. But I don’t want my clients with me forever. As much as I miss them when they move on, my job is to help them get to a place where they don’t need me anymore.

And this week, seeing the growth, the breakthroughs, the deep understanding of themselves and the people in their lives… it left a lump in my throat and pride in my eyes.

To my clients—thank you for trusting the process and pushing through.

04/08/2025

🔋 Don’t Wait Until You’re Running on Empty🔋

We often push ourselves until there’s nothing left in the tank… but you don’t have to.

This is your reminder:

💛 Ask for help when you’re halfway drained.
💛 You don’t have to hit “low battery” before reaching out.
💛 Support isn’t weakness—it’s how you recharge.

You deserve to feel supported before you burn out.
Today, give yourself permission to ask for what you need.

💬 **What helps you recharge when life gets heavy?**

24/07/2025

Looking Back, Moving Forward

There’s something special about looking back—not with regret, but with warmth. We don’t need to say “I used to…” as if the best parts are behind us. Instead, we say “I wanted to at the time, and I did.”

Those moments—big or small—shaped us.
The spontaneous road trips.
The risks we took without knowing the outcome.
The times we followed our hearts, even when it didn’t make sense to anyone else.

We carry those memories like treasured pages in a well-read book. They remind us that we were brave, curious, loving, and alive.

So now, as we stand in the present, the question becomes:
What do you want to look back on one day and say, ‘I did that’?

Do you want to remember that you built something from nothing?
That you healed, tried again, loved harder, or chose yourself for once?
That you made someone smile, changed someone’s life, or finally chased that dream?

Your future memories are waiting.
Start creating them today.

Photo is of one of my favorite moments on my old horse Abby

22/07/2025

"They are not just the elderly — they are storytellers, teachers, and time-travelers wrapped in wrinkled skin. One day, we will be them.
Take the time to listen.
To care.
To sit without rushing.
To offer your presence, not just your help.

Every hand you hold has held a lifetime —
of laughter, of grief, of wisdom, of love.

They are not just 'old people.'
They are someone’s first love, someone’s best friend, someone’s parent, someone’s whole world.
They are us — just a few chapters ahead.

We gain more than we give when we slow down long enough to hear their stories.
Names, not numbers. Lives, not labels.
Each one has something to teach us — about patience, about strength, about what truly matters.

You don’t need to do much.
Sometimes, the greatest gift is simply showing up.
Because one day, we will hope someone shows up for us." 💛

16/07/2025

Word on the street is… everything’s negative right now.

Negative convo, negative economy, negative health system, negative schooling, negative world.

Well here’s a little secret for ya:

Yes, you’re right. All of that is happening.
But here’s the thing — when was the last time you went outside, took a deep breath, and actually smiled?

I know, I know…
“But Stacey, it’s hard when X, Y, and bloody Z is going on!”
I hear you, honey. I’m not pretending it’s not hard — it is.

But here’s a gentle nudge:
Have you had a belly laugh with your kids lately?

Gone for a walk to clear your head?
Told someone they’re doing a great job?

Sometimes the shift we need starts with us.
The world’s heavy, yes — but maybe, just maybe,

If we stop talking about how hard and stressful life is all the time… it might not feel quite so hard and stressful.

So today, you be the light.
Say something kind. Speak a little hope.
And watch how it lifts the load — for them and for you 💛

— Profusion Coaching

14/07/2025

🌿 **Feeling a little stuck lately?
Like you're holding it all together on the outside… but inside, you're just trying to make it to the next day?

You’re not alone.
And you don’t have to figure it all out alone either.

At Profusion Coaching, I help everyday people just like you — parents, partners, professionals — who are juggling life, relationships, and expectations. Together, we work through the real stuff: mindset, clarity, confidence, and making real change that sticks.

💬 You don’t need to have it all figured out to start. You just need a safe place to begin.

🧭 Let's get you back to feeling grounded, connected, and in control of your next step — your way.

👇 Comment “READY” or send me a message and let’s chat — no pressure, just support.

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01/07/2025

Rebellion Against Yourself

Let’s talk about that silent war we all fight… with ourselves.

You ever come home ready to *finally* tackle that junk drawer? You’ve got the plan, the energy, the intention — you're hyped.
Then suddenly... you're on the couch, coffee in hand, scrolling.
And there it is: “I’ll do it tomorrow.”
Sound familiar?

This is rebellion — not against the world, but against YOU. Your goals. Your standards. Your progress.
So let’s cut the crap.

🔥 Here's how to stop being rebellious against yourself:

**1. Don’t sit down until it’s done.**
Yep, even if that coffee is calling your name.

**2. 3…2…1… Get the f**k up.**
No negotiating. You want momentum? You *move*.

**3. Give yourself a timed break.**
Set an alarm, let it snooze once, then 3…2…1… GO.

You’ll feel better *after* doing the thing, not before.
You’re not lazy — you’re just letting short-term comfort sabotage long-term satisfaction.

So — what’s one thing you’re doing *today* instead of rebelling against your own goals?

Drop it below 👇
Let’s make a promise to ourselves… then follow through.

30/06/2025

“Stop trying to get your own way.”
“Life’s not about what *you* want.”

Sound familiar? Most of us heard that growing up. We were told that wanting something was selfish, or that speaking up meant we were too much.

But here’s the truth:
**Getting your own way isn’t the problem. Manipulating people to get it is. Big difference.**

🍼 As babies, we cried differently depending on what we needed. That was survival. That was us learning to ask.
But over time, we got told to be quiet, to stop wanting so much, to stop being “needy.” So we did. We shrank.

We stopped asking.
We became people-pleasers.
We dropped hints.
We waited for someone else to *get it.*

But here's what nobody taught us:
**You are allowed to want. And you're allowed to go after it.**

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💥 Want to start getting your own way — the healthy way?

Here’s how:

🔸 **Trust your gut** – You’ve got instincts for a reason. Stop ignoring them just to keep the peace.

🔸 **Figure out what YOU actually want** – Not what you were told to want. Not what everyone else expects. YOU.

🔸 **Say it straight** – No more guilt-tripping or dropping clues. Say what you mean. Ask for what you need.

🔸 **Back yourself** – Don’t wait around hoping someone else will give you permission. Act. Move. Do.

🔸 **Let go of the guilt** – Wanting something for yourself isn’t selfish. Sitting silent and expecting things to change is.

You’ve spent long enough second-guessing yourself.
It’s time to own what you need and get out of your own way.

You're not too much.
You're just not meant to play small.

**Let’s talk.**
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27/06/2025

I’ve learned not to hold people hostage to who they used to be. We all carry versions of ourselves that no longer fit—the mistakes we made, the things we didn’t know, the pain we caused when we didn’t yet understand our own.

I’ve seen how easily someone can be reduced to their worst moment, how quickly a past version becomes the only version others choose to remember. But the truth is, people outgrow their old skin. They stumble, they learn, and if life allows, they try to do better. We all have chapters we wish we could rewrite. That doesn’t mean we haven’t earned the right to start a new one.

I’ve watched friends become softer, more patient. I’ve seen people who once lived in chaos become anchors for others. Growth isn’t always loud or dramatic—it’s often quiet, steady, unglamorous. But it’s real. And when we dismiss someone for who they were, we miss out on who they’ve worked so hard to become.

No one should be permanently defined by a version of themselves they’ve already outgrown. We’re all in motion, figuring things out, trying again. And if we can give that grace to ourselves, we should be willing to offer it to others too.

26/06/2025

Take the Pressure Off

I’m sharing this gem from my friend Maria at Psychology South, who received it from a friend of hers — the gift that keeps giving 💛

It really hit home for me, and I wanted to pass it on in case you needed the same reminder I did… that **balance doesn’t mean doing everything perfectly**.

Take me for example.
I have two jobs (both caring for others), I’m studying, raising three amazing children, we’ve got two dogs, a cat, a home to run, and I’m lucky enough to have an incredible fiancée, beautiful friendships I try to keep alive, and family I love to see.
Oh — and the gym! 😂

My week is full of kids’ activities, work, dishes, school runs, Mt. Washmore (yes, washing folding and putting away is a whole mountain), meals, bedtimes, and somewhere in there, cleaning, study, sport, and the odd deep clean. Studies get a solid 3-hour block once a week — that works for me. Cleaning happens when I get the house to myself, music up, and I get stuck in.

Everything has its place, **but nothing has pressure**.

I’m tired some days. Some days the house gets neglected. Sometimes friendships wait, or study waits, or the gym gets skipped — but this is **balance**, not failure.

When I’m overwhelmed, I go bush. I tramp. I breathe.
I still have downtime — watching series with my kids and partner, a few games of euchre on my phone to switch off.
Not everything is done. Not everything is perfect.
But **my children come first**.
**Connection comes first.**

The rest? It’ll get done when it gets done.

This season won’t last forever — I won’t always be running to sports, music, and girls rally. One day my house might be quiet. So right now, even with the mess and the madness, it’s a privilege.

Whatever season you’re in — take the pressure off.
You're doing better than you think 💛

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