24/06/2022
🌺 Support for mothers🌺
One of the ways I have been and want to continue to be of service through the use of flower essences - is in providing much needed healing and support for mothers…especially mothers in the postpartum period. As it was only by becoming a mother myself that I learnt the painful reality of how unseen, unsupported and under valued mothers (and the work they do) actually are. Both in this current day and age, and in our relatively recent past…and how hard this role is within this current structure of society.
There is an epidemic of perinatal mood disorder around the world. One major contributing factor that has been written about, is the deep seated grief a woman experiences (either consciously or unconsciously) upon experiencing the painful lack of community support once she becomes a mother. Motherhood was never meant to be done in isolation - without the immediate support of the extended family and community. She was never meant to do this, essentially alone. Cut off from the ready help of the sisterhood - the grandmothers, the aunties, cousins and friends.
It is my understanding that every one of us has a rich cultural inheritance of community that makes our current community structure look horrific. We did not always live in separate houses displaced from the ready help of extended family and community - which we accept is ‘normal’ today. For the majority of us this culture of community has been basically annihilated.
It is known that traditionally - postpartum care for mothers around the world included: 20 - 60 days of REST, the newly birthed mother was mothered and cared for and given warm foods from warm, accepting and understanding hearts. The weight of parenthood was shared among extended family and community. This not only benefited the mothers wellbeing - but also contributed to the overall health and wellbeing of their children.
The health of our community and all of humanity is fundamentally dependent on and starts with the health of the mother - and the mother is absolutely dependent on her community for her physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. If we truly care about the wellbeing of children and society then we need to at least consider that postpartum care is not a luxury - it is a necessity. Many experts agree this dysfunction and lack of community is one of the fundamental root causes of postpartum mood disorders. Feeling depressed and anxious is a normal response to a dysfunctional world in which a mothers most basic of survival needs are not being met.
So can flower essences help? Yes they can. Although these fundamental issues cannot be changed overnight, there are a few special First Light® flower essences that are especially beneficial at supporting the mothering role that I always put in a blend for a mum who is struggling.
This blend provides assists a mother to find her own healing oasis within, her internal balance, equilibrium and tranquility during what can be an extremely stressful time.
It specifically addresses pain, anger, stress, anxiety, worry, fear, despondency and depression related to the experience of being a mother and being a ‘good mother’. Supporting her to feel Joy in the experience of being a mother and nurturer.
It supports self care, emotional balance and resilience, helps a mother honor her own feelings and emotional needs, and feel supported and confident in her mothering abilities. It provides the matrix that invites a woman to be in touch with her feminine power and supports her soul through the rite of passage of pregnancy, birth and birth of herself as mother.
It is very helpful for mothers who are feeling isolated and lonely, and those who feel they don't fit into the traditional role of the ‘mother’...It also supports the integration of the experience of giving birth and the profoundly life changing experience of becoming a mother - so the new mother can embrace this change.
If you would like a bottle of this First Light® flower essence, please send me a message with the date of birth (and time if known) and any other relevant information around the circumstances or issues you are experiencing. I will then add the additional specific essences to the blend based on this information to be custom made for you.
One months supply (one bottle) is $25. Or $30 including postage.
Mothers need to be mothered too. Mothers need to be seen and heard, helped and held too.
Earthmedicine - Transformational Healing
First Light Flower Essences of New Zealand
