Livia Esterhazy

07/05/2026

Perimenopause and suddenly you’re waking at 3am every night?

Not once in a while.

Almost like your body has set an alarm.

You roll over and check the clock.
3:07am.

Again.

Your body’s exhausted… but your brain has decided it’s time to think about everything.

The to-do list.
Your kids.
Work.
Life.

And the more you try to get back to sleep, the more awake you seem to become.

This is one of the most common things I hear from women in perimenopause.

And no — it’s not random.

Your body is usually waking you for a reason.

Sometimes it’s blood sugar crashing overnight.
Sometimes cortisol is rising too early.
Sometimes it’s a nervous system that’s been stuck in “on” mode for too long.
And sometimes it’s the hormonal shifts of perimenopause changing the depth and quality of your sleep altogether.

Which is why just trying harder to sleep rarely fixes it.

Because this isn’t simply about sleep.

It’s about what’s happening underneath it.

In this week’s blog, I’m unpacking why these 3am wake-ups happen, what your body is actually trying to communicate, what to do in the moment when it happens… and how to start addressing the deeper causes so you can finally sleep through the night again.

Link in bio and comments.

01/05/2026

This is what “high energy” used to look like for me.

Presenting.
Pitching.
Running on adrenaline.

And for a long time, I thought that was energy.

The buzz before going on stage.
The push to perform.
The ability to keep going no matter what.

But here’s what I didn’t see at the time…

I wasn’t creating energy.

I was borrowing it.

And eventually, my body started asking for it back.

That’s when things changed.

The crashes.
The wired-but-tired feeling.
The sense that no matter how much I rested… it didn’t quite land.

Because adrenaline isn’t a strategy.

It’s a short-term solution your body uses when it has to.

This is the shift most women need to make.

From chasing energy…
to stabilising it.

Because stable energy doesn’t rely on pressure, caffeine, or pushing through.

It feels calm.
Consistent.
Reliable.

If this resonates, I’ve broken down exactly how to make that shift — and the 5 stabilisers that actually work — in this week’s blog.

BONUS: Grab my Thrive Energy Pattern Decoder (powered by ChatGPT) and Eat for Energy Guide inside the blog!

👉 Link in bio and in comments

16/04/2026

I realised this properly after sushi.

It should be a “healthy” option, right?

But every time I had it… I was exhausted after. Not just a little dip — proper brain fog, like I needed to lie down.

For a long time, I ignored it. Or pushed through. Or assumed it was just a busy day.

But it wasn’t random.

It was a pattern.

And this is what most women miss — it’s not just about what you’re eating, it’s about how your body is responding to it now.

Foods that used to feel completely fine can suddenly leave you flat, foggy, or reaching for caffeine an hour later.

Not because you’ve lost discipline.

Because your blood sugar isn’t as stable as it used to be.

Once you see that, everything shifts.

You stop guessing. You stop blaming yourself. You start adjusting what actually matters.

Try the experiment in this reel and notice what happens.

Then go and read this week’s blog — I break down exactly what’s going on and how to stabilise your energy properly.

Link in bio 🤩

14/04/2026

You’re not exhausted because you need more sleep.

You’re exhausted because your energy is being drained faster than you can restore it.

That’s the piece most women don’t see.

They go to bed earlier.
Try to eat better.
Push themselves to stay consistent.

And when it doesn’t work…
they assume they’re the problem.

But if your hormones are shifting, your blood sugar isn’t stable, and your nervous system is constantly switched on…

sleep becomes maintenance. Not a solution.

So you can do everything “right”
and still feel like your energy never fully comes back.

If you’ve been stuck in that cycle…

I’ve broken down what’s actually draining your energy — and what to focus on instead — in this week’s blog.

👉 Link in bio

14/04/2026

Learning to fly something that relies on balance…

while thinking about how many women are trying to do the same with their energy.

Holding everything together.
Adjusting. Compensating. Pushing through.

And you can hold it… until you can’t.

Like snapping at your partner over something small.
Or staring at your screen at 3pm, knowing you should be able to focus… but your brain just won’t cooperate.

That’s the moment.

Not because you’re failing.

Because the system holding you up isn’t stable anymore.

Your energy isn’t just one thing.

It’s three:

→ your hormones
→ your nervous system
→ how you’re fuelling your body

And in perimenopause?

All three are under pressure.

Which is why sleeping more doesn’t fix it.
Or eating better.
Or trying to “manage stress.”

You’re trying to stabilise something that’s already wobbling.

If you’ve been doing everything right and still feel off…

I’ve broken down what’s actually happening — and what to do instead — in this week’s blog.

👉 Link in bio and comments

10/04/2026

🌟FOODIE FRIDAY! 🌟

If you find your energy crashing around 3pm most days, it might not be your sleep or your schedule.

It’s often your lunch.

I see this a lot — women are busy, eating on the go, or trying to be “good”… but not actually fuelling their body in a way that supports steady energy.

Too little protein.
Not enough healthy fats.
Meals that give a quick lift… and then a crash a few hours later.

And by mid-afternoon, you’re exhausted.

Not because you’re doing anything wrong.

But because your body doesn’t have what it needs to sustain energy.

So for this Foodie Friday, I’m sharing one of my go-to meals — a simple Steady Energy Bowl.

It’s balanced, nourishing, and designed to support more consistent energy throughout the day, rather than the usual spike and crash cycle.

It’s also easy to pull together, which matters when life is full.

If your energy has been feeling a bit inconsistent lately, this is a really good place to start.

f your energy feels inconsistent or you’re constantly hitting an afternoon slump, what you eat at lunch matters more than you think. This balanced bowl combines protein, healthy fats and fibre to support stable blood sugar and more reliable energy throughout the day — without the spike and crash...

08/04/2026

If you feel like nothing is fixing your exhaustion lately…

you’re not alone.

You’re going to bed earlier.
Trying to take better care of yourself.
Looking for answers.

And yet…

You’re still tired.
Still hitting that wall mid-afternoon.
Still feeling like your energy never quite comes back.

At some point, it stops making sense.

Because you’re doing the things you’ve been told should help.

So the question becomes:

Why isn’t anything working?

What I see time and time again is this.

It’s not that nothing works.

It’s that everything you’re trying is landing on a system that’s already depleted.

So each new thing feels like it should help…

but it doesn’t quite land.

Not because you’re doing anything wrong.

But because something more foundational hasn’t been addressed yet.

I’ve written about this in this week’s blog — why this happens, and what actually needs to shift before your energy starts to come back.

Oh and you'll find out what a three legged stool has to do with perimenopausal exhaustion too!😉

You've tried sleeping more, taking supplements, eating better, managing stress. And you're still exhausted. Here's why: you're trying to fix ONE thing when THREE systems are struggling. Your energy depends on three interconnected systems—hormonal, metabolic, and nervous—and perimenopause destabi...

03/04/2026

It’s Easter and Foodie Friday 🌟🐣

And instead of adding more sugar into the mix, I thought I’d share something a little different.

Because not all chocolate hits your body the same way.

This week I’m making what I call Calm Energy Cacao — a simple ceremonial cacao blend that feels less like a treat and more like support.

Especially when your energy feels low…
but your nervous system still feels wired.

If you know that feeling, this is a really beautiful alternative.

Rich cacao, warming spices, and just a touch of sweetness — blended into something that feels grounding, calming, and quietly energising.

Cacao is actually one of the richest natural sources of magnesium — a mineral your body burns through when stress is high — which is why it can help support a calmer nervous system, more stable energy, and better recovery.

I’ve been using Keith’s Cacao, but you can find ceremonial cacao in most health food stores as well.

It’s a small shift, but one that can make a noticeable difference.

Sometimes supporting your energy isn’t about doing more.

It’s about choosing differently.

If you’d like the recipe, I’ve shared it below - you won't regret it!😍

YUM! Want a change from coffee and less sugar then a hot chocolate? This ceremonial cacao blend supports women in perimenopause and menopause with calm energy, nervous system regulation, and sustained focus. Rich in magnesium and warming spices, it’s designed to nourish your body and help shift yo...

03/04/2026

How did you start the Easter break?

I had a perfect evening on Rabbit Island - yes!” It is called that! - for a Paramotor flight.

Honestly it’s so beautiful to see the world from another perspective. Peaceful, full of colours. I was in awe!

Oh and pushing yourself to learn more!

Happy Easter everyone!

01/04/2026

If you’re sleeping 7–8 hours and still waking up exhausted, it can be incredibly frustrating.

You go to bed earlier.
You try to improve your routine.
You make an effort to rest more.

And yet…

You wake up tired.
You hit a wall mid-afternoon.
Your energy never quite feels like it comes back.

At some point, it stops making sense.

Because this doesn’t feel like the kind of tiredness that sleep alone should fix.

And that’s because it isn’t.

In perimenopause, your energy isn’t just about how much you sleep.

It’s influenced by hormonal shifts, stress levels, blood sugar stability, and whether your body actually has the resources it needs to produce energy.

So you can be doing everything “right”…

And still feel exhausted.

Not because you’re failing.

But because your body is working harder behind the scenes.

This is where many women assume they need more sleep.

But often, what’s really happening is deeper than that.

Your system isn’t just tired.

It’s depleted.

And depletion doesn’t resolve with sleep alone.

It requires a different kind of support.

I’ve unpacked this fully in this week’s blog — including what’s actually driving this kind of fatigue and where to focus if you want your energy to return.

What if more sleep isn’t the answer? Perimenopause fatigue is often misunderstood. It’s not just about how long you’re sleeping — it’s about what your body is dealing with during the day. Hormones, stress, blood sugar and nutrient levels all play a role, which is why exhaustion can persist...

26/03/2026

Have you ever noticed how “self-care” can start to feel like another thing on your to-do list?

“Try meditation.”
“Do yoga.”
“Start journaling.”
“Take more time for yourself.”

All of it sounds helpful.

But when your days are already full — work, family, responsibilities — it can feel like just one more thing you should be doing.

One more thing to feel guilty about when you don’t.

I see this all the time with my clients.

They’ll nod along… and I can almost hear them thinking:

With what time?

And here’s the part that often gets missed.

If your nervous system is already overloaded, adding more — even “good” things — can still increase your stress.

Not because self-care doesn’t work.

But because your system has less margin than it used to.

So instead of asking:

“What else should I be doing to manage stress?”

A better question might be:

“What can I stop doing that’s quietly draining me?”

Because lowering stress isn’t always about adding more.

Sometimes it’s about creating space.

Letting go of what doesn’t actually need to be carried.
Reducing the background noise.
Taking pressure off, not piling it on.

I’ve written more about this in this week’s blog — including practical ways to lower your baseline stress without adding more to your plate.

What if all these well-meaning self care approaches are adding more stress and more guilt? Self care is a vital part of working with your body during perimenopause, but it’s only one side of the coin. You also need to look at how you can reduce your baseline stress to give you and your nervous sys...