The Safe Kids Project

Home
New Zealand
Napier
The Safe Kids Project

Contact information, map and directions, contact form, opening hours, services, ratings, photos, videos and announcements from The Safe Kids Project, Psychologist, 1 Alpers Terrace, Napier.

15/01/2026

You’re the mum who knows body autonomy matters.

But when it’s your mother-in-law, your aunt, or a family friend standing in front of you,
your child says no,
your chest tightens,
and the words disappear.

Later, you replay it.
“I should have stepped in.”
“Why is this still so hard?”

Here’s the truth no one tells you:
This isn’t about confidence.
It’s about conditioning.

Most of us learned early that keeping the peace kept us safe.

Those patterns didn’t vanish when we became parents,
they show up in the exact moments our children need us most.

And yet… this can change.

Imagine stepping in calmly.
Not freezing.
Not over-explaining.
Not feeling like the “difficult” mum.

Just clear, grounded advocacy that teaches your child:
“My no matters. My body matters.”

I’m running my FREE live workshop again for mothers who want to advocate for their child in real time, without panic, guilt, or people-pleasing.

🗓 27th January
⏰ 7:30pm NZDT

Comment ✨ LEARN ✨ and I’ll send you the details

14/01/2026

A loving, well-meaning family member once asked me why I let my children choose how they greet people.

They were curious and genuinely wanted to understand, but I realised in that moment that I hadn’t really thought about my why. I relied on my psychology background to justify it, but it wasn’t enough.

After that conversation, I went away and really reflected:

Why am I doing this? Why is it so important to me? Once I clarified my why, everything changed. I felt confident in my choice. I could explain it clearly, calmly, and without over-explaining or trying to make another adult happy.

Knowing my why gave me calm, clarity, and confidence and it made advocating for my children so much easier.

If you want to feel this confident when setting boundaries for your child, without freezing, overexplaining, or worrying about judgment, comment the word ✨ LEARN ✨ and I’ll send you all the details for my free boundary workshop.

13/01/2026

I grew up without body autonomy education.

I hugged well-meaning grandparents because it was “polite,” even when my body felt unsure or uncomfortable. No one meant harm, but I learned early to override my own signals to keep others comfortable.

That lesson doesn’t disappear when we grow up.

Even now, there are moments in social situations where my body says no, but my conditioning says be nice, don’t make it awkward, just do it. That tension lives in the body long after childhood.

This is why I choose to parent differently.

Changing generational patterns isn’t easy. It asks you to pause, reflect, and sometimes stand alone, especially when others don’t understand your choices. But every time you honour your child’s boundaries, you strengthen their sense of safety.

You teach them that their body belongs to them, that their feelings matter, and that love doesn’t require discomfort.

It takes courage to raise children this way.

It takes a mother willing to sit with the discomfort so her child doesn’t have to.

If you want to feel calm and confident advocating for your child, without over-explaining or second-guessing yourself, comment the word ✨ LEARN ✨ I’ll send you the details for my free boundary workshop, where we clarify your why and build the confidence to break these cycles for good.

12/01/2026

My children sometimes cross each other’s personal boundaries, push into each other’s space, or argue in ways that make me want to react immediately.

Frustration bubbles up. My first instinct is often to raise my voice or step in too strongly.

But when I have the capacity to pause, I remind myself: this is a teaching moment.

I slow down, notice what each child is feeling, and help them see it too. I guide them to recognise the other’s emotions, set their own boundary, and respond respectfully. In that moment, they learn: your feelings matter, your boundaries matter, and I will advocate for you.

It doesn’t just calm the conflict, it teaches them lifelong skills in self-awareness, empathy, and respect for each other.

Parenting siblings can feel messy and uncomfortable, but each moment is an opportunity to teach, advocate, and empower.

If you want practical ways to do this confidently with your children, comment the word ✨ LEARN ✨and I’ll send you all the details to my free boundary workshop.

09/01/2026

Social media makes it all look easy, running a business, parenting, having it together.

But the truth? I’m living this with you. Showing up every day, doing my best, juggling, questioning, and figuring it out as I go.

You’re not alone in this.

07/01/2026

I remember a playdate where the energy slowly shifted.
What started as fun and laughter became louder, rougher… and I could see my daughter’s body change.

She moved away. Her face tightened. Her play stopped feeling safe.

I waited for the other parent to step in.
They didn’t.

And in that moment, I felt it, the discomfort, the awkwardness, the hesitation. Part of me wanted to say, “Can you see my child’s discomfort from your child’s behaviour?”

I felt frustrated that it wasn’t being recognised as a moment to pause and intervene.

But it was also a powerful reminder: my child’s safety is always my responsibility, not someone else’s.

So I stepped in.

Not to tell another child off.

Not to create tension.

But to turn the moment into a teaching one for both children.

I named what my daughter was communicating through her body and face. I showed her that her boundary mattered and that I would always advocate for her. And I gently guided the other child to notice emotions, pause their behaviour, and respond with respect.

That moment taught my child something: my voice matters, and my parent will support me.

And it taught the other child something just as important: boundaries are communicated in many ways and they deserve to be respected.

If setting boundaries for your child around others feels uncomfortable or awkward, you’re not doing it wrong. You’re doing something brave.

If you want to learn how to do this calmly and confidently, comment the word ✨ LEARN ✨ and I’ll send you all the details to my free boundary workshop.

06/01/2026

A year that required courage, boundaries, and trust in the long game.

Grateful for the growth that happened both publicly and quietly.

Thank you for being here.

30/12/2025

This year, I’m not adding more to my parenting, I’m weaving safety into what we already do.

For years, parents have been told that teaching body safety means big, scary talks.

But real protection happens in the small, everyday moments.

In play.
In story time.
In role-playing.
In reading books together.
In pulling out body safety affirmation cards at the breakfast table.

This is how body safety becomes normal, not frightening.

This is how children learn language, boundaries, and confidence, pressure or fear.

If your New Year’s resolution is to reduce the risk of sexual harm, start here.

Not with perfection.
Not with one “serious” conversation.
But with what you’re already doing every day.

Start today: choose one moment, play, reading, or routine and gently weave body safety into it.
Small moments. Powerful protection.

Address

1 Alpers Terrace
Napier
4110

Telephone

+64273319027

Website

https://thesafekidsproject.com/

Alerts

Be the first to know and let us send you an email when The Safe Kids Project posts news and promotions. Your email address will not be used for any other purpose, and you can unsubscribe at any time.

Contact The Practice

Send a message to The Safe Kids Project:

Shortcuts

Want your practice to be the top-listed Clinic in Napier?