08/12/2025
24 years ago when my mate was 15 she lost her beautiful mum to MS, a cruel, degenerative, s**t head of a disease. Years later we both found ourselves living in NZ, me in the North Island and my mate in the South. Having developed a keen interest in the outdoors, my mate started tramping regularly on single and multi day/overnight hikes, and participating in trail races and ultra marathons. I saw a shift in her. The grief and pain of the past was still present but it had less control over her. She had developed a physical and mental power, a determination both quiet and fierce, and an unwavering resilience for the brutal yet life affirming challenges she had set herself out on the trails. It was infectious and I wanted the same buzz.
One day my mate said to me ‘whenever I feel like giving up or like I can’t be bothered, I think of my mum who would have given anything to have gotten up out of her wheelchair.’
This was one of those pivotal moments for me. I too had the privilege and opportunity to explore my own limits, get out in to nature and feed my body and soul with her gnarly, expansive, breathtaking beauty and all she has to offer.
So began my love affair with running and the New Zealand bush. A past time and desire now so deeply embedded in my psyche I find myself frequently daydreaming about the next time I will be immersed in the freedom and flow state of my feet hitting the ground and my muscles burning as I climb. Out there, any problems I face in daily life still exist, but they don’t seem quite so over bearing. I am physically stronger because of it but more importantly, psychologically stronger.
I’m not breaking any records, I’m not particularly fast or even that skilled but I’m intrinsically motivated. I want to, and have to, be there. It’s not a punishment nor a burden, or a way to burn calories, it’s a way to shed stress and nourish my mind.
So this is a shout out to my mate Amy and anyone else who gets their fix out on the trails. Far better than any Pilates studio or gym, a little slice of paradise, you can have for free, whenever you want.