Manaia Midwives

15/05/2022

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🗣 ATTENTION SOUTH WAIRARAPA HAPU MĀMĀ AND WHANAU 🗣

P.O.P.S is coming to you!
We are a consumer lead Antenatal group and happy to answer any questions you may have.

This Thursday May 19th Greytown Plunket rooms

12 McMaster Street Greytown

From 10 – 12pm.

These ante- natal sessions will be facilitated by LMC Sam Kahukura and supported Kaiawhina Dushka Graham.
Then 11am Guest speakers as follows...

May 19th – Luana and Phoebe – Wairarapa Stop Smoking Service

June 2nd – Holly Hullena – Car Seat Safety

June 16 – Julie Foley - Breastfeeding Wairarapa

June 30th – Tina Brady – Immunisation

July 7th – Family Start Team – Whaiora

July 28th – Oral Health (TBC)

August 11 – Edith Rolls – Yellow Brick Rd

August 25th – Hakari – all invited

Gifts on registration 🎁
Contact Dushka on 027 2862500 for more information and transportation.
All whanau welcome 🙏

12/05/2022

❤❤ Wise words here for the parents going from 1 baby to 2 x

Back to square 1, but with 2.

You have more experience this time, but there’s still a newness as you adjust to life as a fresh family of 4.

And honestly speaking, there are some crucial differences within this transition.

Cooking standards stoop even lower than you thought possible, remembering frozen meals only last so long.

There’s no sleep when the baby sleeps, unless both littles sleep at the same time. This appears to be a rarity.

There’s less time to sit and gaze at the newborn, or play with the toddler, unless one of them is napping and the other plays ball for a while allowing it.

There’s more guilt as you’re spread thinner than before. While spending time feeding the newborn, you feel like you’re failing in your duties to the eldest. While reading to the toddler, you feel like you’re neglecting crucial bonding responsibilities to your newborn.

There’s more surviving as you do more with the same number of hands you’ve always had. The rods are welcomed and the cares for the “shoulds” are left standing outside in the cold, blatantly ignored as they continue to knock on the door.

There’s no wiggle room for any “I” in team. There shouldn’t be, no matter how many children you have together, but you realise this the more you have. After work, they tag in with both littles while you tag out for something as little (but big) as a shower. They then tend to one, while you tend to the other. This carries on into the dark hours, but no one tends to your relationship.

Finding time for yourself is even harder. It takes real discipline that you rarely have the energy for. And too often after the fact, or meltdown, or moment of madness, you realise you should’ve followed your own rules. You should’ve had the coffee instead of vacuuming after all.

But honestly you do get through the days and nights, the guilt, the exhaustion, the tagging in and out, the constant selflessness, because of them, because of everything they are to you, because of everything you are to them.

And in all honesty, there’s a reason you decide to have more children,
And that reason isn’t because it’s not hard, but because it’s worth it,
Honestly.

✍🏻My “Dear Motherhood” 📖 in bio
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Words of Emma Heaphy

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09/05/2022

This week at P.O.P.S

NEW LOCATION
This Wednesday 11th May 2022
Find us at Hau Kainga across the road from the bowling alley!

10am - 11am Antenatal with Maori LMC Samantha Kahukura
11am - 11.30 Guest Speaker Julie Foley Breastfeeding Wairarapa
11.30am - 12pm Light Lunch
12pm - 1pm Post natal with Dany Babies brain development

We would like to welcome all our māmā old and new so if you are around feel free to pop in and see us 🤍

If you would like to join for lunch please let me know xx
Gifts on registration 🤍
Rides available 🤍
Contact Dushka on 027 2862500

Ngā mihi ###

06/05/2022

*Shared with consent*

International Midwives Day could not have ended on a better note last night.

A beautiful, planned, home breech birth - absolute career highlight 😍😍🥰🥰🥰

In the company of these amazing sister midwives, we held space for this amazing wahine toa to bring her baby into this world, at home, surrounded by so much love and support.

Trusting physiology and that the mama-baby diad will know what to do.

Couldn't think of anything better than supporting woman's choice and holding a safe space for informed consent and decision making 👌🏼

Also This mama's first baby was born on NY of the year of the midwife 😅 Her baby's know how to make an entrance x

18/03/2022

Always this! ❤️

True informed consent comes from hearing and understanding all of the information (including risks and benefits). It includes time to ask questions and to think about your decision- with zero coercion.

15/03/2022

Vitamin K…what to watch for if you decline :)

What information should we offer when parents decide to decline vitamin K?

Most parents choose to give vitamin K but some decide to decline this intervention.

Sometimes these parents are given a hard time.

What they are not always given is helpful information.

Information about what they should look for in case their baby is the one in several thousand who experiences the unexpected bleeding that has come to be called ‘vitamin K deficiency bleeding’ or VKDB.

So here's a list of the key things that we might want to suggest that parents look out for in babies who have not received vitamin K.

This is for information / discussion purposes only, of course, and isn't intended to constitute or replace individualised midwifery or medical advice.

Any parent who is concerned about their baby should seek appropriate advice from an educated, registered health care professional.

There is lots more about this and related issues in my book, Vitamin K and the Newborn.

The book also goes through the evidence and is designed to help parents make the decision that is right for them, as well as to help care providers and birth workers better understand the evidence and the issues.

If you are considering your options about vitamin K, I hope you'll find it useful.

You can get info about my book and see all our vitamin K resources at www.sarawickham.com/vk

23/02/2022

This is one of my absolute favourites, and I have been using this technique a lot lately antenatally for women experiencing lower back ache and sciatica, headaches, just feeling heavy & uncomfortable. Each time the woman has commented how relaxed and how much better they felt
afterwards.
This pose can also be done whilst the mama is standing, so you can adapt it depending on what feels more comfortable. It’s also amazing that once you both relax into this pose what you feel under your hands…. Muscle twitches, pulsing, a magnetic pull… check it out, it’s amazing!

The Abdominal Release (or Diaphragmatic Release) is a technique that helps the broad ligament relax giving baby more room to get into position for labor.

10/02/2022

I’m re-sharing this post after working with a mama this week who’s baby had been really struggling with wind. The mama tells me the last few days have been much better with using this simple technique, which is great to hear. Xx

Have you heard of this? There may be no need to spend ages back patting, try this position to help naturally.
There's a lot more to anatomy and wind than just this of course, but it certainly can't do any harm to try!

The amazing Shel Banks IBCLC Lactation Consultant and Feed Sleep Bond are to thank for this golden nugget of info. If you don't follow them, go go go!

04/02/2022

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Your pregnancy loss matters even if:

• You never told anyone you were pregnant
• It happened a long time ago
• You feel fine now
• You have other children
• You didn't know you were pregnant
• You didn't hear a heartbeat
• It happens to a lot of women
• You've had multiple losses
• It was your first loss
• You hadn't been trying long
• You've gone on to have healthy pregnancies
• You were told it wasn't a big deal
• You weren't trying to conceive
• You weren't as emotional as you thought you would be
• You have a lot of other things to be grateful for
• You have "plenty of time"
• You or someone else believes everything happens for a reason
• You still haven't processed your grief
• You never got to see it on an ultrasound
• It was confirmed to be genetically abnormal
• You didn't know the gender
• And so on…

Credit: infertilemillennial 🤍